Text / Luo Xiaoke
It is said that the British drama "Downton Abbey" has excellent picture quality, and every detail reveals exquisiteness, and has a taste of the etiquette and culture of the lives of many British aristocrats at that time.
Recently, I also fell in love with the court drama "The Crown" made by Netflix, with the same intention and perfection. After chasing the first season, I deeply sighed, "If you want to wear a crown, you must bear the weight", and I also realized a few truths about marriage and love.
1. Even if you are a queen, it is difficult to balance career and family.
Before becoming queen, Elizabeth was the carefree little girl who indulged in the romance and innocence of her newlyweds.
She traveled to Africa with her husband Philip, and her life seemed to be full of poetry. But as her father's health deteriorated and finally died calmly, she had to provoke the Queen's responsibility.
From then on, she is no longer a simple wife, mother, sister, daughter, but a heavy-bearing queen.
As Grandma wrote her in that letter: " Because she has now been replaced by another, Queen Elizabeth. The two Elizabeths will often clash, and the truth is that the crown must prevail, and it must always prevail. "
Later, Elizabeth's career became more and more busy, and she gradually ignored and neglected her husband Philip. She once wanted to be a good wife, but in front of Wang Quan, everything could only be compromised.
Philip's bohemian heart was destined to be unbearable and dull. His own Thursday club, with mistress after mistress, became a queen of scandal.
In today's real life, whether it is a working woman or a housewife, it is difficult to balance career and family.
This in itself is a false proposition. Being a workplace queen like Tang Jing, or a full-time wife like Luo Zijun would not be happy.
It is said that being a woman is difficult, and being a woman who can balance career and life requires wisdom and the unconditional support and tolerance of the other half.
2. Maintain the ability to learn at all times
The queen is also a profession, and it is not easy to resign and change jobs. Because of such a royal halo, all British citizens will maintain awe and respect for the royal power.
Elizabeth had been learning how to work hard to be the queen, and later found herself ignorant in the process of chatting with the Prime Minister.
She ran to ask her mother why her education was different from others. In fact, many things are doomed, and the textbook she has studied since she was a child is the constitution.
She has never been involved in a professional field such as humanities and social sciences, mathematics and physics. Therefore, she felt panic and depressed, and then thought about learning more knowledge to assist her constitutional monarchy.
Therefore, as long as she has free time, she will take the initiative to fill in some blank areas, and her governance ability will become more and more skilled and stable.
Women, especially women in marriage, need to take on too many responsibilities and roles. Whether it is in the workplace, or in the kitchen and love, learning can never stop.
3. A happy marriage is not something you get for nothing, it requires joint management and understanding
In this play, I think the happiest couple is the Churchills.
When attending Elizabeth's wedding, they walked through the scene with their hands clasped together and sprinkled a handful of dog food; when confronted with political struggles, she always listened to his voice and gave this man silent support; Churchill had a hobby of painting oil paintings , she accompanied me gently all afternoon.
Churchill was at an advanced age, and his body was always in trouble. She persuaded him to live peacefully in his later years, and not to cling to the political ideal of "being an old man, and aiming for a thousand miles".
The most touching scene is when Churchill gave his wife an affectionate look when he finished expressing his impassioned eyes to the dignitaries. The moment the eyes met, said everything.
Therefore, a happy marriage is never something that comes for nothing, it also requires the joint management of two people. In a sense, the Churchills are already soulmates, and they can understand each other's state of mind without saying much.
A happy marriage is when you are making fun of him and laughing, and there are three meals for two people in one room for four seasons.
4. When you are envious of others, others are also envious of you
As the queen's sister, Margaret seems to have a weak sense of eternal existence.
She's pretty, egoistic, and even a little rebellious. But because of her sister's halo, she will never be the one who shines enough. He fell in love with Colonel Thompson, a divorced retainer, and fell into endless rumors.
Under the pressure of the royal family, her love is a victim after all. She envied her sister's seemingly successful position and career, as well as her complete marriage.
She also temporarily replaced her sister's position to perform some official duties, and gained a little sense of satisfaction and achievement.
On the contrary, Queen Elizabeth is also envious of her sister Margaret. Occasionally, you can be self-willed, without taking responsibility, and you can make decisions that violate human nature without the constraints of royal power.
Everyone wants to wear a crown, but they don't know what the crown means. All choices have a price.
As Zweig once said: " She was still young at that time, and she didn't know that the gifts that fate gave her were marked with a price."
After watching this drama, I can't help feeling that many times when you are inadvertently envious of other people's seemingly gorgeous life, maybe others are secretly envious of your peacefulness.
There is no easy word in adult life, and every choice has a corresponding price.
In such an impetuous moment, it is not easy to maintain the original intention. Being able to work hard in your own time zone may be the best explanation for the future.
Author: Luo Xiaoke, a commoner mother who married to Taiwan, writes everything about Taiwan, and is obsessed with film reviews of European and American dramas. Don't forget the original intention, Fang De is always.
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