What it teaches us in love
Plot
Adele is a youthful high school girl. In that year, she met a boy who is popular in everyone's mouth, tall, tall, and versatile. However, she did not fall in love, but was very detached and did not fall in love at all. Until, when she met the blue-haired girl, ripples appeared in the lake, and she was unconsciously attracted, as if there was an invisible force pulling her. This time, she finally knew that the old lady was in love!
Regarding the director and the style
deducting the length of challenging the limit of the human bladder, this film is very exciting. Even the master Ang Lee once praised: "At a glance, this film must be the winner of the Palme d'Or." Director Abu Dhakshish is best at capturing the appearance of life hidden on the edge of the romantic country through a realistic lens. Through this method, we can sharply explore the values of ethnic groups, classes, and families.
In "Blue is the Warmest Color", he explores the lesbian culture of gender issues, using an unbiased and non-evaluative perspective to present the true story of the story. Through this angle, the audience sees the fallacious discrimination and misplaced fantasy of this so-called peaceful world. Only then did I realize that in this structured society, human beings are alienated and lonely; it turns out that in this colorful dust, we are all covering ourselves with excuses and lies; it turns out that I, who are dismissive, are so eager A warm hug.
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is a gay parade in the story.
About editing and photography
Although the film is 179 minutes long, it will not be redundant. Because the director's editing is neat, when the mood of the story is clearly explained, it will be directly scheduled to the next screen. Often in the previous scene, the characters are clearly having a happy dinner, but the next scene is full of erotic sex, and the audience is caught off guard at the moment. The timeline is also the same. It’s only been a moment, but the characters have already entered the next time and space. After three and a half years, there will be no indication on the screen, and it is all up to the audience to discover it by themselves.
In addition, most of the shots in "Blue is the Warmest Color" feature close-ups of the characters' faces. This method completely captures the emotions of the actors, allowing the audience to fully understand the character's inner world and feel the lust. In the shooting of the scene, the director made the picture appear white, and made great efforts to capture the light, shadow and halo, which made the overall presentation very beautiful, which brought out the innocence of Romance.
---The following is the plot analysis and personal explanation of the sex scene, please be careful if there are spoilers--- The first hour of the
erotic exploration
movie, mainly focuses on Adele's erotic exploration. At first, she dated a handsome senior. The relationship was neither love nor liking. It was mainly due to the half-assistance of her classmates and her desire to be in love before she accepted the pursuit. But after dating, she found out that she was lying in the water, and she didn't feel any emotion in her heart, and making love was even more enjoyable than masturbating by herself. Sure enough, the senior got a good person card.
Then, in an accident, kissing a female friend, Adele felt an electric shock. She found out that the old lady loves women! As a result, I confessed the next day, only to find that the other party was just playing for a while. The girl is so disappointed.
Until she went to a gay bar, she met Emma, a blue-haired girl who fell in love at first sight on the street. Adele fell in love, had sex, and started a partnership.
In this plot we see the girl's erotic exploration. She finds love in different genders, confirming what my inner self really wants. But here, I think it is only about erotic identification, not sexual identification. Because then the director bullied "You don't come to lick my cunt" through the hilarious words of the classmates, expressing the prejudice against homosexuality in the campus. The humiliated Adele chose to deny it, because at this time, she did not consider herself gay (or bisexual).
After the incident, although she fell in love with Emma, she did not tell her colleagues, family and friends about the relationship. Although in the next few years, she should have established a certain sexual identity, but she still did not dare to publicize it. It is conceivable that in open romantic France, gays are still bound by certain social perceptions.
always cringe
Adele is a weird girl. She always chooses to date people with different styles from her, no matter how different their interests, clothes and eating habits are from hers. She only trusted her intuition, so she fell into love like this. But this also lays the groundwork for the latter part of the plot. . .
