Movies based on books as blueprints, I've seen both in recent years: The Devil Wears Prada, He's Just Not That Into You, and Revolutionary Road. For the first one I have to accuse the film of being a complete departure from the original book, at least in terms of characters; for the second, needless to say, a non-fiction adapted into a film is not very comparable to this film. As a movie that also describes human nature, love, and real life, I once expected Revolutionary Road to reach the height of Closer, or 80% of Closer.
What I saw, however, was a complete MV.
What really made their marriage fail is not the gap between each other's dreams, but the reality that is one step away from the dream.
She doesn't love him.
She said, you're just a boy who made me laugh at a party.
The misunderstanding is described more clearly in the novel.
...for a month or two, just for fun, it might be all right to play a game like that with a boy; but all these years! Alnd all because, in a sentimentally lonely time long ago, she had found it easy and agreeable to believe whatever this one particular boy felt like saying, and to repay him for that pleasure by telling easy, agreeable lies of her own, until each was saying what the other most wanted to hear -- until he was saying "I lover you" and she was saying "Really, I mean it; you're the most interesting person I've ever met."
She didn't love him. All this is just a misunderstanding. She slowly started to deceive herself because it felt good to be with this boy. Superficial happiness is most likely to be misunderstood, and this is love. When she was in it, she continued to nurture the lie.
The person she loves is a passionate young man with ideals, the person she loves is a new good man who sacrificed his ideals for the family, the person she loves is the most interesting person I've ever met. The nourished lie slowly grows into a big tree, a forest, hiding the hut they live in, but one day she suddenly sees, I don't love you.
He doesn't love her either.
Men are afraid of their wives cheating because they know that 90% of women who cheat will not come back to them. Men's cheating is different, 90% of them won't get divorced. What really scares men is that his wife's cheating proves that "she doesn't love him", that he is no longer as attractive to her as he used to be, that he has lost all his charm in her eyes, that he is no longer the most interesting person (she've) ever met.
Sometimes a lie is two people, one play. When he starts trying to flirt with the best blonde at a party like a man, when the blonde who looks so lovely starts to laugh at his shallow jokes, when they start dancing, when physical contact grows, when they start making love , when they started dating outside the party, when they started snuggling in bed, when they started to get used to this kind of life, this warm happiness, this shallow laughter, this light life, when he said the first sentence I love you and she just said Me, too. This is life.
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Unfortunate marriages have their own different.
Shep is the Frank who didn't manage to get blonde out of the party. Howard Giving is the Campbell who has lost his temper. Milly is Maureen who is married.
Do they really love each other? Do they really want this marriage, this kind of life?
If so, why does Milly cry when Shep says Paris is an immatural plan? Did she also have the idea of escaping from her current life? Did she, too, ever have flamboyant dreams like April?
Shep always thinks his wife is ignorant, but does he really understand her? When he said I love you in the car, did he know who April was? April's words that are very good in the novel but don't make it in:
"...It's just that I don't know who you are." ..."And even if I did...I'm afraid it wouldn't 't help, because you see I don't know who I am, either."
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A person cannot understand another person, if he can, there will be no loneliness.
The so-called understanding is just that at a certain time and place, you and another person feel the same temperature, humidity, or even be infected by the same virus and suffer from the same influenza. Then you think this is love.
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