This show made me see myself as a child.
1. Pesci was scolded and scolded by her mother since she was a child. Her mother was emotionally unstable. During the driving process, her emotional outburst led to a car accident. One of her sons died as a result. Mary Louis blamed Pesci for the death of her other son. When Pesci was growing up, her mother constantly scolded and even used violence, which led to the violence of Pesci after marriage, and she threw her fist at his wife.
2. Let's look at Bonnie again. Bonnie in the first season is the most beautiful. The second season gradually reveals her true appearance. She has her own fears. In fact, the last scene of the first season has already hinted that Bonnie is seeing When Pesci violently treated his wife, his reaction was very strong, so strong that he triggered his instinctive protection ability. He instinctively pushed down Pesci, and instinctively covered his neck to protect himself. Because she is also a victim of violence, and her violence comes from her mother. Although she seems to have a good relationship with her mother, in fact, her mother often used violence against Bonnie when she was a child. Bonnie loved her mother and hated her at the same time. , I feel the same feeling. I was beaten for no reason when I was a child, which caused a great shadow on me. Other children were beaten naughty, but I was beaten for no reason, and the unfortunate things happened to my parents were all mine. Wrong, I have to study hard, I have to be obedient and obedient, I have to become discerning, because I know that if I don't obey me, I will not be liked. I can only live peacefully if I am likable. When my parents are in a down mood, I think about whether I have done something wrong, and my meaning has become to make others happy.
3. Chloe gradually has the shadow of her mother. She is good at expressing and likes to talk, but she has also learned from her mother's big mouth and open mouth. They have no bad intentions, but they will always hurt them intentionally or unintentionally. other people.
I feel deeply about this. My parents were not in a happy marriage. They had a lot of quarrels. When I grew up, I couldn't recall the really happy smiles of my parents. All I thought of were their quarrels, throwing things, Holding scissors to commit suicide, getting angry and twitching, taking sleeping pills, drinking pesticides and calling an ambulance to go to the hospital for gastric lavage, my mother has been talking about my father's fault all my life, everything he did is wrong, everything he does is not good, When complimenting him, it's just "your dad is good, very hard-working, hard-working, but...", the art of human speaking is always like this, no one will remember what "but" said before, because you really What matters is what comes after the "but". But is there really only one right thing to do in a lifetime? Certainly not. The most important principle of getting along with people is "respect the matter". Of course it's a bit of a stretch, so back to the point. When I was a kid, I hated the most hated people like this, people who would commit suicide, but I have a shadow of my mother in me, I would run away from home after a fight, and for a while I even wanted to end my life, but when I realized it , I found that this is the person I hated the most when I was a child, but I have lived like that. I strongly oppose myself. I have to stay rational and think rationally. In fact, everyone is more or less affected by their parents. You will think that what parents do is right, or at least feasible, but often this kind of thinking will lead us to an infinite loop, so I would say that your children will gradually become like you, so we try to do our best Tell your children to think independently, that your life is yours, and that you have the right to say "No" to your parents.
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