Violet ecstatically announced to Tom that he had been accepted by the University of Michigan. Tom left the job that was about to be promoted without saying a word, and followed Violet to Michigan. Violet willingly accepted this arrangement and promised to return to San Francisco within two years.
When Tom applied for a job, an employee of a restaurant mocked Tom's stupid decision exaggeratedly. It was embarrassing to see Tom standing awkwardly in front of a bunch of people. At this time, the picture returned was that Violet took the lead in the university. It was amazing and recognized by the professor. Perhaps from then on, there was a gap and obstacle between the two.
If the two parties in the marriage are in extremely unequal social status, then this contradiction will certainly continue into the family. This is why so many full-time wives cried about their husbands' affair and infidelity.
Tom, as a man, would definitely not tell Violet the unpleasantness he encountered in a strange city, even though this person is his closest relative. Tom's deep sense of loneliness at home alone gradually made him separate from society and the crowd. Wearing extremely exaggerated and funny sweaters, going out hunting with the old men among the two boudoirs, the way of doing things and behaviors has been extremely unable to integrate into Violet's life.
When Violet started to feel that Tom was a failure like the result of the experiment because Tom ate an expired donut, Violet was disappointed and afraid that he wanted to leave. When tom learned of this, his emotions couldn't be restrained and got out of control. I see that I am extremely disappointed with Violet here, but not disappointed with Tom.
Violet is an extremely self-conscious person, and all he sees is his own work. Although I learned that Tom was very unhappy, but after forcing Tom to roar unhappy at night, there is no more information. And seeing Tom break away from the whole society step by step and become the "loser" in her eyes.
Feelings are not blindly given by a person, no matter how much that person loves you. When others continue to make concessions and sacrifices for you, timely return is a necessary condition for maintaining the relationship. You can't ask the other person to keep the same pace as you. Constantly asking will only make the relationship shattered.
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