Intimacy vs loneliness is your life lesson - says Erickson

Anthony 2022-10-10 03:04:42

Pretty boring movie, haha.

Isaac Berg, 78, a doctor who is about to be honored, is known to outsiders, wealthy, intelligent and respected.

Isaac has a 96-year-old mother, a son named Ewald, a daughter-in-law Marianne, and a 74-year-old housekeeper Igda who has served her for 40 years. His wife died early.

Isaac had a nightmare one morning about empty streets. Clock without hands. A faceless man, fell down and turned into water. A coffin being dragged by a carriage, with himself in the coffin. The whole dream points to one word: loneliness

The daughter-in-law's evaluation of the old Isaac is: ruthless, stubborn, hypocritical. Even in his dreams, he was judged by others: rude and selfish.

It turned out that Isaac's old mother was such an indifferent person. She lived a lonely life, 9 out of ten children died, 20 grandchildren, 15 of whom had never been seen. It took out a watch without hands, exactly the kind Isaac had dreamed of.

Isaac's relationship with his mother is seen by his daughter-in-law, and Isaac's second nightmare also shows his relationship with his deceased wife, indifferent, indifferent, and ruthless. Like the couple they met in the car accident on Lund Road, perhaps it was this incident that sparked Isaac's dream of a wife. The dream guides his need: the need for forgiveness from others. Otherwise the punishment is obvious: loneliness.

The daughter-in-law finally expressed her thoughts. It turned out that she was pregnant, but her husband did not want the child. The smart daughter-in-law saw that this was because of the family’s original family: Isaac’s relationship with his mother affected his relationship with his mother. The relationship with his wife, in turn, affected his son's belief in the relationship and did not want children. This wakes up Isaac.

In bed at night, he fantasized that he saw harmonious parents, gained the love of his daughter-in-law and son, and treated him tenderly to the housekeeper who had served him for 40 years - this is the harvest of this day's reflection on his life.

Yes, in old age, it is not only honor and admiration from outsiders, but also love and care from family members, put away the thorns in this life, get forgiveness from others, and get rid of inner loneliness.

Erikson's theory of the eight stages of life states that in adulthood, our greatest task is intimacy vs loneliness, and if this task is not resolved, it may be left over into our old age. This is the inspiration of this film to us.

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Wild Strawberries quotes

  • Dr. Evald Borg: It's absurd to bring children into this world and think they'll be better off than we were.

    Marianne Borg: That's just an excuse.

    Dr. Evald Borg: Call it what you want. I was an unwanted child in a hellish marriage.

  • Marianne Borg: You're a coward.

    Dr. Evald Borg: Yes. This life sickens me. I will not be forced to take on a responsibility that will make me live for one day longer than I want to. And you know that I mean what I say.