Some people do not experience immediate symptoms of injury after a major disaster, accident, or abuse, but develop symptoms at a later time, known as PTSD.
The little Oscar in the film seems to have this symptom.
1. Repeated intrusive flashbacks that make it painful.
When he locked himself in the room, the vibration caused by his mother repeatedly pushing the door, he imagined the instant noodles falling from a height, and then the image of his father falling from a high-rise building flashed in his mind.
He sees tall buildings, speeding vehicles, crowds looking up, smoking things, unclaimed bags and shoes, children without parents, smoking things... and he can't help but flash back to Dad's death. screen. This makes him feel scared, anxious, nervous, etc.
Avoiding any means of transportation, he dared not enter his father's wardrobe for a year, so as not to stimulate him to think of his father's death again.
2. Cognition and emotion become negative
Thinking that all means of transportation are no longer safe, dare not walk on the bridge, dare not take the subway and bus. Even the swing that I often play with my dad thinks that it will break at any time and has to avoid it.
When you have to take the subway, there will be inappropriate behavior such as wearing a gas mask.
Feeling guilty, blaming himself for not picking up his father's last call, thinking that he had something to do with his father's death, and hating his cowardice.
Blame and hate mom, because mom didn't receive a call from dad, curse mom should die instead of dad. She is reluctant to communicate with her mother and deliberately distances herself from her.
I lost interest in going to school. In order not to go to school, I lied all kinds of things, and the sixth district that I usually explored with my father was also terminated.
3. Aggressive behavior and self-harm behavior
As soon as you feel pain, you scratch yourself with your hands, and your body is full of scratches. In the process of looking for black, he kicked and scolded when things went wrong.
If a significant other around you is showing but not limited to these symptoms, take them to a psychiatrist immediately. Other than that, there are things you can do to get them back to normal.
1. The company of trust
Accepting and understanding their emotions and behaviors can gain their trust and allow you to accompany them.
The grandfather who can't speak in the film has won Oscar's trust and is willing to let him accompany him to find the man named black and find the redemption in his heart.
2. Regain a sense of control:
Oscar, who was frightened and struck down, developed a negative tendency in cognition, believing that the world is not safe, and he was in danger of being blown up at any time and tried his best to avoid it. Avoidance itself reinforces his insecurities, which creates a vicious circle that keeps his life more and more confined to a narrow confines. Grandpa tried every means to let him cross the bridge to make the subway, and was exposed to a strong and unsafe environment. Little Oscar did not encounter the disaster he expected, so he had a sense of control. It turned out that the world was not as bad as he imagined.
3. Emotional catharsis
If you have the opportunity to listen to him talk about all kinds of traumatic events, listen carefully, do not judge, and let him express his emotions. Oscar finally had a chance to tell one person, Abby Black, about his self-blame and guilt for not answering his dad's sixth call, and was comforted. Since then, he has faced the death of his father.
4. Love and Support
Even if he is deliberately alienated from his relatives, he still needs to do things that make him feel loved and support and understand him.
Oscar finally knew that his mother had been watching him looking for various blacks, and told him in advance that he was looking for people to be kind to him. Oscar put down his accusations and anger towards his mother, and finally agreed with her, and was willing to talk with her about his father's life and mourn the sorrow of loss.
In the end, Oscar not only walked out of his grief, but also gave out love, injecting a spring of joy into the hearts of those blacks.
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