you are my best friend.

Carli 2022-04-20 09:01:42





This morning, I woke up at 6:00 and couldn't fall asleep. It was clearly after 3:00. My eyes are sleepy, but my mind is clear.
I wanted to be hypnotized, so I selected a circle on the computer, and selected this movie that I have been watching for a long time but haven't watched it for a long time. Because friends who copied it from me said it was dull, and I just needed dullness to make me drowsy.

Did not expect to see excited. Alas, although I've long known that movies are A's Arsenic and B's Honey.

I liked the tone from the very beginning of the movie, it felt a bit like "Mr. Streeter's Story", the beginning of the movie was soothing and calm.
Mrs. Daisy's eyes were dim, and she backed the car into someone else's yard. Her son Polly hired a black driver, but she made every effort to make things difficult and unwilling to use him. She wanted to drive by herself.
Everyone knows that she doesn't like to drive, she is just very afraid of not being able to drive, afraid of getting old. Ten minutes before the opening of the film, her state is described: old, widowed, lonely, awkward, wealthy, sensitive, duplicitous, stubborn, and bad-mouthed. What a typical old lady, I like the way she and Polly get along with their mother and son, like good friends who have been joking with each other for many years.
Polly said his wife went to dinner at a friend's house.
Mrs. Daisy said that she was the most active in this kind of thing.
Polly said, what?
She said, go to church activities.
Polly shook his head helplessly and said, you're really hurting, mother.

Polly hired a driver named Hawk, played by Morgan Freeman.
He was immune to Mrs. Daisy's many vexatious actions, and followed Mrs. Daisy when she insisted on taking the tram to go shopping. He said: "A rich and noble Jewish lady like you doesn't have to crowd the tram with a big bag, I'll get it for you."
Mrs. Daisy said angrily: I don't want you to help me, and don't call me rich. I hate people talking about me behind my back. Growing up on Fossey Street, I know money doesn't come easily. My cousin once gave me a cat, but I didn't take it because we couldn't afford it. The reason I became a teacher is all because of my sister's thrifty, otherwise I would have nothing.

When she said that she couldn't afford that cat, I suddenly remembered that my third aunt once told me that she had a dog when she was a child, gave birth to five puppies, and died as soon as the big dog was born. When she threw the remaining five puppies in an apron to the garbage heap, she cried so badly that she vowed never to keep dogs again. I asked her why she had to throw it away. She said that the puppies haven't even opened their eyes, and the mother dog has died again, so there is nothing to feed them.
She never looked me in the eyes when she said this. I have a very good relationship with her and I love her very much. Now when I go home, I sometimes go to her house to sleep with her, but never sleep with my mother... My mother often eats vinegar...
Later, her son and my brother raised three dogs. , unfortunately every one of them died. She said every time that she would never keep a dog again, and she would never keep a dog again, but she would still keep it. My family Yuanyuan was very attached to her during the two years I was in high school. Once when I came home, she said that Yuanyuan gave birth to a puppy. On the balcony, don’t believe me, go and see. I ran over and found that she was fooling me... ... Although Yuanyuan was female, she never gave birth until her death.
When she went back from this winter vacation, her puppy unfortunately passed away again. She and my brother Xianglin's wife took turns telling me that if we don't keep a dog anymore, we're probably not suitable to keep a dog. .
I found that she and I are really like...
Sigh, I really want to go back and say to her who was crying beside the rubbish heap and the poor me who was depressed and unhappy a few years ago because of her poor health. Don't be afraid, they will all get better. of.

When I went to the hospital three years ago in the spring, why do I remember it was spring, because there was a row of lilacs blooming just right outside that hospital. While I was waiting for the test results, I was flipping through the books in the book stand outside the hospital when my mother suddenly called. I said didn't I just call yesterday, why did I call again.
My mother said that your third aunt came and said that she dreamed of you last night.
I said then you give her the phone.
I asked her with a smile, what did you dream of me, and you went to learn from my mother.
She said alas, just dreamed that you were sick.
I said uh, no, it's been pretty good recently.
She said where are you and why are you so noisy.
I said I was shopping with my classmates outside our school...
She said that you have to take medicine well, you have not liked taking medicine since you were a child. I closed my eyes and ate it. I dreamed of you yesterday, and I woke up today feeling empty, so I came to see your mother.
I said haha, why don't you just call me directly.
The two hung up after saying a few words.
After hanging up the phone, I was terrified like never before. I have already thought about the worst, she would have such a dream, she must be very concerned about me at ordinary times. On the boulevard, there were cars coming and going, and Yang Xu floated all over the sky. The scent of lilacs mixed with the smell of fried Chinese medicine from the hospital made me dizzy and my legs were shaking.
She is afraid of losing me, and I am not afraid that they will lose me.

The place name "Fersey Street" began to appear frequently in the movies. Like Mrs. Daisy's father, cousin, sister, husband, and the china she made when she got married, who was smashed by the black maid Edilla, they all left her.
The older she gets, the more she loses.
She was scared.

After the canned fish incident that made me laugh, her relationship with Hawke finally improved and she was finally willing to give up the driver's seat.
She goes to her husband's cemetery three times a month to visit, clean and plant flowers. Hawke said: I think you're the best widow in Georgia.
She said Polly and the others kept persuading her to find another, which they called "permanent care." I will not. Until the day I die, buried here, won't I find a permanent home?
She is the one left. Many people say that the one who leaves first is happier, because the one left behind will live in endless thoughts. But who can say that leaving first is liberation, and thinking is pain. Those who leave first do not want to leave the other person alone, and those who leave later prefer to indulge in thoughts and do not want to be with others.
This is unwavering love.

