Celeste has never been willing to look directly at it. That is domestic violence. She believes that marriage is complicated. It is never perfect. Every family has its own problems. She also has problems, so she must work hard to solve the problem. This kind of self-deception is very well filmed by TV series, at least let me stand in her perspective and think in her way. She is very beautiful and has a successful career. Although she doesn't know what her family and growing environment are like, from the perspective of her dealings with others, she is very considerate, gentle and considerate of others, so it is not difficult to understand, she thinks The misfortune in her marriage is that she is not doing well enough, and she could have worked harder and helped him. She believes that he is a gentle, handsome, successful man who takes good care of his children, treats her like a goddess, and respects her, but he has some problems that need to be fixed, so she can endure it again and again, and feels that she has a responsibility, There are also problems.
She has always thought this way, until the psychologist, from a calm and optimistic perspective of a third party, broke through her endless cycle of thinking, and she didn't realize what she had endured over the years.
Then why did she not know it in such a loop? Maybe at first, Perry was the perfect lad, he was fascinating, they fell in love, got married, and the violence got worse, celeste loved the bright side of him, he was nice to the kids, she Self-esteem is also very high, so whitewashing is peaceful. She couldn't tell what was a problem that could be corrected and what was domestic violence, and she lived in this environment again and again. If I were her, would I do better than her? I don't think so. I also have low self-esteem, and if something unpleasant happens, I tend to think it’s my own problem, and I need to make myself better, such as better emotional management, less provoked, less angry, and able to handle it well The various situations and personalities are very similar to what celeste does. She went to consult and said that there is a higher strategic communication method that can alleviate the problems in the marriage. She said that she would also be angry and would beat him too aggressively, and she also had a responsibility (in fact, it was just a natural counterattack of being beaten), so what she needed was communication Strategy, good emotional management, but is it really like this? There is no problem with celeste's communication. Perry's desire for control and violent tendencies can happen in any scene and under any excuse. It is not something that celeste can talk about well (she is already very good at talking, too goddess), so celeste What is wrong is the problem, the other party's violence is the problem, not her way of communication. It also misjudges what is a solvable problem and what is a situation that must be left immediately.
In another situation, at work, what if your boss verbally abused you?
Therefore, it is not easy to distinguish between right and wrong. It requires wisdom, courage, and a high degree of self-recognition, as well as good supportive friends.
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