Love without mutual growth will eventually wither, which has nothing to do with marriage.

Grant 2022-04-22 07:01:05

The film tells the story of Dean and Cindy who have been in love for many years, from acquaintance and love to marriage.

Outside the small house in the suburbs, a little girl shouted "Meghan" in a heart-wrenching way, but no one responded. She climbed into the house from the dog entrance and exit of the house to find the adults. A man carried her out and continued to search, but to no avail.

After failing to find the dog, she returned to the house, causing trouble to the mother who was still sleeping. After getting up, my mother Cindy was in a hurry to prepare breakfast for her daughter and asked her to go out with her. The daughter thought the cereal was not delicious, so Dad Dean taught her to put the cereal on the table and lick it, euphemistically called it like a cheetah.

My mother went to work. She is a nurse. The doctor asked her if she had told her family. She said not yet, but she would. The two made an appointment to watch their daughter's performance together at school, but Cindy found the body of her dog on the side of the road on the way to school. Dean complained that Cindy never locked the door, which is why Meghan ran out. On the other hand, he was still comforting his daughter that Meghan might have gone to Hollywood to become a big star. The two sent their daughter to their grandfather's house and went home to bury the dog.

The story begins in two lines, one is about the present, and the other is about the time before the two got married.

past

Before marriage, Dean had just found a job in a moving company. Others were only responsible for collecting money after moving things, but Dean would do more. When he moved for a veteran who moved into a nursing home, he also helped him with various things in his room. Dean took the wages from the table when he went out, just to find Cindy in the opposite room looking at him. Dean fell in love with her at first sight, approached her, and explained that he wasn't stealing money.

Cindy lives in a not-so-happy family. Her parents' relationship is unsatisfactory, and her irritable father often yells at home. Cindy asked Grandma what it was like to fall in love, and Grandma said she hadn't, because Grandpa was never someone who really cared about her. Grandma also warned her to love someone who deserves it. Cindy's cognition of love was troubled at the beginning. If love is based on feeling, what should I do if the feeling disappears?

Cindy had a chaotic private life in her school days. After sleeping with many people, her latest lover was a member of the school's wrestling team (the one she met at the hotel water store later). Aside from hanging out, Cindy spends a lot of time with her grandmother, who lives in a nursing home, where she meets Dean from a moving company.

Dean was obsessed with Cindy, but he never got a call from her. Just in time, he found an old soldier's belongings that had fallen into the moving company, and he took the belongings and went to the nursing home. The old man was dead, and Dean chatted with Granny Cindy but didn't see Cindy.

The two met by chance on the bus, and this time they finally caught up. The two gradually developed, singing and dancing on the street together, and playing all kinds of boring games together. After the two finally became bed-rolling partners, one day, Cindy found out that she was pregnant, but she didn't know who the child's father was. Cindy, who originally wanted to abort the child, regretted it in the clinic, and Dean proposed to her to raise the child with her. Unconvinced that he was dumped, the wrestler went to the moving company and beat up Dean.

Dean visits Cindy's family and talks about his family. His parents separated when he was young, and he never saw his mother again. His father, a talented musician, supported himself as a doorman. Cindy's dream was to be a doctor, and Dean was a scumbag who didn't even finish high school. When the two are together, such a combination probably has inherent deficiencies.

Now

Dean was so sad after burying Meghan that he wanted to book a room in a love hotel and go out with Cindy for a two-person world. Although Cindy was reluctant because she had to go to work the next day, she let Dean arrange it. In the liquor store on the way, Cindy met an old lover. After she got in the car and started, she talked about it, and Dean and her quarreled.

The weird love hotel doesn't work as expected, and Cindy and Dean sit down to drink and chat. Cindy wants Dean to find a stable job and better use his talents. And Dean feels that he is very satisfied with the status quo, free working time, can give himself more time to be a husband and father. Dean even wanted Cindy to have another child with him, but Cindy was unwilling to continue their relationship in the status quo.

Cindy received a call from a colleague at the hotel early in the morning to go back to work, leaving Dean alone to take the bus back to town. Dean ran to the hospital after getting drunk to make trouble with Cindy, and even got into a fight with the doctor. Cindy pulled Dean out of the hospital and finally shouted "I want a divorce". Dean took off his wedding ring and threw it into the grass, and as soon as the car started, he got out of the car and started looking for the ring.

The two returned to Cindy's house to begin negotiations, and the final conclusion was still to separate.

The camera constantly switches between the picture of two people breaking up and the picture when they got married. The same person and the same hug represent different meanings. Past and present, every scene is a contrast. It used to be so sweet, but now it has to be divided so thoroughly.

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Blue Valentine quotes

  • Dean: Tell me a joke.

    Cindy: So there's a child molester and a little boy walking into the woods. The child molester and the little boy keep walking further and further. And it's getting darker and darker. And they're going deeper and deeper into the woods. And the child molester... The little boy looks at the child molester and he says, "Gee, mister! I'm getting scared." And the child molester looks down at him and says, "You think you're scared, kid? I gotta walk outta here alone."

    [Dean shakes his head]

    Cindy: You don't think that's funny?

    Dean: No.

    Cindy: I do.

  • Jerry: Cindy doesn't usually bring her boyfriends home for dinner. So, uh, I'm thinking this might be serious.

    Glenda: Don't listen to him.

    Dean: I hope so.

    Jerry: You hope so?

    Dean: Yes, sir. I mean, I'm pretty serious.