What I saw was how two men lived their lives together. Life is very simple, sharing each other's joys, sorrows, and joys. I suddenly realized how important space is. Do I have my own space? Yes, I always have a feeling of being stuck here, as if I have to suffer here, and that's where I've always wanted to go. Isn't this the life you've always wanted, you might ask? But I also feel that the teacher here is too strong, she wants to entangle you like a vine tree, and this feeling is very terrifying.
Charlie and Alan, both are middle-aged men, what will happen at this stage? Charlie looks very happy, because he has everything, a happy family, a lovely and lively daughter, high income, high technology, high quality of life, but why does he still have to see a psychiatrist, he is in pain, Life suddenly lost its meaning to him, he couldn't even decide when he went out, and he seemed to have to report to an adult wherever he went. Did he really have no freedom at all?
Allen was black-headed and sloppy. For him, life was already dark. As for what this world was, it didn't matter. He was just wandering the world with a sadness that was so heavy that it could crush him. The sadness left him with a trace of nostalgia. The once beautiful life in heaven was ruined in an instant. On 9.11, his wife and three daughters left. They still have so many things to do together, never see again, never have a chance , without even saying goodbye.
The most painful thing in the world is not sadness, but the defeat of sadness, the abandonment of self, self-destruction, and complete isolation of the world. It is not that the world is bad, but that the world was once too good to touch the slightest, because Every touch is the collapse of their own world, how many people can withstand the collapse again and again, when the collapse reaches a certain level, life is better than death, it is better to let others destroy themselves. When Allen finally couldn't bear the torment in his heart, he took a pistol without bullets to the street to make trouble, just to let the police send him on the road, so that he would not have to sink into this hell where he can't see his future.
Who is more pitiful?
In the eyes of outsiders, Alan, who is in great need of help, is more worried about Charlie. At least Alan still has freedom. He can do whatever he wants, even though he has nothing. Squeezed him, how long has it been since he really laughed?
I see a world of men, why do they need space, because they need to face and support a lot of things, life requires them to be equal, they have to maintain a peaceful heart, so that they can take care of more, they can't even There are too many personal emotions because there are too many things in the world for them to deal with. Wife, children, parents, company, friends and this society, a man's heart is the ocean, you can't hold him and keep him from converging with yourself, he knows that he can handle anything, as long as you trust him.
He doesn't need too many arrangements, and he doesn't need too many orders. I leave everything to him. Even if he doesn't do well enough, please let him do it. He will build a palace for you to see. And you may only be a lounge in this palace, but it is enough. When he is tired, he will naturally return to the lounge. Only in the lounge is he the most relaxed and warmest place.
What else do I see? I saw the subtlety of the relationship between the sexes. The wife wants to integrate into the husband's life, but the husband does not want to be such a person. He wants to have his own independent space. You can be as presumptuous as a child, and this space must have no wife, this space must be another world, and there is no overlap with the living space.
What else do I see?
Charlie's parents are grumbling parents, mother rambles, she's like a horny woman who wants to be dissatisfied, she needs love, but his husband can't give her because he feels trapped in this garbage and filth. In the cage of the city, he wanted to leave, but he was attached to his son. He was seriously ill, which made him even more dissatisfied. Charlie who grew up in such a family is always in a state of emergency, it seems that anyone in this world can bully him.
My thoughts are a bit chaotic, I want to fight a bloody path in the chaos, but I find that it is being diffused instead, so why bother? Just let it mess up like this, pour out all these messes, and then we will sort out a little bit, won't we? So what do I want to say now?
I think of helping others to help themselves. Everyone is equal and connected to each other. His appearance and his departure are not for no reason. They must be to let you know something that you have neglected for a long time. You can also It is said that I came to give you a gift, but whether you can see this gift varies from person to person. Some people find it early, and some people always turn a blind eye. What should I do? There will always be some people who just can't see it, it's just unbalanced, it's just uncomfortable, why are we like this and you are like that~!
What else? I can't remember for a while.
What makes me feel good about this movie is that it is very close to life. It does not make the movie so beautiful, like weaving a fairy tale to give people some hope, but to truly show the most beautiful relationship between people. The real side, how they face and deal with their anger, anxiety, tension and depression, and various results are displayed in front of them, telling you that life is up to you, and what you want will lead to what results are ahead. wait for you.
Allen questioned Charlie in the bar: Why did you come to him? Why bother him? Why appear in front of him? Why does he have to face things he doesn't want to face? Why come to rescue him? Charlie said I want to save you! Why do you think others need help? Or do you actually need to be rescued! You're tired of your day-to-day lifelessness, you want to get rid of it, but you need a reason, and in Charlie's mind he's been waiting for this reason, a reason to convince himself, a reason to get out of it Dilemma, he also knows that this predicament is not because of family ties, but because he is unwilling to cause family conflicts, and he is unwilling to have a positive conflict with his wife, because he is afraid that this will hurt each other and damage the family's feelings. , he hopes to give the family an image of a good husband.
Fortunately, Charlie has a wise and virtuous wife. She understands her husband very well. For his situation, she can only see it in her eyes, bear it in her heart, and wait for her husband to open his heart to her one day. Give him the freedom to do what he wants to do. Because she knew that the tighter the grip, the further away her husband would be from her.
When Charlie helped Allen face his own trauma, he was also facing his own plight. When Allen faced reality, he told Charlie his thoughts and regrets for his wife and daughter, awakening Charlie's deep-seated share in his heart. The love for his wife and daughter, this love has never disappeared, but was overwhelmed by cares, anger, dissatisfaction, worry, and fear. When this love bloomed, Charlie also untied the knot in his heart for his wife for a long time and became honest. Tell the other party what you want, whether you accept it or not, I just want you to know.
This is a movie that makes people smile. People are like this. You toss me, I toss you, and life goes by like this. When you help others, other people are actually there. Help you, because he gave you the opportunity to help, and gave you the opportunity to re-understand yourself. It's not the problem here, but whether I can be responsible for myself, arrange my life well, and don't always attribute my dissatisfaction to others. No one should be responsible for you, except yourself. Put away your worthless self-pity, and put away your stinking temper. Thousands of knots don't know how to start, then start from where they can be untied. Untie, combine and tie knots at the same time. Things, you are generating new knots while untying the past knots, just hope to improve the speed and skill of untying knots and tie fewer knots.
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