And Adele's personality is always afraid to face others, and has a protective mask. She only dares to talk to herself and write a diary. Even if she is full of literary talent, she never dares to publish her creations because she lives in a comfortable circle. When confronted with questions, she would rush to deny her lust and inner words, use lies to prevaricate and obscure the other party. In fact, she dare not dare to love, she will always keep one hand. In the eyes of the lover, this hand seems to be a betrayal, which compares the unequal love relationship between the two parties. In the end, Adele could only embrace loneliness.
Regarding sex
, the most controversial part of "Blue is the Warmest Color" is the sex scene, and even the actors rely on cups in follow-up interviews. Because it is not only a long shot, but even like a real gun. For example, when a male actor has a penis erection; when a woman is in love, both sides will lick their breasts, areolas, pinches their butts, caress their entire bodies, rub their pussy, finger fuck, and lick their clitoris (if not I licked it, I personally think that I licked the door outside the labia door anyway) and other plots, which made the audience stunned.
The following is an analysis of the three sexual encounters between Adele and Emma:
The first scene,
which happened when the two kissed for the first time, should be at Emma's house. This is the hottest one-time sex, both sides are all in order to make each other happy, and they bring out their own special skills, making themselves sweaty and wanton moaning. This time sex appeared, kissing, fingering, cunnilingus, caressing and so on.
From their passion, it can be seen that they had suppressed each other before, so when the sex opened the door, the two immediately ignited the fire. This time is the first page of love, and it is also the most intense stage of love.
second round,
It happened after the two had dinner at Emma's family. The focus this time is on "grinding tofu", that is, the clitoris rubbing the clitoris, which is the most direct and direct sexual position for lesbians to exchange body fluids. We saw the two heroines working hard, grinding and grinding, like Li Bai grinding an iron pestle into an embroidery needle, trying his best to make each other happy. This passage shows that the two are eager to climax with each other and have fun together, which symbolizes the stability of the partnership.
The third scene
happened after the two had a dinner at Adele's family. Maybe it was because she was worried that her mother and father would hear her lascivious cry of kindness. The two were more conservative this time. In addition to basic sex with each other, this time they hugged and kissed more. But it also implies that the passion will eventually recede. And when there is no passion in love, what is left?
When the passion recedes
, after the second hour of intense love, the third hour is not difficult to imagine, the life of a partner after many years. The two became relatives, with only company, no sex. Emma began to focus on art creation, ignoring her partner, and her fallacies were no longer exclusive to Adele, and began to have new objects, but only at the spiritual level. Adele had a one-night stand with a male colleague because she was bound by loneliness.
Wanting to know, Emma learned that she was furious and could not forgive. Here I personally think it symbolizes, (some) lesbian T's anger. They are always worried about the other half (the mother-in-law), especially the man they have been with. Since (part of) T almost exclusively associates with biological women, unlike (part of) mother-in-law who is bisexual, both men and women take it all. T will worry that her mother-in-law will one day leave her, be with boys, or even get married. So there is always a sense of insecurity.
(This is not to say that the mother-in-law is bisexual, but that this phenomenon exists in the "part" group of lesbians.)
Emma may have been dreading that Adele would leave. Moreover, she herself is obsessed with her partner's one-to-one moral values and cannot put sex into an open relationship, so even if she has feelings for others, she sticks to the bottom line. Based on the above reasons, she could not understand that Adele used loneliness as a reason to find warmth in the erotic body. This quarrel completely destroyed the love between the two, and Adele and Emma also came to an end.
There is no right or wrong here, one-on-one or open-ended is just an agreement between partners. Betrayal or not betrayal also refers to a certain degree of moral evaluation. However, in fact, from the beginning, Adele chose to date with Emma, who has a very different personality. She doesn't love philosophy, seafood, publishing her creations, or admitting her sexuality, all of which are completely different from Emma, but she chose to associate with Emma without hesitation. So when the passion fades, all that remains is the "inappropriate" that was not seen before. When the end of the story of
love passed away , it was three years after separation.
Emma has made a name for herself, holding a solo exhibition. Although it was discovered when they met earlier that the two were actually in love with each other, Emma did not choose to go further based on being in a partnership and unwilling to repeat the same mistakes. Adele, who was rejected, could only cry, sad that she could no longer love her.
