"Parents should never try to know what's going on in their teenage kids' minds, or they'll break down."
Although the show presents the sexual confusion of adolescence, it makes people think a lot about family and growing up. For example, Otis has a deep sense of guilt about sex because of his father's derailment. He was unable to masturbate, and would have a very strong sense of shame when he had nocturnal emission. He couldn't face his sexual needs, avoid repeating his father's mistakes, and even fainted when Lily touched his cock. Now she is tortured by her mother's secret desire to control.
But he was really just an adolescent boy longing for independence and normal growth.
Amy is a lovely and pretty girl, she tries hard to fit into the most senior-looking group at school, and she always accepts the arrogant instructions and unreasonable demands of her friends. She wants face, whether she likes it or not, she only falls in love with popular boys, and when she has sex with her boyfriend, she values how to please him most. Maybe Amy is not just a person, but a kind of person. Because of their thirst for group identification, they cater to other people's expectations and ignore their own real needs. But what needs to be seen is that the search for group identification is not the key point that leads to the neglect of self-needs. On the contrary, it is a very important part of the growth process, and the power of peers is powerful and necessary. The point is that people tend to think it's right to ignore their real needs.
Many people often tell themselves when their needs are not met, reduce their expectations and desires in the relationship, and avoid disappointment and conflict. However, the existence of a relationship depends on whether the needs are met, the need to be loved, the need to be understood and respected, or even the need to express anger and aggression. In this process, which should be a two-way interaction, if you just blindly cater to the other party and suppress yourself, you will either have a strong sense of self-sacrifice because you are catered to, but you will resent because you cannot get affirmation and recognition, or your self-esteem will be trampled on the soles of your feet. being abandoned. Later, Amy met Steve, an inverted triangle boy who loved learning. They both like to learn by drawing mind maps. When making love, Steve expresses that he cares more about how she wants to do it, and whether she fully enjoys the process, she really thinks about herself what do you want. Perhaps many people grow up with people who are unable to meet their own needs, going through one troubled relationship after another. At this time, you may be very confused and tormented, because for a long time you can't find the path that firmly belongs to yourself and the companion who will move forward hand in hand. The appearance of Steve seems to be telling everyone: maybe in an unexpected encounter, we will meet the person who can meet our needs and enter a safe and trusting relationship. We can express our needs, tell each other how to get along more comfortably, and what kind of interaction we prefer, and the other party can accept and satisfy them. It is important to drive the relationship with mutual needs interaction, rather than losing yourself in the relationship. Adolescence is perhaps the most chaotic and confusing time of the entire life. Both sex and ego are in a nascent stage. I want it, but I don't know what I want. I want to go, but I don't know where to go. The excitement and joy of meeting a lover for the first time, but also the pain and despair of being lost. But adolescent children have unlimited motivation, and they will definitely find an opportunity to clear the fog, find the direction and goal, and accept all the joys and sorrows related to growth.
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