[Friendly Reminder Ahead: Slight spoilers, watch with caution]
Under the strong recommendation of many friends, I watched "Wrestling, Dad" alone last night, and I couldn't stop it many times from beginning to end. With tears in my eyes, it's no wonder that the word of mouth exploded with a score of 9.7. Even when I write this article, my heart is full of moving feelings.
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The point that touched me the most in the film is: a person's growth often starts from defeating his parents and becoming a winner, then he breaks away from his parents' control to explore the world, and finally returns to gain recognition beyond his parents and establish a deeper connection.
Father Mahavir strictly trained his daughters Gita and Barbita to wrestle since childhood. At this moment, for them, his father is a god who admires and reveres and completely agrees with his father.
The eldest daughter, Geeta, under the guidance of her father, went through all the difficulties and finally won the national championship. Geeta said to his father, "I'm going to train at the National Sports Academy, and my coach is no longer you." The father realized that his daughter was going to be separated from him and that he no longer needed him. At this time, Geeta, who has been eager to get out of his father's control, finally has the opportunity.
Geeta, who returned from the national team, expressed his denial of his father's skills. This scene completely angered his father. So staged the most shocking scene in the whole movie: Geeta's fight with his father. His father was old and his physical strength was not as good as before. Geeta locked his father firmly on the ground and completed the ritual of defeating his father in action.
Geeta has lost many matches, proving his father right. On both ends of the phone, Geeta and his father cried each other, completing the reconciliation between the two parties.
In the highest arena, without his father present, Geeta achieved a shocking reversal at a desperate juncture. The moment she became a world champion, she completed the psychological defeat of her dependence on her father, which was a complete transcendence! This kind of transcendence made her cry out loudly!
When she ran to her father, she suddenly turned back to the childhood daughter who looked up to her father reverently. With tears in her eyes, her father said excitedly and earnestly, "You are my pride." She waited ten years for this sentence. So far, Geeta has gained his father's recognition that he has surpassed him.
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first rebellious period of children's growth is to challenge their parents, which is an inevitable process of self-establishment. When we were young, we constantly challenged our parents and felt the strength of our parents when we were frustrated, and we identified with them.
When we grow up, we all have to go through a ritual of defeating our parents, complete the denial of our parents, and completely grow into independent individuals. This "defeating ceremony" may be that one day the father finds that his son's height and strength have surpassed him, or maybe the daughter finds herself by declaring her choice of emotions and career.
The eldest daughter Gita in the film declares her sovereignty by breaking away from her father's control, defeating her father in the wrestling ring to complete a semi-successful defeat ceremony, and winning in the arena without her father, declaring that she is completely spiritually separated from dependence and completes the ritual of defeating her father. grow into an independent self.
It can be said that the growth of a child starts from the moment when he defeats his parents and becomes a winner, completes separation and declares independence.
Jobs once told the story of him and his stepfather:
About 10 years ago, I admired my stepfather, an auto mechanic, and learned a lot from him. But one day, I found out that while discussing circuit problems with my stepfather, he couldn't keep up with my train of thought. At that moment, I realized that I had surpassed the man I admired. In the days to come, I left my stepfather far away. However, I have never forgotten the inspiration and influence that my stepfather gave me as a child.
From "worshiping parents" to "surpassing parents", it is our life-long reconciliation with our parents. Parents are also expecting us to surpass themselves, but at the same time are afraid of our own old age. However, parents should not break through the boundaries to hinder their children's growth, nor be too strong and become a mountain that their children will never be able to overcome. The rivalry and pursuit between parents and children is not easily mentioned on the surface, but it has never been light.
Wait until one day, you surpass my height, please don't mourn my old age, just like, I look forward to your surpassing.
[This article was originally created by Lan Yuxuan, please indicate the copyright and source for reprinting]
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