There is a boy named Kevin in the film. He is very good at crying since he was a child. He doesn't cooperate with his mother. He seems to have a great hatred for his mother. The mother in the film worked very hard to play the role of mother, but failed to influence her son. In the end, her son became a murderer, leaving her mother alone in the family, and was insulted and spurned by the people around her all day long. The film is very artistic, the mother's memories one after another constitute the whole film, large red blocks, ketchup, paint, blood... In the red, this tragic mother is reflecting.
When I saw half of it, I made an imprecise conclusion. This is definitely a negative teaching material for parenting, and it is classic enough!
Record some snippets and talk about my point of view.
Fragment 1: Pregnancy and
childbirth after an unexpected pregnancy, the new father is happily holding the baby, while the mother is sitting on the bed with a worried or melancholy expression.
The film seems to have affected the mother's life plans because of this unplanned child. The mother's expression was enough to explain the child's unwelcomeness.
Fragment 2: The uneasy baby cries in front of the mother. The mother takes him to the construction site and uses the noise of the impact drill to cover up the son's crying.
I understand the mother's hard work very much. She takes care of the child at home alone during the day and lacks effective support. This initial cry is the child's revenge for the mother's unwelcome, or the child's temptation. He is testing whether the mother is patient enough with him and wants to convince himself that my mother welcomes me. I believe all babies understand, they just haven't learned the language yet!
Fragment 3: The mother put map wallpaper on all the walls of a room, and the son said, "You square maps, you are so stupid!" (The child also destroyed the map on the wall with paint)
Traveling around is a mother's ideal in life. She can only give up when she has a child. However, the mother did not really let go of her dream because of having a child. Instead, she faintly rejected the child. I remember a scene, he once told that As a little child, she hopes that she is traveling, that she is... In fact, she just tells the child "I hope I didn't give birth to you". And the child realizes his own enemy in the subtle interaction with his mother, so he is born with hatred for those dreams of his mother. All, the destruction in the back is easy to understand, but unfortunately my mother didn't understand it.
Fragment 4: Visiting the child in the cell, talking about the scar, the child said, "This is the most sincere thing you have ever done." Then he began to recall that one day, the son dropped a piece of shit in the diaper, and the mother was very angry, Impatiently helping the son to change the diaper, the son fart naughty to the mother, the mother was angry, fell the child, the child's hand was injured, leaving scars. (Later, the child helped the mother to conceal the truth in front of the father.)
In the son's mind, the mother's anger that time was "the most sincere thing". I understand it this way, in the child's heart, the mother's efforts have not been sincere. If you truly accept yourself, the child does not feel the love of the mother, but hate is what the child perceives from the mother.
Fragment 5: In the hospital, the nurse said to the mother, "Your son is so brave." The mother said nothing. The son's eyes were clearly looking for the mother's affirmation, but there was nothing.
Such indifference abounds in this film, and the son's eyes have always been full of longing, but he has never found it.
Episode 6: Young Kevin says to his mother, "I'll dress myself, can you get out?" The mother leaves hostilely.
Wouldn't things have been better if the mother had praised the child for dressing himself and leaving his son's room while pretending to roll. Of course, you can't do it without enough love. This love may not have been there in the first place.
Snippet 7: The mother takes her son to dinner with mini-golf, and there is no shortage of harsh, cynical footage throughout.
When the son eats chicken, the mother blames "We are going to have dinner in a while"; when I eat with the son, the mother says bluntly, "How are you doing in school"...
Fragment 8: The mother peeks at the son's things, and the computer is designed by the son of a virus blacken.
Needless to say, this is definitely the wrong way and way to deal with teenagers, it's too obvious.
Fragment 9: Dad and sister dance, and mom watches with relief. Kevin watched from a distance, a twisted hatred on his face.
After this shot, it was the son who killed his classmate, father and daughter, a devastating revenge. It's a sort of revenge that's been more than a decade old for the sequel. Perhaps it is not difficult to understand. Kevin has slowly developed into an antisocial personality disorder over the years. However, I don't agree that he was born with it.
Fragments ten and eleven: These two clips appear in the middle of the film. One is that the child is sick. Perhaps it is the first time that he is snuggling in his mother's arms and listening to the story. There is no previous rebellion and resistance. Another is that the son stopped at the door of the bookstore, looking at the large poster of his mother.
These two shots are enough to convince me that my son is not a born bad guy, he is just a little guy who lacks love.
Fragment 12: The son comes out of the crime scene and surrenders to the police, his eyes are searching, his eyes are full of pride.
I guess the son is looking for his mom and that's what drives him to do it all. He is pursuing his mother's approval. He wants to show his mother how powerful he is, and he can actually decide the fate of so many people. This destructive drive seems to me to be the lack of the love and acceptance he has been craving.
Fragment 13: The final fragment, two years after the crime, the mother went to see the son in the prison, and at the end, the mother said, "Do I want you to tell me why?" The son said, "I used to think I knew, but I'm not sure now." (here the son's eyes are soft and his eyes are red)
I understand this ending like this, after two years of reflection, there is some tenderness in the mother's eyes, and all this is what the son has been looking for of. Maybe now that the son feels it, he finds it, the drive that was lurking in his life has finally faded.
After watching it once, I'm sure I'll watch it again. This is definitely a movie that every parent and teacher should see.
Kevin, who is naturally sensitive, has been pursuing his mother's unconditional acceptance. He searched and searched, but never found it, so he adopted extreme methods.
Not every child who is not treated correctly will be like Kevin, but the exaggerated movie plot may just be the biggest warning.
The mother in the film is pitiful, but she has an unshirkable responsibility. Of course, she didn't get the real support of her husband. His husband didn't really understand the problems his wife was facing. He always felt that the child was still young, he didn't get support, and he didn't have self-help and help, which eventually led to a tragedy.
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