look at the life of the diamond king and fifth Jack: wake up in a spacious big bed, have a one-night stand The woman was getting dressed and said to him: Yesterday was amazing! He picked out a suit from the neatly arranged suits in the wardrobe. Outside the floor-to-ceiling glass windows, high-rise buildings stood in the morning light. He has a successful career, drives a Ferrari, and is going to negotiate on Christmas Day...
Let's compare the life of Jack, a family man: he was woken up by a dog on a crowded bed, with his wife lying beside him, and his lovely daughter jumping on the bed Wake them up. Change the diaper of the younger son, send the child to school, sell tires at the company founded by the father-in-law, play bowling with colleagues, attend the neighbor's Christmas banquet, walk the dog late at night, make out with the wife after the child sleeps, can't buy high-quality suits, but can buy A small cake as compensation...
two lives, which is better or worse? Everyone has their own opinions, and there is no way to draw a conclusion. If Jack still has a longing for love and family life buried in his heart, then he is happy. Through such a wonderful experience, he can find what he really wants in his heart. But I doubt, does he really like and fit in with family life? Just watch him sing passionately in the cloakroom to see how much he enjoys his single life! In the experience version, when he woke up, he found that the expression of the environment he was in was so terrified, he put on his clothes and ran out of the house and rushed back to New York to return to his original life. He didn't even show a bit of surprise and curiosity about seeing Kate 13 years later! From this, we can know that he is afraid of this kind of life, so he chose to give up that year. Of course, for some people, this kind of ordinary life with a wife and children on the hot kang head is happiness, and they will be equally terrified if they are suddenly exposed to the business field. Therefore, there is no right or wrong in the way of life, only if it is suitable or not, whether to enjoy it or not. Why did the black man, or the director, have to force him to "experience" the so-called "better life"?
In the movie, Jack returns to reality and immediately goes to find Kate, who has become a lawyer, beautiful and capable. I immediately thought, how good it is, they have both achieved breakthroughs in their own lives, and it would be perfect to be together again at this time! If they were together back then and gave up her career for the family, she would never be able to release her potential and could only be a public interest lawyer. It seems that most people think that sacrificing a part of one's life in order to fulfill each other's love is precious and noble. But why? Why do you have to sacrifice your dreams and give up your potential for the so-called love, togetherness, "I choose us"? Going further, why is it that career success and a happy marriage must be opposites and cannot have both? Furthermore, why is it wrong to give up love to pursue a career?
I remembered an argument I saw before: start a career before the age of 40, and start a family after the age of 40, because at that time, all aspects of career, economy, and mind were relatively mature. It makes sense to think about it. How many people get married and have children prematurely, and have since been trapped in the web of family sweetness or pain? I don't agree with the "everyone is a half circle, looking for another half circle". I think everyone should work hard to make themselves a circle, pursue independence, autonomy and freedom both materially and spiritually, not rely on others, and do not entrust their happiness in life to others. Moreover, if you love, you must fulfill each other and make each other better. It can only be said to be selfish to bind two people together under the pretext of love and to restrain each other's development.
In the movie "What a Beautiful Life" I watched before, the protagonist always dreamed of going on a trip, but it never came true. After learning that the people around him would be miserable without him in this world, he contentedly continued to stay in the small village and contribute to others, and everyone was happy. At that time, after watching the movie, I deeply felt how beautiful life is and how happy the people around me are. But now, I'm starting to think: Yes, our value is reflected in what we can bring to others, but can we just be ourselves for a short period of time? Instead of thinking about what I can do for my family, friends, and clients, think about what I can do for myself. Don't wait until the end of your life to find out sadly that you have lived your whole life for others, but not for yourself.
I think the ending picture is really beautiful. The former first love, who has their own career, reunites again after 13 years, sits opposite each other and drinks a cup of coffee. She gestured and said something, and he listened quietly. Outside the window, it was dark and snowy.
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