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In March 2018, a few of our friends hit it off and organized a weekly movie watching event. Because the venue was chosen to be in the middle of the mountain, it was named "Watching Movies in the Mid-Levels".
The purpose is very simple. We always stubbornly believe that most of the people who love watching movies are the same people. We also want to know if there are some similar people who can chat in Zhuhai, a lonely city with poor literature and art.
We don't know, but we'd love to know.
So, watching a movie together, drinking a cup of black tea and chatting is the scene we designed: enjoy a moment of warmth in this ruthless world
In our first half-mountain movie viewing event, I chose "Big Fish" as the first movie. This is a movie about the relationship between father and son. In my opinion, this is also a film about understanding, but also a film about loneliness.
On the one hand, we want to be understood by the world because we are alone. On the other hand, we don't even get the understanding of our loved ones, so our loneliness has nowhere to go.
People who are always eager to be understood often end up being less than satisfactory, and almost always fall into an endless loop: constantly misunderstanding the world in the process of deepening the probability of being misunderstood by the world.
People grow up gradually from the family, so the beginning of misunderstanding usually starts from the misunderstanding of relatives. If so, to apply the ancient Chinese saying: the bell must be tied to the bell. Can we truly reconcile with the world the moment we understand and forgive our loved ones?
I don't know.
Also in 2018, I spent the most difficult year in my life in a precarious and turbulent year. My father passed away due to illness. I completely lost the opportunity to talk to him. I can no longer make my father understand my every decision. Love and hate, should have let him know sooner.
And now it is no longer possible.
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In the blink of an eye, the calendar turned to July 2019. The filming in the middle of the mountain was suspended for a period of time due to venue problems. We decided to continue and restarted in a better venue. At that time, we were full of confidence that we were going to complete the "Mid-mountain Movie Viewing" event of 1001 Nights.
This time, I defied all opinions again, insisted on my own way, persuaded my friends, and chose a movie about the father-son relationship to share with you.
The first time I saw this movie was in 1994.
That summer was as hot as this summer. After finishing the high school entrance examination, I had nothing to do. I took the train to the south, from a small town in northern Guangdong to the provincial capital of Guangzhou, and stayed at my sister's university to play. The happiest entertainment every night is to go to the off-campus video hall to watch the World Cup live. Due to the time difference, the US World Cup starts in the middle of the night in China. In order to increase income, the owner of the video hall wants to keep as many guests as possible before the game starts, so he will put a movie as a cushion.
During that time, I was fortunate enough to see a lot of movies that I had never seen before, which opened a door for my growth. The most memorable one is "This Killer Is Not Too Cold". There is also this film that I didn't quite understand at the time, but I gradually understood it later, and I understood "In the Name of the Father", which is already a character in the film.
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I love watching movies about the father-son relationship.
This is related to my own upbringing.
In my opinion, father and son are not born as father and son, but gradually become father and son as the boy grows up. In the beginning, fathers and boys were only biological fathers and sons. As the boy grew up and his father got older, the boy began to no longer believe, obey or even understand his father.
The father also gradually decreased from the superman in the boy's eyes to an ordinary and ordinary person.
Our journey to becoming a man is so long. The first step in growing up was to break free from the bondage of his father. The boy's understanding of the world is: If I want to step on the earth under my feet, I will become a real man, and I want to become a man in the sky because of the obstacles of my father. I must break through him, oppose him, and defeat him in order to become a man. A real man.
then,
You will take your father's silence as dullness;
You will take your father's patience as cowardice;
You will regard your father's insistence as incompetence;
You will take the responsibility of the father as cowardice.
Our journey to becoming a man is so long. Why don't you think dad is going to fight for this, fight for that? Why can't you be the person everyone praises? Why can't I be the official father that my classmates say? You can't figure out why your father didn't beat the table when he was rejected in the unit? Well, I admit that with your IQ and experience at the time, you must have no idea why every time you go to your father's work unit in the morning, why does he have a bowl of hot wonton noodles waiting for you on his table.
Our journey to becoming a man is so long. The fist you throw at the world, you don't know you can't beat a fly. You are delusional about defeating your own father. As everyone knows, your father expects your growth more than you, and has long wanted to lose to you. It wasn't until later that you slowly understood what your father often said, intentionally or unintentionally: the blue is better than the blue.
When I was in junior high school, I learned Zhu Ziqing's "Back View", and I didn't understand why the back view of leaning on the platform would make the author burst into tears. It's a shame you read it too early, at an age you don't understand.
Unfortunately, our growth is always so long, long enough to leave countless regrets.
Fortunately, we have always been able to make up for it, because before you know it, you have been connected with him, and your spirit has inherited him unconsciously: In "In the Name of the Father", Daniel Finally, I understood the strength and wisdom hidden under my father's seemingly weak appearance, so that I could fear no authority, and bravely resisted and shouted: "In the name of my father and the name of the truth, I will fight to the end." In that scene, I burst into tears. .
is for memory.
For the movie we watched together this week, and for the father we still don't fully understand.
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