- perfectionism. Jobs' perfectionism mirrored his obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. 8 Criteria for Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder: √ Conscientiousness. Strict adherence to plans, rules, order, anxiety when the rules are broken, or anger and irritability. Strict compliance and careful implementation are actually the way to avoid or control anxiety. √ Perfectionism. There are very high standards and will go back and forth around a plan until it's just right, sometimes even delaying the completion of the plan. √ Workaholic. Overcommitment to work is not due to financial problems or prestige, but voluntarily or fondly, and they live for career, work, and achievement. ? Mind closed. There is a closed and rigid set of values, morals or ethics. ? waste collector. Items cannot be discarded even if they have no financial or emotional value. √ Stubborn. Blindly sticking to his own claims, asking others to do things exactly his way, can become provocative and argumentative when asked to do something by others. √ Scrooge. Saves himself and others, and is reluctant to spend money on things that are purely hedonic, pleasurable, or impulsive. √ Stereotyped and stubborn.
- Anger at the biological father. He brings a man who fits the ideal father image to his biological father's restaurant, and wants to use the power of this perfect father to silently defeat the victory that once abandoned him. But he still did not dare to face the challenge of his biological father, because no matter how successful and respected he is now, he was created by the person in front of him. Facing his creator, he was still as helpless as an abandoned baby. He wasn't sure if he had a way to overcome his father, and the anxiety of losing control was something he had to avoid, so he avoided seeing his father. The anger that could not be vented against his father could only be transferred through empathy, so he did not hesitate to force the board to fire Sculley in a way of "either I go or he goes". Sculley doesn't recognize his product as the trigger, and the patriarchal urge that comes with anger empathy is the main reason.
- distrust of love. Parents should be the people who love their children the most in the world, but he was abandoned by his own parents. Even the person who should love him the most has not given him love, so how can he believe in the love between people. Love cannot give him security. His expectations for relationships are competition and confrontation, not cooperation and mutual love. The result of projected identification is that the relationship between the other person and him breaks down as expected. When he can't control other people's love for him, he gains a sense of control in opposition. It seems like a kind of fatalism, "You see no one will love me, everyone will abandon me", but it is actually the product of a self-fulfilling prophecy or projected identity.
- Reverse identification with biological father. Gain a sense of strength by being the stronger in your relationship, avoid being the weaker again, and turn passive into active. But the reverse identification is actually a kind of division and repression, and there are only two independent forms of black and white by default.
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