Hawke drove her to her brother's 90th birthday party. When they parked by the pond for lunch, she looked at the pond and said: I remember the first time I went to "Mobike" Well, it was 1888 to attend the Walters' wedding. Then I was twelve and we went by train. I was really excited at the time, I had never been to a wedding and I had never seen the sea. Dad said this is the Gulf of Mexico, this is not the sea. But it's the same for me. I asked my dad if I could let me dip my head in the sea, and he laughed at me for being too timid. Then I took a handful of seawater and put it in my mouth.
When she first said this, she looked into the distance with a confused and fascinated expression on her face. When it comes to attending a wedding, it is coursing, and when it comes to seeing the sea and Dad, it is the joy of a child. When it came to holding a handful of seawater and putting it in her mouth, she pursed her lips and seemed to remember the taste of seawater. Then she came back to her senses and said, isn't it a bit silly to say this?
Forgive my lack of words to describe this wonderful passage accurately. I watched it here and immediately understood why she won the Oscar for Best Actress for this movie. Her face, her eyes, every expression and every line of hers are so accurate and natural, but no trace of performance is felt.
(Jessica Tandy, who played Mrs. Daisy, was active on Broadway in the 1940s and 1950s and was famous for the stage version of "A Streetcar Named Desire." "Miss Drive" was awarded the Oscar. He died of cancer in 1994.)
Hawke said, NO, it sounds better than what others say.

The first time I saw Haizheng sighing, my classmates also hit me, this is not the sea, this is Bohai Bay. But as Mrs Daisy said, what's the difference.

The film doesn't have big ups and downs, it's good at details. The plot is smooth with almost no flaws, the parts I describe are just what I am impressed by, and there are many metaphors, such as racism, etc., that I have not mentioned.
At Edila's funeral, there was a black girl singing a dirge, as Hawke said. Whether or not she's another Edilla that Hawke and Edilla spoke about, this detail is very touching.
When Hawke was first hired with Mrs. Daisy, she had proposed to plant tomatoes in the open space of her garden. Mrs. Daisy said, if I really wanted to cultivate a vegetable field, I wouldn't need your help. Later, after Edila's death, there is an interlude of Mrs. Daisy and Hawke growing tomatoes in the garden together.
At the beginning of the film, Mrs. Daisy was very old, and Hawke, although still relatively strong, was also old. The film span is twenty-five years, and I can feel they are still getting old. It may not be difficult for a good actor to play an old man, but it is not easy to play an old man and continue to grow old. Not as superficially old as in a crappy TV show, with white hair and white eyebrows, hunchback and bent legs.

Finally one day, Hawke was too old to be a driver, and Mrs. Daisy was too old to be confused.
With disheveled hair, she searched the room for the corrected homework and said that it would be returned to the students the next day. Ren Hawke said that you were no longer a teacher.
Finally, she slumped back and sat by the window, took Hawke's hand and said, "You are my best friend."
Her hands were pale and old, and Hawke's hands were black and thick.
They remain in this pose until the camera fades out.

The theme of the film has been fully reflected here. Nearly a hundred years after the abolition movement in the American South, racial discrimination is still serious. The old Jewish women and old blacks that the police spoke of contemptuously, Martin Luther King Jr. was still running around giving speeches, and the drivers and servants of the white ladies were still all blacks.
They went from employer and driver to best friend over two decades.
It was a long process, and I got to know him little by little, and finally I was able to hold his hand and say, you are my best friend.

Writing this, I am very angry. I want a friend like that too, I have close female friends and twisted male besties, but I also want a friend like that. You can chat, there is no ambiguous relationship, you can chat calmly and argue loudly. You can blush when you are angry, but you can also tolerate each other's competitiveness at certain times, want to talk to each other when you are sad, and share with each other when you are happy. Not a boyfriend, not a male best friend, nor ambiguous A, B, C, or spare tire 123, but a best friend...
I wanted to complain, but after thinking about it, I shouldn't complain. Friendship is based on understanding, understanding and reconciliation, which Daisy and Hawke have used for more than 20 years. I lost a friendship because I couldn't understand, understand and reconcile. But in fact, I am not familiar with it, and it is normal to not understand. There is nothing to complain about, the days are long, maybe one day we part ways, maybe one day we will be reconciled.
Time is a magical thing. It heals diseases, heals wounds, and examines what is true and what is false.


At the end of the movie, Mrs. Daisy is sent to a nursing home. Hawke and Polly went to visit her together, and Daisy was very old and very old.
"Happy Thanksgiving from your daughter-in-law, Mom, she's in Washington, she's a Republican congresswoman," Polly said.
Daisy said, "Okay. Polly, go talk to those nurses!
Polly reluctantly told Hawke that she wanted to be alone with you. Then he kissed Dai Qian's temple and said, "Okay mother, you are still so bad."

Daisy and Hawke were sitting and chatting, and Hawke said, you haven't eaten Thanksgiving cake yet, come and let me help you. Hawke started feeding Daisy the cake.
Black screen, the whole movie is over.

End

Ps: I have to say that I'm a very annoying person... I went to bed last night with the computer on and downloaded the game patch. I set the alarm for 6 am to wake up and turn off the computer. When I woke up, I found that it wasn't finished yet, so I went back to sleep, and I couldn't fall asleep anymore... I couldn't fall asleep and
watch a movie, and I woke up.
After reading the film review, it's off topic and out of tune, all kinds of deviations.
Wangtian, what is this...
cups, all kinds of cups... Uncle Yang, please give me an electric shock! ! ! ! ! !

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Driving Miss Daisy quotes

  • Boolie Werthan: Goodbye! Good luck!

    Boolie Werthan: [out of earshot] ... Good god.

  • Daisy Werthan: [Looking at map] Here. Here. You took the wrong turn at Opelika.

    Hoke Colburn: Well, now, you took it with me, Miss Daisy, and you got the map.