Hellinger found that a family would be more balanced and stable if the father was the son, and the husband was the wife. Correspondingly, if a society achieves the principle of "the ruler is the guide of the ministers", it will naturally be relatively stable.
However, if the three cardinal guides are regarded as absolutely correct, and filial piety and loyalty to the monarch are elevated to unparalleled heights, then a very serious split occurs. The basis of the absolute correctness of the Three Cards is actually that the ruler is perfect, the father is perfect, and the husband is perfect, so that ministers, sons and wives will follow them willingly. But this situation cannot exist, so 100% willing follower cannot happen, and there must be all kinds of dissatisfaction as a courtier, child, and wife. At this time, if these grievances are not allowed to occur, it does not mean that they do not exist. Instead, they have a more terrifying existence -- they exist in the subconscious in all sorts of twisted ways.
Also, the existence of distortions in the subconscious can prevent a person from feeling true love. A child can behave perfectly to his parents, but in his sleep he may gnash his teeth at them. A wife can be nearly perfect in her behavior, but she may feel emptiness and feel that life is meaningless.
Even if we don’t want to be a complete enlightened person, but just want to have a happy and fulfilling life, we need to open a channel inward to connect with the love that lies deep in our hearts. To do this work is not to advocate all kinds of great truths, but to respect the true feelings, and in doing so, the heart will gradually bloom like a lotus flower.
I have heard many stories and found a common truth: if a person has dissatisfaction, anger or even hatred for a loved one who should be loved, then allow dissatisfaction, anger and even hatred to flow in the heart, and allow them to be in a space where they will not be criticized. In the presence of these so-called negative emotions, these so-called negative emotions will melt and dissolve, and eventually love will flow again, and the love at that time is the real love
Film and psychology are both professions that love people and respect the soul
While watching the movie, although I felt oppressed, uneasy, breathless, unable to jump out, I recalled that if more and more people understood the meaning of it, then love would really be in the world
But it is precisely because of this emotional color that there are such great stories and movies. It is also another color and love. At the same time, let people in reality see it and then believe in love and respect love.
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