independent personality

Kacie 2022-04-22 07:01:15

It felt weird when I just watched it. It seems to be telling a story of a humble dream, but it doesn't seem to be. I'm pretty sure this is one of my top ten films, but I can't figure out why. It wasn't until I thought about this film just now that I thought about it in my life, and suddenly recalled the song "Stan" that had accompanied me into the night time and time again, and then I realized what it was.

Actually, it’s not about dreams, it’s not about justice, and it’s not an anti-inspirational story of little people.

The title of the film has already given a footnote that it doesn't matter whether the assassinated Jesse is a hero, what matters is that Robert is a coward.

No matter what Jesse does, whether suspicious or violent, robbing or hiding from the police, it is his own choice.
And no matter what Robert does, he has no choice.

He's collected a bunch of comic strips about Jesse that he doesn't know actually has nothing to do with him. He followed Jesse's ass, he didn't know he could stop and turn around and do something else. He thought he had shot a great man bravely, and others would applaud him. He didn't know that Jesse chose to unload his weapon and sacrifice his back at that time, but he had no choice in fear. Gun raised.

Robert's life is tied up by everything about Jesse. He stood in the distance and looked at the halo of this hero, running thousands of horses in his heart to chase each other, but it seemed that he would never get there. He's lived in the word "Jesse" all his life, led by an image outside him that doesn't even exist, and he didn't realize it until after Jesse died.

Can, but must not, is power. The reason why Jesse is an adult and Robert is just a coward is because the former has the power to dominate himself and the latter doesn't. A person who hasn't grown up, no matter how amazing things he does, can't be a hero, right?

I often want to tell you that to be an independent person is not about ability, but a matter of attitude. I stubbornly think that mine cannot be separated from you, and yours cannot be separated from me, it is not the same thing. No one is really inseparable from others, I just don't have that choice, maybe I won't make that choice in my life. And you seem to be relying on me without a choice, relying on the various things and emotions around you. Even when you want to leave me, you seem to want to leave me without a choice, and you don't know that you may be able to avoid it.

Likewise, you don't have to die for a pair of bracelets, and you don't have to stay in bed without eating.

Looking back, I'm pretty sure I was a coward too. I was immersed in the sad atmosphere of the sentence "I don't deserve it?" in "Stan", unable to extricate myself, writing a long book with tears in my eyes, and humblely creating an atmosphere of "the whole world owes me". At the time I hopelessly loved "Stan" and thought the Grammys gave it because it resonated so deeply with us.

After a long absence, when I heard this song again, I felt a lot of emotion, just like after watching this movie. But the love for it has long been two different emotions. I jumped out of who I was and came to understand that Eminem didn't write this song to resonate with lowly fans, but to save them.

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The Assassination of Jesse James by the Coward Robert Ford quotes

  • Robert Ford: They gave me ten days.

    Charley Ford: For what?

    Robert Ford: Arresting him.

    Charley Ford: You and me, huh?

    Robert Ford: It's going to happen one way or another. It's going to happen, Charley, and it might as well be us who get rich on it.

    Charley Ford: Bob, he's our friend.

    Robert Ford: He murdered Ed Miller. He's going to murder Liddil and Cummins if the chance ever comes. Seems to me Jesse's riding from man to man, saying goodbye to the gang. Your friendship could put you under the pansies.

    Charley Ford: I'll grind it fine in my mind, Bob. I can't go any further than that, right now.

    Robert Ford: You'll come around.

    Charley Ford: You think it's all made up, don't you? You think it's all yarns and newspaper stories.

    Robert Ford: He's just a human being.

  • Governor Crittenden: Jesse James sent me a telegram last month, saying he was going to kill me if he had to wreck a train to do it. He said that once I was in his hands he was going to cut my heart out and eat it in strips like it was bacon.

    [pause]

    Governor Crittenden: I'm going to wreck his train first.

    Robert Ford: [Bob scoffs, Crittenden glares at him] I'm sorry, Your Excellency. I was thinking of something else.

    Governor Crittenden: Jesse James is nothing more than a public outlaw who's made his reputation by stealing whatever he could and by killing whoever got in his way. You'll hear some fools say he's getting back at Republicans and Union men for wrongs his family suffered during the war, but his victims have scarcely ever been selected with reference to their political views. I'm saying his sins will soon find him out. I'm saying his cup of iniquity is full. I'm saying Jesse James is a desperate case and may require a desperate remedy.