Dean is a mover. He is romantic, cheerful and caring. He will carefully paste old photos of the old man on the wall after moving. He has excellent musical talent, but his dream is not to make a successful music. Instead, he was humming a song and drinking beer to wash the walls. He wanted to be a good husband to Cindy and a good father to his daughter Frankie. Cindy is a medical student and has the talent to be a doctor. Although there are countless Exs, he is willing to spend time with his grandmother to tell stories. One met Dean by chance, and fell in love with him because of Dean's talent, humor and romance, and then because Cindy met a scumbag and got pregnant unexpectedly. They got married in a flash. The story begins six years after marriage.
The film is narrated with dual clues, comparing the sweet happiness of Cindy and Dean before marriage and the bleak situation after marriage, and contrasting broken marriage and romantic love. The warm past uses warm tones of yellow and orange, and the sentimental present uses cool tones of blue.
This film is actually more in line with my view of marriage. The common goal is the foundation, the similar values are the connection, and the common progress and growth is the perfection of marriage.
Cindy used to have a good smile, high spirits, and bright eyes. Early marriage, early childbirth, and the arduous real life of running around made her passion fade away, and her charming face was no longer sunny, full of helplessness and haggard. Although Dean is no longer as handsome as he used to be, with sparse hair and stubble, smoking a cigarette all day and even making you feel a little decadent, he is still active, lively, humorous and innocent, full of enthusiasm for life. In the world, Cindy and daughter Frankie are everything.
In the first part of the film, the marital conflict between them is not obvious, but a casual hint of Cindy's father is given. "Are you arguing again?"
Dean wants to repair each other's relationship through Valentine's Day romance, but Cindy talks to him about the future again. You are so talented, talented and potential, are you willing to be a wall painter all your life? Dean's reason is very firm. My dream is to be your good husband and a good father to my daughter. I don't have much but enough money to support my family. Why can't I be?
Love always blurs the gap between two people. The distance between Cindy and Dean is obvious from the beginning. One is a high-achieving medical student with career dreams and pursuits. She has talent and wants to be a good doctor. One is a mover. No career does not affect his optimism, happiness and love of life. He was hesitant to fall in love with Cindy, and I know I'm not as good as you are. People in love always have zero IQ, don't say that baby, I don't want to listen.
When you are in love, passion, talent and appearance, as well as romantic feelings, are enough to nourish love. However, the life of chai, rice, oil and salt will only magnify the gap between the two people and the difference in values, until a relationship is out of control.
A successful marriage probably needs to maintain a balance between love and life, and two people are always at a trackable distance in terms of growth and progress.
Dean's words about saving the marriage were so humbled into the dust that it made people cry. Tell me what you want, do you want Frankie to grow up in a broken home? Have you forgotten your promise? Baby, Tell me what else I could do, Tell me how I should be, Just tell me, I do it.
The story came to an abrupt end with gorgeous fireworks and the music of "you and me", sighing and heartbreaking.
September 2, 2015
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