This is just an ordinary afterthought, not a movie review.
"I, Tonya", this film tells the dramatic life of Tonya, a famous figure skating player in the United States, from the high-profile to the ruin of her career, and her life has the shadow cast by her mother.
Tonya's mother has many shadows of Chinese mothers. This type of mother is often strong and capable, but they are depressed and feel that life has treated them badly. Therefore, they pin their hopes of getting ahead on their children, and they also vent their dissatisfaction with life on their children.
Her growth and progress all came from her mother's denial and belittling of her. In order to prove herself to her mother, she was so strong that she continued to grow and improve. Her mother also fully understood this, and paid someone to abuse her before the most important game of t. In the end, she played her best in that game, becoming the first to complete the turn for three and a half weeks. figure skater.
However, I deeply feel sorry for her. Through the screen, I can also feel that she is under pressure and gritted her teeth to prove her determination to others. Most importantly, prove yourself to mom. If a person feels that even her mother does not recognize herself, she must have a deep inferiority complex in her heart.
When she became an adult, she heard her mother say she was great and was proud of her. No matter how many quarrels there were before, this moment did not exist. She hugged her mother tightly with tears in her eyes. For this moment, she waited for long time.
Her first boyfriend was also the ex-husband who later ruined her life. Although they were in love, they often beat her to the point of bruising her nose and face. Even though it ended up being serious enough to shoot her at the end, they were not able to separate completely.
She felt that hitting her was not in conflict with loving her, because his mother loved her, but hit her too. Growing up with violence, she doesn't think being beaten is unacceptable. She even thought it was her own fault that she was beaten.
Because when she was a child, she didn't have the ability to judge right and wrong. She felt that her mother beat her because she did something wrong and that she was not good enough. So when she became an adult, she also used this way to deal with the hurt caused by others.
At the same time, she also lacks love very much. When she was a child, her parents divorced and her father left her. She grew up under her mother's tiger and wolf education. She crazily longed to be loved and recognized. She wants to be the world's number one in figure skating, and the most important motivation is to be liked and recognized by others.
As for the lack of love, I think most children who don't get attention and recognition at home lack love. People who lack love will either frantically ask for love after love from others, or they will shut themselves off from everyone who expresses love to them.
When she wanted to repair her relationship with her mother, her mother said to her that she should be thankful that she had such a strict mother, and her mother said that she wanted to have a strict mother herself instead of a loving one, so that she would more accomplished than now. At this time, her eyes were full of tears, her face was full of grievances, and she didn't know what to say.
Much like when we were young, every time my mother criticized us, she would say that I was doing it for your own good, but as a child, we can't imagine our own future, we just want to have a gentle and loving person who can understand us, Recognize our moms.
Moms always want their kids to be great, but we never ask how great our moms are, we just want them to love us.
Her ex-husband injured her competitor's knee before an important competition, and she was later implicated, and she was expelled from the figure skating world and ruined her career.
After many years, she is just an ordinary person. In an interview, she said that she is a very good mother. For her, it is no longer important to be recognized by her mother and recognized by the world. She is a mother, and a good mother is the greatest recognition for her.
All girls who do not get along well with their mothers should have thought that in the future, we must be a better mother than our own mother, and give our children the most love and recognition. This is also a kind of compensation for yourself.
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