For women, can family and career have the best of both worlds? This question has really bothered me for a long time. Since I was preparing to be a mother, I have been thinking: Is there a way for women to balance career and family? Let personal values be reflected in both work and parenting?
Now, two beans are born, one is five years old and the other is one and a half years old, I finally have the courage to say the answer after my own experience: no.
Yes, no, there is no two-way solution in this world, so that a woman can not only achieve career success, but also be able to take care of children in all aspects and meticulous. This is not common sense, and it is really impossible.
I'm not saying this answer to discourage women, but to tell you what I'm thinking after this answer.
I was watching the movie "Never Compromise" recently. The plot is very old-fashioned: a beauty queen divorced her two husbands and raised three children alone. She was hit by a car while looking for a job, and she also filed a lawsuit for compensation. lost.
Going out to eat became a problem, so she fostered her child in an unprofessional nanny's home, went out to work, and finally found a chorus job in a law firm, and also met a man who was willing to take care of the child at home for her, But when she felt that she had found the value of her life, wanted justice for the weak, and devoted herself to her career, the children did not understand her busyness and hard work, and the man had to leave her.
There was one scene in the movie that moved me the most. When she was sleepy, her son picked up the plaintiff’s materials that she had stayed up to sort out and said, “This girl is as old as me. Is she seriously ill? Are you helping her?”
After getting a positive answer from his mother, the boy said, "Why didn't her mother help?"
"Her mother is sick too."
Then the little boy didn't say anything. When he was going out, he said, "Mom, what do you want to eat? Can I add an egg for you?"
The estrangement between mother and child instantly disappeared.
Back to our original question again: women cannot seek both in family and career. From another perspective, this is not a problem at all. Why must they have both? Why does it have to be balanced?
When you have two children and you can only save one at a critical moment, it is not a question of which one to choose, but how to face the next life after choosing one.
If you choose a family, you don’t have to complain that you have no social status and are out of touch with the society. After the child is 3 years old, you still have many opportunities to re-participate in the social division of labor;
When choosing a career, accept the "friendly" reminders from the world, and know clearly: I am not living for my children, and my value never comes from having children. They grow into what I like, and that is the best I can give. good care.
No matter which way you choose, don't regret it, don't hesitate, mom can be very busy, the only thing to do is to let the child know: Mom's busyness is valuable, and what mom does is to make the world a better place.
Knowing this, your child will be proud to stand by your side.
Finally, I will end this review with one small thing.
I often host events in the community. Many times, Hongdou is reading a book or listening to a class, and will also record videos like me.
One day, I heard her proudly say to the flat-screen camera: "My mom is a host!"
From that moment on, I knew that being the best version of myself was the best parenting.
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