Love is not possession, it is to make us all live better

Horace 2022-12-07 16:23:07

What kind of relationship is this?

Work relationship, compassion, friendship, emotion, love, family, salvation? In such an environment, the relationship is ambiguous, the cause is a work relationship, but other emotions arise through subsequent contacts,

Maybe it's what the hero and heroine said at a friend's wedding, "If you weren't paralyzed, maybe you wouldn't notice me at all, maybe I'm just a waiter serving wine in a hotel" Many coincidences in life are related to our experiences and choices , the same is true of many fates, if there is no experience or choice at that time, some people will never see it in a lifetime.

The feelings of the male and female protagonists are very subtle, and their feelings are actually more out of this environment:

For the female lead, she wants the male lead to live more and more;

For the male protagonist, he met such a real and lovely person in a bleak world and brought him beauty; the two created a wonderful experience together, and because of this, they both wanted to know each other better, rather than Compared with intimacy, this is more like a confidant. Some of their cross-border actions are actually based on that kind of environment. Although it is not right, it is also understandable because of human nature.

Because there are too many emotions in it, not only love, but more should be that two people are the kind of people who can perceive each other's thoughts and understand each other. My personal favorite is that,

The two people have a good impression of each other, but this feeling is not a bondage of mutual possession. The heroine finally understands and respects the decision of the hero even if she is reluctant. The hero knows that he cannot bring the heroine a bright future, so he does not. The way to choose possession is to help the heroine become a better person and let her strive for happiness on her own.

This really touched me

turn out to be,

Possession is not necessarily love, but love must not be possession

Love here refers to many things,

Possession means excessive possession.

our highest goal,

It should be to become the independent self, not indifferent and arrogant, but soberly aware of what you want and how to live,

No matter what kind of relationship or intimacy I face, I can always come out of my inner thoughts. I want to do what I want to do. No matter how much I like someone, I have to be clear. The foundation should be that I am A person who has his own ideas, I am who I am

Have the confidence and behavior that even if others laugh at you, you can still stand by yourself

(like that yellow and black stocking)

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Me Before You quotes

  • Will Traynor: I have to tell you something.

    Lou Clark: I know. I know about Switzerland, I have known for months. Listen I know this is not how you would have chosen it, but I can make you happy.

    Will Traynor: No.

    Lou Clark: What?

    Will Traynor: No Clarke. This could be a good life, but it's not my life, it's not even close. You never saw me before. I loved my life. I really loved it. I can't be the kind of man who just accepts this.

    Lou Clark: You're not giving it a chance, you're not giving me a chance. I have become a whole new person these last six months because of you.

    Will Traynor: I know and that's why I can't have you tied to me. I don't want you to miss all the things that someone else can give you. And selfishly I don't what you to look at me one day and feel event the tiniest bit of regret or pity.

    Lou Clark: I would never think that!

    Will Traynor: You don't know that. I can't watch you wandering around the annex in your crazy dresses. Or see you naked and not be able to... oh Clarke if you have any idea what I want to do to you right now. I can't live like this.

    Lou Clark: Please Will! Please!

    Will Traynor: Shh. Listen, this, tonight being with you is the most wonderful thing you could have ever done for me. But I need it to end here. No more pain and exhaustion and waking up every morning already wishing it was over. It's not going to get better than this. The doctors know it and I know it. When we get back, I'm going to Switzerland so I'm asking you if you feel the things you say you feel. Come with me.

    Lou Clark: I thought I was changing your mind!

    Will Traynor: Nothing was ever going to change my mind. I promised my parents six months and that's what I have given them.

    Lou Clark: No! Don't say another word. You're so selfish. I tore my heart out in front of you and all you can say is no. And now you want me to come and watch the worst thing you could possibly imagine. Do you have any idea what you're asking? I wish I had never taken this stupid job. I wish I had never met you.

  • Lou Clark: You don't have to be an arse! Your friends got the shitty treatment. Fine *They* deserved it. *I'm* just trying to do my job as best I can. So it would be really nice if you didn't try and make my life as miserable as you apparently make everyone else's.

    Will Traynor: And what if I said I didn't want you here?

    Lou Clark: I'm not employed by you. I'm employed by your mother. So unless *she* says she doesn't want me here anymore, I'm staying. Not because I care about you, or particularly enjoy your company, but because I need the money. I *really* need the money.