At first, I chose to watch this movie for Jennifer Aniston, looking for a light-hearted romance to pass the weekend. To be honest, the beginning part didn't attract me much, because I didn't like the male pig's feet who were not good-looking and eloquent. It wasn't until I saw that embarrassing family dinner, after which the two of them started arguing out of control, that I started to hold a schadenfreude mentality like watching a family mediation show, and I thought it was a bit interesting. I wanted to watch this farce. How to end. It was originally a trivial matter like sesame and mung bean, but neither of the hero and heroine was willing to make concessions, unwilling to compromise, and confronted with childishness. The two took turns using various tricks, trying their best to irritate each other, trying to make the other party surrender first and make a compromise, but after several rounds, not only did the two fail to make the other side make concessions because of this, but the magic high one. The feet are ten feet higher, the confrontation is escalated step by step, and the damage to each other is also deepened step by step, like a vicious circle. In their hearts, they actually love each other and are reluctant to part with each other, but neither of them is willing to bow their heads first, open their mouths to compromise with each other, and accommodate each other, because depending on the posture, whoever compromises first means that in the future life We will always be at a disadvantage in China, and we must always compromise and be accommodating. So the two were pushed farther and farther by this atmosphere, until one day the heroine cried and said: How could our relationship become like this, the thick-line hero sees the woman's situation, and the child is generally at a loss, so I put it away Watching the excitement, I began to deeply sympathize with the two, and sincerely hope that the two can get back together.
However, the subsequent development of the plot was not as smooth as I expected. When both of them wanted to save the relationship, they found that the original love had been consumed by this endless quarrel and changed beyond recognition. So the two had no choice but to sell the apartment of love that they had built together before, and the relationship came to an end. Seeing this, I deeply regret this ending. I cried and asked my husband beside me why the two of them could not get back together in the end, why did the director insist on such a cruel arrangement, why why why? The husband replied absent-mindedly: "Because the movie is called breaking up men and women, naturally they have to break up."
Although the two didn't get together in the end, the director still kindly gave an open ending at the end of the movie: a year later, the two were in a relationship. They met each other by chance on the street, and they were both delighted. After the greeting, they agreed to have a cup of coffee in the future. I think this ending will at least leave a glimmer of hope for the two of them to start anew.
After coming out of the emotions of the movie, I thought about it and felt that the ending design was very clever. Mr. Lu Xun once said that tragedy is to destroy the valuable things in life for people to see (although the style of this movie is still comedic, but the handling of the ending is inevitably sad), it is precisely because of this ending, It will cause us to reflect on what makes the relationship between two people like this, and then think about what to pay attention to and what to avoid in getting along with the sexes, so that we can correct some of the things we didn’t realize in real life before. question. I don't want to judge who is right and who is wrong, because in a relationship full of problems, it's mostly not just one person's responsibility. Although the two have their own problems, in this relationship, they have at least one problem in common, that is, uncompromising, uncompromising, and lack of tolerance.
In fact, I feel that compromise and tolerance are necessary elements in a harmonious relationship, not the kind of compromise that goes against one's will, but because they care about the other party's love for the other party, and willingly give up some of their original habits and principles. Most of the trivial things in life are not divided into who is right or who is wrong. It depends to a large extent on people's habits. I see that some newly married couples will quarrel over trivial matters such as whether to fold the quilt or squeeze the toothpaste. Change the other person to meet the habits of our own for many years, but sometimes we try to change ourselves, maybe it is much easier than changing the other person. If we find it so hard to change ourselves, why should we ask the other person to change? Some time ago, I saw a saying: "It turns out that only when people dare to face up to the flaws of others, can true love have the opportunity to reveal and express. Being able to forgive others' faults is far better than pretending to not see other people's faults. When we love someone, When we refuse to face up to that person's flaws, our love is at best a self-defense love, because we consciously ask the other person to be a perfect person."
Just like at the beginning of the movie, the heroine who works in the gallery is in As she said when she helped her clients choose paintings: "If it's not something you absolutely want, don't buy it. You know, it doesn't matter who painted it or its value. I mean, you have to buy it every day. Live with it and pass by it every day. You know, you have to really love it, you have to really appreciate it, it's almost like choosing a mate."
If it is our instinct to love someone, then get along with them The way requires us to spend energy to learn and explore. Thanks to the film "Break Up Men and Women", it has triggered our exploration and reflection on this.
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