Perhaps the so-called love here probably refers to the infinite magnification of the interests of novels through the ages.
Love, according to Sternberg's triad of love, passion, intimacy and commitment, the three constitute complete love.
Passion refers to the powerful irrational force under the action of hormones such as sexual desire to conquer possessiveness;
intimacy refers to the spirituality of the communication and interaction between the two parties;
commitment refers to the security of responsibility and psychological contract.
No love (non-love): none of the three, infatuation between ordinary friends of the opposite sex
(infatuation): only passion, such as love at first sight, crush, etc.
Like (Liking): only intimacy, chat with each other and share feelings and secrets, close friends of the opposite sex
empty love (empty love): only commitment, such as marriage by parental order
Companionate love (companionate love): intimacy & commitment , Couples who have lost their passion and still accompany them to old age, Platonic love
romantic love (romantic love): intimacy & passion, a relationship that is unwilling to give or unable to conclude a marriage, is also the most charming and memorable love.
Fatuous love: Passion & commitment, e.g.
consummate love: all three
Most of the novels and movies talk about love, the kind of vigorous romantic love, which refers to the romantic love that combines passion and intimacy. However, this kind of love is difficult to maintain, because the element of commitment is added. After the two parties get married, the passion disappears and the intimacy deepens. Losing passion, men go outside the family to rediscover so-called love, while women put their energy on their children. Human beings, rational people in the economic sense are always just assumptions, and their essence is still animals. The power of passion is enough to destroy everything. Therefore, the myth of "complete love", in real life, unless you can play the game of chasing and possessing forever, it is difficult to guarantee passion.
The "love" of this film is more inclined to the companionship of intimacy and commitment.
If complete love is a kind of myth, romantic love is the most fascinating, then companion love, especially the companion love between old couples who once degenerated from complete love with all three elements and short-lived, is the most touching.
When a former young couple has survived a long time, resisting the disappearance of passion and temptation from the outside world Impressed and reassured.
If this film only describes the old life of a loving old couple, it is just a simple story of a happy old man. The love of this film is great because it shows that love is sacrifice and respect.
Aging, sickness, loneliness, and death are the things we most want to experience in life, we know well but dare not mention them. No one can escape aging and death. We will all face this increasingly broken tragedy. Isn't life crueler than movies?
He saw that she, who had been with each other all her life, was ill, gradually lost her mobility, and the disease devoured her dignity bit by bit. She couldn't stand it when she was proud. Compared with a simple and crude death, she couldn't stand losing her dignity even more. Does he want her to leave? Is he afraid of being alone alone?
Maybe he was tired. But I prefer to understand that he respects her. The Bible says that love is enduring, and this movie says that love is respect: respect the other person's choice, don't let go because of your attachment, and even be willing to send her away with your own hands. "You're a monster at times, but gentle," she said.
Gentle people can truly think about others. What is rare in the world is that there is a person who can be gentle with him, and then be gentle with each other.
Those who have seen with their own eyes how life loses dignity, tolerance, patience, and everything in the face of death, or who have been tortured by illness, can understand that death is sometimes easier.
Love is not possession, but respecting her choices and setting her free.
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