Two old people, supporting each other and enjoying ten thousand years in peace, is a beautiful life and deep love.
"There is no dutiful son in front of the bed for a long time"
When an old man falls ill, another old man is no longer facing a normal life. It is unrealistic to let working children take care of them, and it is unreliable for nurses to take care of them. Only oneself can take care of them. Of course, the process of caring is more helpless and desperate than what is depicted in the movie. You have only watched the footage of the movie once, but in life, these same abnormal behaviors are being treated by an old man who should be normal day after day. Repeated year after year. If you have personally experienced taking care of a patient who cannot take care of himself for a long time, you will feel that you have changed, become inexplicably irritable, unwilling to go home, or even fall into depression.
Have you found out that after the elderly fell ill, there was no sunlight in the home, and the lights were turned off immediately after the visitor left. This family is gloomy, and people's hearts are desperate.
The patient is not only suffering physically, but also mentally frustrated. The patient has no dignity, no dignity as a free person, and no quality of life. Facing others, the whole family has only shame without dignity, and the relative love between the two has never deteriorated but changed its taste.
Luckily, this family has a good economic foundation. They don’t have to worry about food or clothing, and they can afford a care worker. Even such a normal person can’t stand such a life, let alone other families with poor economic conditions? Fortunately, this grandfather has not yet suffered from a serious illness. In fact, taking care of the patient for such a long time is not only hard, but more importantly, he does not get enough and normal rest at night, and he is often disturbed by the patient, which not only leads to emotional distress. Depressed spirit, the body will be boiled empty sooner or later.
Regarding the deep love, of course, he and her were in deep love directly. At first, there was no disease, and they lived peacefully and comfortably. Later, when there was disease, they spoke bluntly with no regrets. In the end, she was seriously ill, and he was willing to work hard and devote himself wholeheartedly. But in the end, he had more than enough energy but not enough strength, which made him slowly decide to leave this world with her one after another, because of love, he didn't want her to live without dignity like this and endure pain in pain; because of love, he didn't want her to receive good care in the future; Because of love, he understands that what she really wants is not to live but to live; because of love, he does not want to live without her who he loves.
In fact, many movies have discussed such issues—disease and love. The stories of these films have many similarities in common. It can be seen that this is never a special case in life, but a real and vivid social problem, and it is the reality that we will eventually face.
"I Love You" begins with her mentally ill life, and ends with him locking the doors and windows, turning on the gas, and leaving with the person he loves.
He loves her and will always stand by and accompany her when she is sick and troubled; when she runs away from home, he runs around the neighborhood, and when he sees him, she cried and called "husband husband", her aged body was carrying her on her back, and she was hoarse and hoarse. The voice comforted her, "don't be afraid, let's go home"; what she wanted to eat, he was willing to give everything for her to satisfy her.
I have only watched the film once, and she tortured him thousands of times because of her illness, and he was worried about every day and every year.
When she was ill, she was seen as dignified by others and had no quality of life for her.
"The Notebook" begins with her Alzheimer's, his condition worsens, and he ends up lying on her bed, holding her hand, and leaving together the same night.
That summer, dry wood and fire, going round and round, met again. His whole life was waiting for her to be able to find her again. The love of his life made them dare not forget it, but she still forgot. He told her the story between them, and only wished she would do a dance with her for a few minutes when she suddenly remembered.
The story in the film was told only once, he told it thousands of times, and the process of "acquaintance, acquaintance and love" with her who was a stranger was thousands of times, and he waited for the minutes and thousands of minutes when she was awake.
She lacks love and lacks light in her life without memory.
"Love" begins with her being paralyzed by a stroke, and he kills her with a pillow and then ends with her.
They should have lived a rich and happy life and supported each other, but the sudden attack of illness did not make him and her lose hope of life.
The trivial matter of caring for patients in the film is only repeated once, and he does it countless times every day and every year.
When she was seriously ill, her body was in pain and her mind was numb.
