Because the nurse loved the ballerina, he helped her with her purse, stole her hair clip, and took care of her when she was in coma. He talked to her as if she would love to listen, and he thought he knew her very well . (One co-incidence is that he told the magazine journalist that she liked him, while she was in coma, the journalist did not believe it. It turned out at last that the ballerina actually liked the man from the first sight!) And at last, at one night, after he saw his first "adult" movie, he raped her for the sake of love. It was in his mind that he brought himself justice, that because he loved her, they two should be together, getting married. He was right on the part that not half of the couples outside were as harmonious as they were, but he was wrong on the part of love. He loved her, but she did not.He forgot to check her thoughts before taking the wrong action, and he then committed suicide for what he had done. He did not get her answer, and he thought he already knew her too well, for time had natually bounded them. To him, love became a crucial punishment.
Yes, this kind of love can harm boths parts, lovers and the beloved ones. And we experience this kind of feeling from the first day we are brought to the world. As little children, we are like the ballerina, weak, no capability of control to our lives, no capability of self-protection at all. We rely on our parents a lot, and they devote more to us. Some parents, in addition to all the protection, command children what they shall do and how they shall live in the name of love, considering doing the best for them, without taking care of their children's feelings. These parents don't even notice when they hurt their kids because the kids dislike no freedom. Even they have done so, they won't consider it as a mistake, until everything has been too late. Lacking of communication and understanding finally rib the good part of love away,leaving the bad part of controlling all round a cold house.
Things don't always come out to be as bad as the nurse. The journalist realized what he had done wrong, found out the the bull fighter had got back to her old lover, and got reliefed from the scene. Still, the bullfighter, because of the journalist's ego, pulled herself in danger and killed herself eventually. She was not guilty of cheating on him, as she thought. On the other hand, he was guilty bad communication. He talked too much to let her talk, and she never had another chance to say another word. He was a lucky one, escaped and cured, as he learned what he had done wrong. After all, we don't always need to pay for our price, sometimes we pay it later.
And he paid it to help his nurse friend, only to bring anther death around. It is funny to compare the two deaths. The first was because he talked too much, and the next was because he did not talk. What remains the same was the fact that he did not understand either of them very well. He thought she was jearous about he attending the wedding, only to find out that she was going to tell him that she fell in love again with someone else; he thought it would be best that he kept the secret, only to find out a desparate nurse that killed himself. He lost both bets, and became a lonely man again.
Loneliness is the word talked by most of the men characters in the film. I did not understand how and why the nurse could say "You wrote about a girl in your Cuba book that she was holding a glass of xxx by the window... , and I thought that woman was me." Was that he wanted to tell him that he missed him? Or that he was so alone? I cannot see the point, but I was amazed by his gaze at the journalist. It might be the case that the nurse was a bisexual, but I know it was not the point for this film. Love was just a tool, which no one can use it properly in the film.
Or can we use it properly ourselves? We loved ourselves too much, thinking ourselves too much, and talk to ourselves too much. It takes one's life to understand and love another life, because one always will need to spend one's own life to appreciete oneself . It is that simple, but we all think we are smart enough to skip.
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