In the gallery, Adele wore a blue shirt, the color she missed the most. She stared blankly at the painting, where she lost Emma. In these days, she has been replaced, and the blue of nostalgia has been covered by the strange red. She silently searched for the missing figure in her heart, and unconsciously, tears blurred her vision, she could no longer see, and could not see the trace of Emma's love. It seems that Emma has forgotten herself.
Therefore, Adele chose to leave without saying goodbye and walked out of the gallery alone.
Thank you for the love you once gave me, thank you for making me fall in love with this color, the warmest blue.
Conclusion
Although the movie is long enough, it is undeniable that "Blue is the Warmest Color" is extremely exciting. It faithfully presents the beginning and end of a love, allowing us to see the look of love constructed by the director. This film is recommended to audiences who admire masters, want to see sex scenes, are interested in lesbian gender culture, and are keen on French love movies.
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Her lips brought me here.
The first time I saw the promotion for this film was in the basement of the Yonecang Cafe. The heroine Adele lay quietly on the blue sea, sparkling, reflecting a just right curvature of her lips, exuding a desire through the corners of her mouth. Then I forgot when I was busy until Cindy asked me out.
She is a delicate girl. She has been arguing about watching the
Unexpectedly, this will be the result.
"If I was twenty-five, I would choose to forget, let go, turn around, and say goodbye to her without looking back. But I was fifteen, and I wanted to have a home, a real home. Home, and she once gave me such a dream. It's just this dream, this dream that once belonged to us, but was shattered by my own hands... Three years later, do you think, should I forgive her? But, I I don't know what to do, I just feel so powerless, so powerless..." Cindy said, tears dripping all over the open front of the white shirt. On Chongqing South Road on a holiday morning, the sun shone from her shoulders and between her ears, and sadness spread between us along the morning light.
"To be honest, I don't know either. If you leave like this, will you regret it ten years later?" I was still caught by her emotions, and I couldn't think of how to answer, so I used the most commonly used trick "Ten Years of imagination".
After watching the
"When you were young, if you fell in love with someone, please, please be sure to Treat him tenderly. No matter how long or short you have been in love, if you can always be tender with each other, then all moments will be a flawless beauty. If you have to separate, say it well Say goodbye, but also thank him in your heart for giving you a memory. When you grow up, you will know that when you look back suddenly, youth without resentment will have no regrets, like the one on the hill. A quiet full moon."
——Xi Murong, "Youth Without Complaints"
The love of youth is really the clearest and most transparent. Because of this, it hurts the most when we break up. A study surveyed 202 adolescents (about 96% were 12-18 years old) and found that the peak age of their most sad breakup was 14-15 years (50%) [1], which may also be Cindy and Adele in middle school. The lovelorn that will make them unforgettable for a lifetime.
However, age doesn't explain anything. In reality, Cindy and her ex-girlfriend, Adele and Emma in
01. A relationship that is obtained by force will only fade with time
. "You kept me busy this weekend." said Thomas, a handsome senior.
"Why?" Adele said, sucking her fingers as she ate the Pita.
"Marianne's life. I will definitely try to finish reading it!" The
so-called love is a process of getting close to each other with all the possibilities, and then alienating things that have nothing to do with him. The feeling of being immersed in love is often complex, we experience euphoria, infinite energy, daydreaming, inability to sleep or concentrate, etc. [2].
When you like someone, you want to use similar things, read the same books, and see the world in her eyes with your eyes[3]—even trying to convince yourself that two people are alike in many ways of.
On the bus, the scene where Senior Thomas and Adele accosted Adele clearly reflected this phenomenon. From weather and subject chat to the future and music, Thomas has been trying to find some intersection between the two. Adele said that he didn't like "hard rock music with long hair and no content." Thomas was worried that Adele didn't like his music because he happened to play hard rock. Adele explained that in the end, "you didn't have any length." Hair" has been moved out.