The choice of the grandfather in the film is unexpected and reasonable.
Living in such a high-pressure living environment every day, no one can still be healthy and normal; in the face of two people who have no quality of life to live, they are actually waiting to die; the patient cannot recover, and his health will become worse and better in the future. Take care of her and face reality.
So why not choose death? Why resist death?
Surprisingly found that death can really solve all the above problems. In fact, it can be solved by one person's death, but because of love, they choose to face death together. It seems that the decision of one person is actually the wish of two people.
Of course, you shouldn't choose the comfort of personal death at your age when you should be struggling. There is no reason for the real life to end so quickly before it has begun; you have no right to choose your own death when you are shouldering the heavy burden of social responsibilities and family. At this time, your own death is To make the life of the loved one worse, is to shirk the responsibility at will; when the temples are gray, you can taste the delicious food while your teeth are still good, and go to the distance to see the scenery while your legs can move. If the family is lucky, enjoy the happiness of family Or just basking in the sun and chatting with your neighbors, what an enviable life!
So don't give up easily. Don't try to die easily. Death is at the best moment. But don't contradict this normal life, face death and laugh at life.
Originally, I just wrote a review and comment after finishing the star. I didn’t control the writing, and then I turned to the movie review. The purpose of writing is to express my feelings. You have seen it, I only have full gratitude and desire to be unhappy and hopeful to communicate with each other.
Personally, I am very interested in this type of film.
My grandmother was mentally ill. She was seven or eight years old. She was ignorant when she was young, and she suddenly became like this when she was in elementary school. Now I vaguely remember the scene where I was playing with her on the bed, but I couldn’t play with her, and I cried and laughed. I still remember one time when she didn’t give her change after buying food, she ran back to ask for change, but I was late to pick me up after school. The scene where a person is standing there waiting for her, and then it all suddenly shatters like a dream. She is like a different person. I am afraid of such a grandma. I no longer approach her or even dare to talk to her. I even often dislike why my grandma is like this.
Later, when I entered junior high school, I felt that my schoolwork became heavier. I began to accept such a grandma, and I was able to get along with her happily. My junior high school life was very happy. But behind the happiness is the pain of my grandfather. I only realize now that I was not sensible at the time. I could not take care of others. I would only accompany my grandma when she was awake. Grandpa closed my door and took it silently. But I have been protected by my grandfather, and I am still often distressed. My grandma wants to turn on the gas, boil water for topping, put her hand in the pot, go to the kitchen to get a knife, use a water glass to smash the TV, throw out the fried vegetables, deliberately urinate everywhere, Putting shoes in a fish tank, jumping off a building with a stool, climbing a window sill, digging into a car...and the often noisy behavior of changing regularly (repeating the same sequence of actions without logic and reason for two to three hours without interruption until tired. fall while walking). I accepted her like this, but felt that the normal grandfather cared about me cumbersomely.
In high school, the first year of high school, I should have been more sensible. Grandpa's health is getting worse and worse, and he has lost weight. He has worked too hard. During the day, he has to cook for me and walk with my grandma, and sometimes he has to make trouble at night. I take his kindness to me as a duty, and I take her troubles as a habit.
Grandpa's only bad thing is stubbornness. He is not in good health but is reluctant to go to the hospital for examination, because he is really weak and can't afford it, because he was used to being a soldier since he was a child, so he used his own will to resist, because he I'm afraid that I can't take care of my grandma and me; he still doesn't want to hire a nanny. He feels that it's a waste of money and can't take care of us. It's still hard to give sincerity, especially when money is mixed in). In our opinion he is dull because he is in love with us and he wants to nourish us with all his energy. I remember grinding my teeth when I was a child. My grandfather was afraid that the molar stick would hurt his teeth and let me bite his back. When I was a child, there was no good meat on his back.
