If there is no practical reason, is there a high social cost to stop the relationship? A blatant challenge to traditional morality is, of course, costly. However, in a non-acquaintance society maintained by contracts, it is very easy to keep this relationship private and conceal the blood relationship between the two when necessary. After all, no one is asking you to get married, and you won't have colleagues visiting your home from time to time. Challenges may be costly, but avoiding unnecessary moral judgment is relatively cheap, and it can even be a fun common cause to nourish the relationship.
If there is neither any practical reason nor any social cost, the only thing left is the obsession in the heart.
Decades of life have led me to accept the fact that our consciousness has very limited knowledge and control over the body. One of the things we can't understand and control is who we fall in love with. Sure, we make up stories and our own reasons for our feelings, but in essence, it's a process that isn't consciously controlled. You can enjoy it, just know that no matter how much you wish it would last forever, it will slowly fade away over time. You can resist it too, just know that no matter how hard you try, you can't get rid of it, and the funny thing is, the only love that can last is unfulfilled love.
Our aversion to brother-sister love is more instinctive than moral. Natural selection weeds out genes that develop feelings for close relatives, and our moral standards, like the love stories we make up, are just an interpretation of consciousness superimposed on this instinct.
If it happened that your family gene suddenly lost its natural immunity to this emotion due to mutation, why should you be so obsessed with this explanation that belongs to other people?
In the final analysis, this story only holds true because its audience has a natural anti-incest instinct, not just anti-incest moral judgment. Therefore, this pain and struggle is so real and believable.
If a story is told in a particular cultural context, there is a strong moral condemnation of two people who also have dimples falling in love, and a man with dimples falls in love with a woman with dimples, in order to suppress the moral condemnation in his own heart Becoming a sex addict, this script reckoned only to be an exotic porn idea.
If the protagonist of this story really understands all this through rational thinking, and allows this love to develop naturally, it will end with the bleak of feelings like all love stories, and the lovers who once fell in love will Each to find new feelings. Or, the relationship can end up being an insignificant part of life, and like all people who are united by love, life has all kinds of pain waiting for them.
Milan Kundera says that when a line is crossed, the meaninglessness of life is exposed. This line is not in the distant horizon, but everywhere, only one step away. One step is the distance between being a sex addict and being a free and mediocre lover. That is, it is this step away, which makes people wonder that the creator of the story does not cross this line, not because it is out of reach, but because of an extremely subtle and deliberate avoidance, so that the protagonist of the story can be drawn to the ground and die. self-torture.
In my middle school days, making up a quirky but true story was a form of self-entertainment for my essay on a proposition. The flattery of mainstream values contained in this effort was something I could not have realized at the time.
After watching this movie, I couldn't help but sigh that a propositional composition called "Modern Urban Love", written to the extreme, is probably like this. The intensity of this relationship is fascinating, and the most rare thing is that this bizarre story has a very real flavor. If you compare it in the series of "50 Shades of Grey" and "Twilight", it is undoubtedly a super-class work.
The drama director Tian Qinxin once talked about her trip to New York, which made her think that if she lives in a free world, her art should fly.
This is an overly optimistic assumption. What freedom brings to creators is often not flying, but groaning in pseudo-art style.
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