After experiencing the pain of losing a loved one, how can I find the ability to be happy, and how can I find my life?
The theme of this "search" is undoubtedly the top priority of the film's narrative. There are also several clues around this theme. The main line is the little boy's search for the lock corresponding to the key. The addition of the little boy's grandfather is equivalent to adding an auxiliary line. The dark line is the little boy's mother's search, including her The exploration of the son's mind and the assistance to his lock-finding journey; and Blake's search for the key corresponding to the lock, which is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
In the end, the film does not show the lock opened by the key and the relics inside, because those objects are irrelevant, and the key is obviously symbolic here, it opens the lock of people's hearts.
A little boy's heart lock is the most difficult to open, not only because as a child, his tolerance is limited than that of adults, but as an autistic patient, his pain and struggle are unimaginable by ordinary people. The little boy's heart is locked for two reasons, one is the death of Thomas, who we are told at the beginning of the film. The film is devoted to flashbacks of the harmonious and special relationship between Oscar and his father, which is used to reflect the impact of his father's death on him.
Oscar is very smart but has social barriers and has difficulty controlling his emotions. Luckily he had a great father who not only loved him very much, but knew how to love him and teach him. Let him make the most of his talents by playing the game "Treasure Hunt", and make him a business card to help him socialize with other people. Oscar himself said: "He never treats me as a child" "He is the best father".
In order to make the story more suspenseful and more dramatic, the film puts another lock-up reason for later exposure - when his father called him for the last time, Oscar missed his father's dying goodbye because he didn't have the courage to pick up the phone .
Sometimes it may be easier for people to forgive others than for themselves. Regret and remorse can destroy a person's mind more easily than external forces, which is exactly what happened to Oscar, his grandpa and Blake faced the same dilemma - why can't I get up the courage to answer the phone ? Why can't I get over my fear of being a good father? Why can't I put down my grudge and read that letter earlier?
Unable to forgive yourself for your cowardice, so you fall into endless self-blame, and then you subconsciously feel that you are not worthy of happiness, which is accompanied by self-closing, refusing to communicate, and building a high wall between yourself and your loved ones. , Constantly sinking, so the subconscious fulfilled, look, my unhappiness is the punishment for my cowardice.
If it wasn't for this quest, Oscar, Grandpa, and Blake might have been so unhappy all along.
In the process of searching, Oscar came into contact with various characters and received their warm words to comfort him, which undoubtedly played a certain role in "healing". Then the addition of Grandpa, Yu Oscar temporarily made up for the lack of his father's role, and Grandpa Yu was also a substitute for a "father and son" relationship. Such in-depth exchanges have actually opened Oscar's heart to a certain extent. Dare to tell the secret in his heart, but it's a pity that grandpa retreated at this critical moment.
Between people is an island, and narration is the bridge. This crucial narration was finally completed between Oscar and Blake. At the same time, through this mutual narration, the relationship between the three pairs of father and son in the film was finally portrayed.
Back to the Oscar mother line. The film begins by focusing on Oscar's interaction with his father, while his mother takes care of them. In the 9/11 incident, Thomas and his wife answered the phone, "I love you with all my heart", such a confession and farewell are relatively complete compared to Oscar's shortcomings, so her recovery period is also relatively long. short.
As she recovers from personal grief, the main question before her is how to help Oscar out of the gloom, especially with Oscar's autistic behavior and his deep bond with his father. So her search is not so much looking for the key owner Blake like Oscar, but rather looking for Oscar, as Oscar said: "I am getting closer and closer to my father, and I am getting farther and farther away from my mother." The film went crazy at Oscar. The climax is when the mother reveals the truth of the whole search process. When the mother and son hug each other and tell each other, it is not only the completion of mother-to-son redemption, but also the completion of her self-redemption.
The search of four people, the relationship between four pairs of father and son/mother and son, and the redemption of four people, these four lines are interspersed with each other in the film, which together complete the exposition of the theme of the film.
I have to say that there are too many things the film wants to tell, and there are also many clues. One after another, if you are not careful, it will cause confusion and fatigue. For example, regarding the search for "Sixth District", the note on the swing frame, I personally think it is superfluous, making people feel that it is unnecessary or unnecessary. Anyway, I can't understand why the little boy suddenly knew that Thomas left a note on the swing?
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