She was too young at that time to know all the gifts given by fate, and she had already marked the price in secret.
- Zweig, "The Severe Queen"
I used to think that those who can be deceived by Uncle Duojin are all stupid girls.
But I was wrong.
I gradually discovered that more of those who fell into the arms of Uncle Duojin were precisely those precocious and sensible girls.
So, let me ask the smart you now: Is this man your ideal type?
He is personable, considerate, has the same high level of cultural accomplishment as you, and has years and experiences far beyond your reach. He seems to be able to handle everything, and with him, you always feel more secure.
…
I know what you're trying to say, and so do I.
I watched a very interesting movie "Growing Up Education" yesterday .
The heroine, Jenny, is 16 years old. She is beautiful and smart, speaks fluent French, and is the top student in her class who has the most hope of being admitted to Oxford University.
In the pouring rain, she met this man who was irresistible: "I know that as a good girl, you will not take a stranger's car, but I feel sorry for your cello in the rain, I can ask for your cello ?"
They fell in love, and it all went smoothly: he took her to the most elegant classical concerts, flew from London to Paris for her birthday, and they could talk about movies and music all day, even in a dark parking lot, in a panic He proposed to her.
This had been the dream of so many girls, however, as you might expect, she found out that he was married.
What a clichéd story, but I couldn't help falling in love with this heroine and saw fear in it.
Young women in literature and art generally have two characteristics: 1. They have their own sense of independence and know what they want. 2. They have the effect of the superposition of literature and youth, self-idealization.
Jenny is a young literary woman with a strong sense of independence. She has personality, brains, and the self-awareness of a grown woman.
She is able to chat and talk with middle-aged men in the upper class in a sophisticated manner; she refuses to call her "Minnie" on the first night, and asks for the tenderness and consideration a woman should have; even on the night of the man's proposal, she does not give up her mind lost. .
But she is such a precocious and thoughtful girl who gave up her studies and future and plunged into lies without hesitation.
In fact, the reason is very simple: Jenny lost in her own sense of independence.
Are you like that too?
You are deeply absurd and boring about the ordinary and boring life, and the sweet words of ignorant boys also make you disdain, and you are looking forward to seeing a new world.
And only uncles can get to this point. They are mysterious and unfamiliar. They suddenly break into your world, and then attract you with their worldview that they have already cultivated. By the side of this man who is stronger than you, he will take you step by step to a wider world. the world, to satisfy your rich mind and your sense of eagerness to grow.
And the two of them just get what they need. He loves your youthful personality and beautiful body, and you gain his higher vision and mature understanding.
And Jenny didn't understand why it was herself. Her father's words woke her up: if you were not smart, how could he choose you.
Young women in literature and art often have idealized characteristics, idealizing themselves and others.
Just like Jenny thinks: I can manage "Uncle", even with such a big age gap.
The classic romance film "This Killer Isn't Too Cold" has the most classic description of the gap between the uncle and the loli: the girl is precocious like Matilda, the uncle is clumsy like Leon, and the uncle can't escape the law of the uncle taking the initiative in love.
Matilda's love for Leon is direct and fiery. She is eager to get Leon's love words and recognition, so she desperately asks for it. Although Leon is clumsy and restrained in terms of feelings, she also knows that this kind of affection is not good for the two of them. For the purpose of protection, Leon chose silence until death came.
Matilda is powerful and cute, just as Haruki Murakami said: "Let all the tigers in the world melt into butter." She could survive the carnage, but she didn't panic and hide like a mouse in a cave Get up, and dare to go straight to the police station single-handedly and take revenge on the bad guys.
But even such a unique girl is so humble in front of the uncle she loves that she just wants to say "I love you".
You have to believe that since "uncle" doesn't have the character of a man like "putting a bottle of water in the car", then he won't have the IQ of such a man.
These successful uncles who have stepped on thousands of losers and won your favor are often more composed than scholars and more literary than local tyrants. They can know more clearly than you what he wants most, just like Li Ao said: don't love so much, just love a little bit, others' love is like deep sea, mine is shallow. Girls liked by such "uncles" not only have the youthful beauty that girls don't know about, but also have ideas and autonomy beyond this age.
There is no favor for no reason, when the good and the good meet, love will also become a competition.
You also want to compete. As a young woman in literature and art, you may think that you may not lose.
And this is the root cause of your fall, because you don't know the depth and let your guard down, even go all out. But you underestimate the intricate history behind the "uncles", the thoughtful and unassuming vigilance that a girl with no worldly history can detect.
After all, the love story between a literary young woman and Duojin's "Uncle" romantic can only be realized in a movie. The reality is often vulgar, and more endings are actually like what the educational film "Growing Education" said:
I feel old. But not very wise.
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