Thomas later even reluctantly read "Marianne's Life" for her. She hoped to enter Adele's world and try her best to experience the emotion she saw, but it didn't work in the end.
Eyes are an important detector of attractiveness, and we can see the obvious difference between the two people in the matter of gazing [4]: the senior has been peeking at Adele in the restaurant, but she is watching as she is crossing the road Emma (Emma also looked back at her), even thinking of Emma in her dreams, while masturbating. Perhaps, friends' incitement or mutual adjustment at the beginning can make each other have some good feelings [5], but the forced marriage will not be completed after all, and the two finally say goodbye on the park bench.
02. Attraction is not equal to love. A momentary love needs time to test. It's rare to fall in love at first sight, but you still have to get along to know if it's the right fit
. "Can I move?" Adele asked, a strand of hair touching her face and gently brushing her lips.
"No," Emma said, and Adele remained motionless.
"Really?" Adele asked weakly.
"Just kidding!" Adele stared at Emma the whole time.
Then Emma couldn't help kissing Adele, and the setting sun was looming between their lips. That kiss seemed to never stop.
In this way, relatively speaking, Adele and Emma's relationship seems to have a relatively good start. But why can't we get to the end? Adele bravely throws everything aside to find Emma regardless of everyone's eyes, isn't it love? My idea is that a momentary love needs more time to test. Many times, we think that this relationship is different from the past, but in fact, heartbeat and passion alone can allow us to accomplish many things.
Each round of gorgeous evening sunsets is followed by a long dark night. A 2004 study by Bartels and Zeki showed that romantic love suppresses areas of the brain involved in negative emotion and social judgment. That is to say, when you see a person who makes your heart move, you may turn a blind eye to those shortcomings, disagreements, decisions you know you shouldn't make, and feelings you know you shouldn't continue but you can't cut off [6]. In other words, we need more time to compare, whether it is just a passion for each other, or fate.
Maybe you will say that these ghosts about the love period have long been clear. But even if you "know", you can't help it. Swami and Furnham have pointed out that these positive illusions in the initial romance can make you optimistic about your relationship, willing to overcome all kinds of difficulties, shape the other person into an ideal appearance, pay attention to her good, ignore her bad. In the end, what we like may not be the other person herself, but the imaginary her—especially the person who falls in love at first sight[7]. (You ask, is love a ghost?)
03. The so-called growth is to learn to distinguish between "intercourse" and "fit", and to recognize that sex and love are two systems that can be operated separately. The fear is to misunderstand the fit of the body as the connection of the mind, and to classify the momentary pleasure in bed into the eternal happiness in the relationship.
With the increase of time together, Adele and Emma hide many obstacles and disagreements in the time outside the bed. When they go to each other's home for dinner, they can't show their most sincere selves to face each other's family and friends. Adele had to eat raw oysters, Emma had to pretend to have a boyfriend; at Emma's first presentation, the guests praised Adele's cooking skills, but Emma turned a blind eye; when Emma was talking about Schiele, Klimt and other artists, Adele Face dazed and so on. Neither of them could fit into each other's lives properly, but physical intercourse and contentment prevented them from leaving each other.
"About sex...I don't know if I'm satisfied. But when I'm with you, it's very different..." Emma said embarrassingly, bowing her head slightly when the two reunited in the cafe.
"But, I've been home alone...I mean, I'm lonely. I miss you. I miss us touching each other, feeling each other's breath. I want you, all the time," Adele said, while He put his mouth, tongue and hands together, but after a passionate kiss, Emma stopped him.
"I'm with someone else, you know...but I'll remember everything about us, forever and ever," Emma said, and Adele listened, tears and snot streaming down her nose. They finally understand that the passion of that period of youth has become an instant eternity, and they finally understand that although the body still desires, many things can no longer be returned to the past.
The so-called growth is to learn to distinguish between "intercourse" and "fit", and to recognize that sex and love are two systems that can be operated separately[8]. God often makes fun of us, the refuge found by desire is not necessarily the person who can accompany you all your life; on the contrary, some lovers are impeccable, only to find that the other party's skills are lackluster after going to bed, but they are embarrassed to say .
