It took a night and a half to watch it. The story of the movie is very simple. It is a movie about marriage. There are few characters in the film and the relationship between the characters is simple, but the story is well completed and the plot is relaxed. Just such a simple low-cost movie won five awards including Best Picture and Best Actor at the 1980 Oscars. To be honest, there are very few movies about marriage. Now the movies are basically about love, that is, movies before marriage. There are very few movies about marriage. This movie is the first movie about marriage that I have seen. Movie.
Let’s start with the synopsis of the film:
The film tells the story of Joanna because she couldn't bear her husband Ted's long-term busy career and ignored her feelings and listening. One day when her husband got a big project, she chose to divorce and leave her husband and children at the instigation of her best friend Margaret. (I haven’t seen the divorce procedure, I don’t know what the divorce procedure is in the United States, or did the director just omit the divorce procedure?) To be honest, this situation should be very difficult in China. scolded.
After Joanna left, Ted took care of the child Billy by himself. From the beginning, he even beat his son, and then his life became smoother and better with his son. During this period, many episodes occurred: ① Ted had a one-night stand with a colleague in the company (the female colleague was really dry, not as plump as Joanna), and was bumped by his son; ② Later, by accident, Ted was with Ma While Gretel was chatting, Billy fell and was knocked while playing. During this period, Joanna had been secretly observing the lives of her son and her husband, but in fact, she could not let Billy go. One day Ted came out and said that he wanted his son to come with her. Of course Ted disagreed, after all he was used to living with his son. Therefore, for the custody of their son, the husband and wife were ready to go through the judicial process and both hired a lawyer. At this time, the worse thing came: because in order to take care of his son, the big project that Ted took over was very affected, and the boss finally couldn't bear to fire him, and Ted tried his best to beg to no avail. Because he's going to have a lawsuit with Joanna soon, if he doesn't have a job, there's no source of income, and it's hard to win child custody. In desperation, Ted actively sought help from headhunters to quickly find a job with a pay cut.
Finally, the day has come for the two to have their court session. This part is also the most exciting climax of the film. I have to say that the fat lawyer Ted hired is really professional and responsible, and he takes money to do things, although it is too difficult for the man to obtain custody. Joanna said she found herself by running away from home to travel and work. The fat lawyer almost broke Joanna by asking questions step by step, and verified that Joanna ran away from home because her best friend Margaret pushed her. No wonder Margaret has been helping Ted take care of Billy since Joanna left, because she feels guilty. Margaret divorced her ex-husband. She may feel resentful, so she pulls her best friend Joanna. into the water. In court, Ted and Joanna didn't really want to push each other, proving that they still had feelings for each other. One of the clips is whether Ted has had an infidelity, and Joanna laughs, wondering if she was watching or if Billy told her. She should know, but she doesn't care. Westerners take one-night stands very lightly.
At the end of the film, Ted loses the case, and Margaret reconciles with her ex-husband. When Joanna came to pick up Belgium, she suddenly realized that the impact of parents' divorce on the child was too great. Why did he have two homes? Isn't Billy's home here? Leigh went home, but Billy was already at home, and the Kramers cried together. This gives me the feeling that the two of them are reunited just because they can't let go of the child, which is not good. I don't know if I ignored the director's intention.
After watching the film, my feeling is that in marriage, two people should be equal and honest, talk and communicate well, understand each other, listen to each other, and accept each other's imperfections, because no one is perfect, you are not perfect and you cannot ask your lover It is also perfect according to my imagination. After all, they are still two independent individuals and personalities. After marriage has entered the trivial period of daily life, it is even more important to remember to keep it fresh and manage it well. You cannot blindly ignore each other's feelings and listen to your lover's thoughts more. Except for chai, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea, and children, there is no common topic every day, and we must give enough respect and care to our lover. Marriage is not for reproducing offspring, not for children, not for coping with parents’ advice, not for enjoying each other’s contributions, but for helping each other pay and accepting each other’s imperfections. Happy and joyful time someone can share with. In my opinion, the marriage relationship in modern society, that is, the relationship between husband and wife, should be the most important social relationship, even greater than the social relationship between parents and children. Because human society is made up of countless families, without husband and wife, there is no family. At the same time, husband and wife are the social relationship between people who stay together for the longest time, eat together, and sleep together. Parents and children can't be with you all the time, but lovers can, especially when they are old, they can protect and support each other. When you are thirsty in the middle of the night, I will pour you water; when you are uncomfortable, I will give you a hug; when you are cold, I will clothe you; when you are hot, I will wipe your sweat. Two people, two hearts, but as long as the two hearts are on the same line, two people have one heart, this is a good marriage.
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