Why many people miss their youthful years, because they can be willful. If you want to fight, fight, if you don't want to fight, fight with your teachers and parents, even if you are restrained, no one can restrain your thoughts, you can fantasize about everything in class, you can also When it comes to falling in love, as long as you want, no one can stop you from falling in love. Instead, it may increase the drama of youth because of many obstacles. It's like Jia Baoyu was beaten, but the first dozens of times were a youth documentary, like a dream, out of touch with reality. It can almost be said that most people born in middle-class families have rough youth, but they haven't touched the truth of life. , that's why some people rely on the old to sell the old and say to the young people, how old are you, there is nothing to be unhappy about.
In the first part of the trilogy, the female protagonist is still reading, and the male protagonist is obviously not grown up, so they are talking about books, music, fantasy, they may be very busy, but they have no distractions, no pressure, and no relationships Twenty years old, still enjoying the youthful years, this is the ideal life for everyone.
Why can I think about philosophical problems when I was a child? Because of practical problems, my parents helped me think about it. After going to work, I go to work early in a small city. It might be 7 o’clock when I go home. It’s 9 o’clock to make a meal and wash the dishes. I order takeaway to save time, and I get tired of ordering around.” It may be 9 o'clock at home, relax a little, and entertain yourself. There is no time. This is still single life.
Either take all the time to work, start caring about what to eat tonight, or play games, and life becomes "vulgar."
Or you feel lonely and want to have a partner in life. I hope someone will talk to you about something new. In the beginning, everyone will pretend to pretend that there are many other things in life besides work besides work. Maybe you will find that this person has Many strange views and many strange things have been done, but these novelties are the result of the other party's ten or twenty years of accumulation. What's more, there are all kinds of unsatisfactory life.
In the second part of the trilogy, the conversation has changed significantly, starting to talk about work, starting to talk about bad news, starting to talk about the world is getting worse, starting to talk about failed marriages or relationships. Compared with the first part, although the story of the first part is like a dream, it may really take place in Europe, while the story of the second part, although the content of the chat is very real, but the people who meet again after a long time. , is it really so fast to enter the play? It is precisely because of the setting of the reunion after a long absence that the story can still be romantic enough, and temporarily put aside the bad status quo.
In this film, the filters of the first encounter and the long-awaited reunion have been removed, so that people have to take off their masks and face the bloody truth of life. Although there are not many scenes of children in the film, the core disputes revolve around children. Similar to life, not having children can solve most conflicts, but in a sense, DINK is similar to youth. Youth is the reality that parents bear, while DINK is that other people who have children bear part of the reality---if everyone Barren, everything we touch will not exist.
Most importantly, does not having children really solve the problem?
As far as selfishness is concerned, although children are troublesome, they have vitality, and let some people who are unable to struggle in reality see hope and the youthful years that they can never return. This is very selfish, but useful.
Many couples feel uncomfortable when they have no children, or, if they are too familiar, they will be dull.
Living together for a long time, even if there are no children, it will be dull, or if there are children who bring new shocks, it may become closer, but this is not the point, the point is that responsibility may not necessarily be a good thing.
Why couples always quarrel over their children is basically because of their sense of responsibility. Although we like to blame our parents for our current situation, maybe the parents don’t have so many problems, or the scope of their control is extremely limited. , Even if parents can send their children to key schools, they still cannot control the school environment. Is the environment of key schools sure to be good? All is well? Parents also want to discuss movies, romance or martial arts novels, philosophy, and their wild fantasies, but they have to give up their time because of their children.
Then there will be arguments between husband and wife, their parenting thinking is likely to be very different, they both think they are right, and they insist because they have to shoulder the responsibility of being parents, things become complicated. Maybe they're all right, maybe they're all wrong, maybe none of their ways can change this kid's life. Pedagogy is a subject that is difficult to experiment and falsify. And there are too many variables out of control.
What if there are no children? Accountability remains an issue. We always expect each other to solve some problems for us, and also expect to solve many problems ourselves, otherwise it is like a losing rooster.
But in fact, life without a sense of responsibility is not that bad.
For example, I once lived with a very good friend, and we became dull afterwards. Our greatest pleasure was probably going to various parties together, seeing each other's friends, and then going home together, blinding on the empty road in the early morning. shake.
We don't have any conflicts, I think the trick is that we don't expect each other, we don't expect each other to solve the problems we see in our own eyes: cleanliness, computer and air conditioner failures, work setbacks, finances Physical distress, emotional distress...
We can help if we can, but we never expect the other party to help us solve it. We are grateful if we can solve it, but if we can’t solve it, we should listen carefully, but stay out of it, we will not ask the other party to have a sense of responsibility. The only two senses of responsibility are probably sharing the rent and the most basic housework (not all because there are always people who prefer cleanliness)
But between men and women, can we do it? Can it be done without any other requirements and expectations?
I often hear people complaining about their partner: What's the use of asking him/her?
We all know that "useful" is not romantic at all, so this is the path we chose by ourselves, and there are others that don't. It's just that Ye Gong is a good dragon, because we start to face the bloody life.
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