The fear is to misunderstand the fit of the body as the connection of the mind, and to classify the momentary pleasure in bed into the eternal happiness in the relationship. What we really should be looking for is not only someone who gives us more orgasms when it rains, but a partner who can be at ease in every moment we get along with.
04. Find a "real" person who can see your dreams and be kind.
Maybe you already knew that. In fact, I have said similar things in many places, but we are often doing the opposite two things:
because we love him so much, we make ourselves who he likes or wants to be.
Because I love myself so much, I try to make the other person who I want to be.
"I see in your paintings that you have a great desire to express! Your writing must be great, I want to read it..." At Emma's first art exhibition, art dealer Joachim praised Adele.
"She writes very well...I want her to write more." Emma tried to push from the back, hoping that Adele could "express herself", because "creating-presenting-sharing" has always been her important value . But Adele didn't like it. She was only used to writing her own things and reading them to those who cared about them.
I think the hardest part of being with someone is seeing and appreciating their ideals and values, rather than imposing their own expectations on them [9, 10]. Many pressures and conflicts in relationships are caused by mistaking "own expectations" as "the other party's ideals", and many "all for your own good" are actually just for your own good[11].
05. A person's departure is often accompanied by long-term helplessness. There has never been a single reason for breaking up. Those who think cheating has ruined love will eventually find that the two may have lost trust in love at some point in time.
"No need for liars here! Pack up for me and leave!" In Emma's loud roar, it's easy to think that Adele's cheating was the reason for the end of their relationship. But who can guarantee that after Emma and Lise exchanged affectionate glances at the last press conference, they will not continue to secretly communicate?
Adele's heart has been empty for a long time, unable to integrate into Emma's life, and when Emma is angry and scolded the art dealer on the other end of the phone, she can't even insert a word. After a long time, waiting with no bottom line turned into loneliness to knock on the door, so in the process of one, two or three times, I spent the night with my colleagues, drinking poison to quench my thirst.
The reason why a relationship breaks down is not because who falls in love with the other, but in the process of getting along, gradually forget the initial tacit understanding, and begin to carry a lot of feelings alone, swallow loneliness, and treat each other a lot. The grievances are hidden, because they are afraid that speaking, they will endanger this already precarious relationship [12, 13]. After a long time, the two of them talked about everything and walked away from talking to each other. When love loses trust, it is easy for another person to live in the crack.
06. The reason why many feelings have been continued in memory is because the two once had a too good past
"A few years later, my friends have half-jokingly asked me why I can't come out? Why do I still worry about a rotten person? She knows that she is used to squeezing out what she wants in different relationships. I have always been inseparable from her palm. In fact, I don’t need anyone to remind me that she is bad, I know better than anyone else; but she is good, but no one has really experienced it 100%. That’s why, until today, I haven’t given up, I haven’t been disappointed yet.” The number of people on Chongqing South Road gradually increased. On the day of 228, the open space of the Peace Memorial Park was full of pigeons and people with their families, which was an indescribable discord. She looked at me, and then looked into the distance, squinting, pursing her lips, trying to think about the weight of memory.
I looked at her biting her lip, and remembered the scene where Adele sat alone on a park bench after the two broke up in the movie
We are all aware that many of the "knowing...but..." after being dumped are not because of unclear brains, but just lack of courage. The reason why many feelings have been continued in memory is because the two once had a too good past. The kisses under the sunset, the rolling on the grassland, and the gasping on the sheets all lived too deeply into the body. So people who still love each other continue to mourn the remnants of the previous relationship, waiting to see if there are still some possibilities [14].
So until the end of the film, Adele is still wearing a blue dress, as if to commemorate the past. Awkward greetings, chatting, watching the exhibition in silence, turning around and leaving the gallery angrily, the person who once painted her and saw her beauty, now turns to painting others. Although there are still several portraits of her in the gallery, those belonging to the past can no longer be redrawn.