My mother even thought that my grandma would delay my studies if I did not ask for a nanny to take care of my grandfather, so I went back to live with her (as long as I lived with my grandfather and grandfather) to force my grandfather to agree to hire a nanny, now I think we are healthy but indifferent, and my grandfather is seriously ill and dedicated.
To be honest, in the days of taking care of her and him, I was very impatient. I felt that I couldn't do my homework at home, which delayed my normal life. I was called as soon as I sat down. But isn't normal life just witnessing the birth, old age, sickness and death of those around you in the process of your own birth, old age, sickness and death? I may even have evil thoughts, if letting the seriously ill die as soon as possible will reduce the pain of the patient and the burden of those around me? Why can't people who want to choose euthanasia (there is a special institution for euthanasia in Switzerland)?
Later, my grandfather was found to have tuberculosis and was directly hospitalized. In a far place, I was in school on the day I was hospitalized, and I never went to see him. My mother refused to let me go because I was afraid of being infected. In fact, it was because I was so indifferent and disobedient to my grandfather that I didn't even take the initiative to make a phone call to my grandfather.
Later, I hired a nanny, and it really didn't feel like a family.
In the end, after my grandfather was hospitalized for a few months, he felt better and came back with a fuss. He went home without being hospitalized. (You will find that many elderly people are reluctant to be hospitalized and would rather leave home) He came back, the contagion is still there, I never approached him, I never touched him, I never spoke to him well, there was no smile, I didn't take care of him He, I don't know how to face him, I'm afraid, I...
During the three days he stayed at home, his condition deteriorated sharply, he couldn't eat every day, and his whole body was skin and bones. He mentioned being hospitalized again, and he said that he would fight again. I saw him when he was going to the toilet by himself, but I didn't help him. I watched him, I watched him fall, and he was unconscious. He was sent to the hospital that night, and he was rescued. He stayed in the ICU the next day. Died in the early morning of 2021.11.1 on the third day.
I regret not taking good care of him in those last days. Because he was so selfless, as a party member last winter, he served the anti-epidemic work at the gate of the community. As a helpful person, he was eager to help everyone in the neighborhood. As a member of the family, he devoted himself to draining himself. . I can understand when I say that they "leave together" in these films. This is hope in despair, light in darkness, and a near-decent ending for two people. But my grandfather, he was so stupid, he chose to have no regrets and no regrets for the rest of his life until his last strength was taken away.
Grandpa's cell phone was sent back. I was the first to get it. I unlocked it and opened it. It was a photo that was opened—a photo of grandpa and grandma on their golden wedding anniversary on May 1, 2021. Here's what he saw in his last moments...
I regret my selfish nature. I only care about my personal life, and I don't want to be invaded by others, but what's the point of such a life.
At my grandfather's funeral, I didn't cry, I just shed tears when I couldn't help it. I always thought that this kind of real emotion should be slowly licked and felt when I was alone. Later, the fast-paced life became orderly, but the insufficiency of the nanny made me feel irritable every time I went home, and I often recalled my grandfather.
Since then, I seem to have become sensible. I understand that "when I was a child, they took care of me, when I grew up, I took care of them, but now I can only take care of her alone", I sincerely take care of my grandma, and I gradually grasp her disease. Regularly, I play with her and make trouble with her. She also said that she likes me. When I'm not in school, I bask in the sun with her during the day, watch TV with her, make trouble with her, and sleep with her at night.
My classmates said that I like to stay at home, mainly because my grandmother is inseparable from people, and I can be at ease with me and her; the shop owner said that I am at home, and when I buy food every day, I think it is work and cook by myself; some people say that I am filial, In fact, filial piety is repented from the past of unfilial piety.
Life is still going on, struggle is still on the way, I don't know why I wrote it here. I hope I live up to my expectations and balance the responsibilities of family and reality. I also hope that you can gain something here. I hope my real experience and feelings can arouse your attention and thinking. I hope we in the world will have less regrets. More practice, less hesitation and more firmness, less selfishness and more dedication, brave and true love.
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