What should we do if we have a job we don't like, and a life we don't like, watch Julie & Julia.
As I said when chatting with YY, I think Julia's era is too far away from now. Of course, Julia, as an independent woman in that era, was able to publish a cookbook and a cooking show, which enriched the variety of American housewives to cook. It was really amazing. But what impresses me the most is Julie's life. Doing a job that I don't like and consuming myself (needs to absorb the negative energy of others), living in a neighborhood I don't like (upstairs from Queens' pizza shop), and then, just like this for life? No, by setting a small goal for yourself, cooking according to Julia's recipes every day, and completing the recipes of a book within a year, you can make your life more ritualistic and purposeful. At first, it was just to add some fun to my life, but I didn't expect to get so many readers by sharing it through my blog. In the end, it really helped Julie become a writer. This is really a healing story. Both heroines are inspirational female templates.
I recently chatted with a college student and found that she is also another inspirational woman. The impression that my senior has always given me is that she is a silly and sweet, at least in college, I feel that she is a leisurely and contented person, and she happily falls in love with her senior (now upgraded to her husband) every day, thinking about what to eat and what to buy, What to play, people who have no goals in the future, at least at that time, I felt that I had goals than her, and I was more inclined to step out of my comfort zone to challenge myself than her. Later, she chose to go to graduate school with her husband. At that time, all the confused people around us chose to go to graduate school because they had no idea what to do in the future. On the other hand, I chose to temporarily go out of the campus to be beaten by the society, mainly because I stayed in the school for more than ten years since I was a child, and I didn’t know anything about the outside world. have a look. Of course, graduate school is also in my life plan, but I don’t want to let graduate school be an excuse to avoid working for a few years at that time. I hope that I go to graduate school for a clear goal. Of course, I still want to go back to study now, but I haven't been ready for a long time. After work, I really don't have enough time to pick up the previous textbooks to prepare for the exam, and I can't make up my mind to prepare for the exam full-time. I am afraid that failure will delay the time. So I choose to go to work and prepare for the exam at the same time, but the progress is like a turtle, and I don't know when I will be ready.
Digress from the topic and come back to my senior sister. I always thought she would be the kind of person who gets married after graduation and then becomes a housewife with her husband and children. Even if the job should be the front desk or something, it is a very simple and low-pressure job. But my senior sister has now become a code farmer in the Bay Area. After all, neither her undergraduate nor postgraduate studies CS. She graduated from financial engineering but couldn't find the right job. She said it was because the graduate degree she studied was too watery, but I think she was very similar to when she was confused as an undergraduate, she just didn't know that the abstract things she learned in school were working. How can it be used in school? The things learned in school are too little combined with the actual work. I study hard to pass the exam. Even if I get a high score in the exam, I don’t know how to combine the things I learned with the actual work. So when the senior said that she just graduated and felt that she would not be able to find a job, I can't feel more empathy. So during that time, she worked as a full-time wife for a period of time. Her husband worked as a code farmer in the Bay Area, and he worked alone to support a small family of two people, which was very stressful. However, because she had nothing to do at home every day, she began to "do" in her words, worried that her husband would not love her anymore, because there was a problem with her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law, and her mother-in-law didn't like her, so she kept persuading her son to break up. So my husband goes to work during the day and coaxes her at night. She even had an anxiety disorder at the time and needed medication, which was expensive. Later, her husband met some friends because of his work, and he introduced them to her, hoping that she would be happier by making more friends. Among those friends, many are female code farmers. She found that these girls who felt less smart than her could be a code farmer to support herself. Why did she want to be a rice bug at home, so she decided to switch to CS. Fortunately, there is a husband who is a professional teacher. At the beginning, he simply brushed the questions. After the questions were brushed, he passed the interview and started to work. It was only after I got to work that I realized that being a code farmer was really just a stepping stone. Being able to brush the questions does not mean that you can read the code, let alone write the code. Then I entered an endless loop of not understanding in meetings, not being able to do work, and working overtime every day until two or three o'clock in the middle of the night. But the busy work really healed, and I no longer felt anxious. This state persisted for two years. Entering the third year of this year, I have finally achieved my hard work. I have started my work without overtime. I can finish my work at 4 or 5 o'clock every day, and I can understand the meeting. The code is no longer a book from heaven.
She worked hard to prove her worth, in order to move forward side by side with the person she loves deeply, because she made money, the old lady shut up and refused to persuade her, and lived the life she didn't like into the way she liked, like the two girls in the movie. The protagonist is just as good. My once good friend has become so good, and while I am really happy for her, I also silently cheer myself up, and one day I will live out my own world.
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