07. The gap filled for fear of loneliness will only fill the bigger hole. Everyone should have a unique place in your heart. No one can sit in someone else's chair.
"It seems very bad to say this, but when I found out that I didn't really like her, but her body, I suddenly felt much more relaxed. Many of the original contradictions and puzzled parts suddenly became clear. She smokes, I I don't like the smell of cigarettes; when she eats preserved egg tofu, it will be broken, I don't; she likes to take the MRT, I like to drive by myself... There are many incompatibility between us, but every time we have sex on the bed, I can't bear it. Fade out of this relationship. I didn't expect this delay to be three years, on and off, over and over again..." Cindy followed Adele and licked the spaghetti sauce on his lips with a long sigh.
As time goes by, there may still be some attachment, a little helplessness, and a little hope, but in the end, I still have to go on alone, and then on the way down, I meet another person who will make my heart move. people. Just like after Adele left the gallery at the end of the film, he turned right and walked along the wall. Those good things in the past may not be put down, but they can only be thrown behind.
Then, a man who had a dewy marriage with her, found that she had disappeared, rushed out to find her, but chose the opposite direction.
"Would it have made a difference if the man had chosen the right later, maybe catching up with Adele?" I asked Cindy, but she shook her head.
"I don't know. But I believe that the gap filled because of fear of loneliness will only fill the bigger hole. In fact, do the two of them really understand each other? Or is it just the man who gave Adele some warmth when she was lonely? If They didn't really understand, could Adele just go around and find someone who wasn't for them?" Cindy rolled the last of the dough with a fork and ate it clean.
The loneliness drawn by Adele's back, like Tian Fuzhen, is a mixture of three complex emotions. Young and his colleagues classified loneliness into three categories according to the duration of loneliness [15, 16]:
(1) Chronic loneliness: The inability to be with people who want to be together all the time.
(2) Situational loneliness: An empty feeling caused by major changes in life (such as breakup, widowhood, or divorce).
(3) Transient loneliness: a temporary feeling of loneliness due to some changes in time.
Emma left (situation), switched to teaching the first grade of elementary school (transition), and worked hard to support her life by herself, but she was still very empty. Because the seat for the soul has always been empty, this loneliness has been elongated and become chronic. If that man finds Adele, can he really accompany her out of loneliness? I don't know either, but what I know is that no one is the antidote to the other's loneliness, nor is it the salvation of the other's loneliness. Once the chair in our heart is empty, we will always want to find someone to fill it.
But later you will find that everyone should have his unique place in your heart. No one can sit in someone else's chair.
It turns out that dreaming of a soul is not a kind of perseverance
. Unconsciously, the streets of Taipei have been covered by the sunset, and a faint layer of light film covers the roofs of pedestrians, brick roads and roadside cars. I think about the evening when Emma kisses Adele in the film, the romance of the sun shining from the tip of the leaves on the two faces, and thinking about Cindy and her ex-girlfriend holding hands and breaking up in Yonghe No. 6 Park, all kinds of orange pictures one by one emerge. Then I remembered the class magazine written by several successful big boys in high school, depicting the longing for love and the splendor of dusk with silhouettes and pastels.
"Actually, I don't quite understand. Why do you like this kind of gorgeous thing so much, and then it will disappear?" The class guide in high school once asked us with a frown. From the cover to the bottom of a class magazine, the colors are burning clouds and sunset. At that time, I covered my eyes, and felt that all dusks symbolized a kind of depth, and every maple leaf has a memory.
I have heard a saying: "All sadness stems from loss." Perhaps we like staring at dusk so much, not because we like these memories of Huang Cheng, but because we must stare at these beauty and cherish every remaining moment of her. every second. So, until now, I still love to use these beautiful backlighting photos.
But a love, beauty alone is not enough. We often misunderstand lingering dreams as a kind of perseverance. Then, after several disputes and heartbreaks, I realized that the most beautiful happiness is not embracing the wind and rain, but being able to enjoy the ordinary.
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