on the plane from Lusaka to Addis Ababa; on the plane from
Addis Ababa to Beijing; on
the first day back to Beijing because of jet lag, Three in the middle of the night;
on the high-speed train home from Beijing.
A lot of comments like "Mary Sue", "If you don't have a high paraplegia, you won't even look at the girls in the village", "The heroine's expression is terrifying, and the man is so frightened that he is so determined to give up" I
don't know when it started. It has become the motto of many people, as long as what you say is different from others, even if you have opinions, ideas and depth, but you have no idea that it has become a sensationalist
. In my opinion, this movie is very good, we Most people have experienced what Clark went through more or less in their lives. I wonder if this story will resonate more and be less critical (of course, it will also be less box office)
in a small town. Ordinary girls, apart from going home from work and watching TV with their family, occasionally going to the bar, watching her boyfriend run, have few hobbies, don't know how to dress up, and only have Long Ma's strange eyebrows, forehead lines and slightly fat body but not She is beautiful (with a normal expression, Long Ma is still very good-looking), and her life is like that of a civil servant in a small county in China. You can make a plan for your life, and then spend your life step by step.
One day, the girl met a person, of course, this person does not own a castle, has not been interviewed by fashion magazines, and of course has no high-ranking paraplegia, just an ordinary
person who is different from the girl, always hurt by curiosity dead. The girl was very curious about this different ordinary person, so she started to try to get close to him. The two became familiar with each other, and finally got to know each other and fell in love with each other, and they had a good time.
One day, he decided to leave the girl (not to be euthanized, maybe he has a new person, or just he doesn't want to continue with the girl), but the girl still has a full love for him, and not all the novels and movies he has seen say that Love is omnipotent, love can change together, so the girl decided to save him
Girls start to dress up and change themselves, trying to try new things, so that they are not as boring as before. Of course, she also cried and told her love for him, and was willing to do anything for him, just begging him not to leave.
In the end, he left. At first, the girl was resentful and unwilling to accept this fact, she continued to work hard (to make herself look) to be better, but to prove that she could still live well without him.
After a long time, maybe a year or more, the girl finally learned to let go, but many things she did to save him became a habit, she no longer lived your life mediocrely, she read a book every week , Start to study recipes, keep exercising, know how to be kind to yourself, and how to take care of yourself.
At this time, the girl suddenly felt that although she couldn't be with him, her growth and change were so precious. This was also a gift from him. Through this relationship, the girl became a better version of herself.
That's it for the story, but a new story about the girl is yet to be discovered by the girl herself, and the girl is stronger now than she was before.
Perhaps this is the reality version of the story, and the version most of us have experienced.
In the end, the reason why I say this movie is great is that I think it conveys two views that are not accepted by many (country) people:
the first is that they don't feel the same way. We often say in our lives that I can understand you, I understand your pain. In fact, this is impossible. Everyone is an independent and different individual. No one can understand the feelings of others. Even if you have experienced the same thing, your different classes, different life and growth environments will make you feel different. have different feelings. Just as Clark couldn't understand Will's pain at first due to his high paraplegia, Clark, she and Will's mother couldn't understand Will's decision to be euthanized. A little deeper into this question is that each of us does not have the need to understand others and let others understand. Really, isn’t it good for everyone to be happy and be themselves? Why let others worry about your life? Why worry about other people's lives?
The second love is not omnipotent. Sleeping beauty can be woken up by a prince. It only exists in fairy tales. Love is actually very pale and powerless. It is giving that is changing, not love itself. Clark loves Will, and Will has the same love for her, and it is precisely because he loves each other deeply that Clark accepts Will's decision to love euthanasia, and Will also hopes that Clark will become better without his company. better. Love itself can't cure diseases, save people, or make a fortune. It's good to have love, but many people think that if you have love, you have everything, and if you have love, you can be unscrupulous. So there are a lot of people who don't care about their partners who always think that the other party loves them so they won't leave them, so there are people who think they love each other so they point fingers at each other's lives... How many people fake the name of love, but for the sake of Make up for your weakness and satisfy your desires.
The BGM of this movie is really good, and I wrote this while listening to the soundtrack of the movie, and I always feel (feel like I'm falling into empathy too) that many people will meet someone in their life like Will who drums up The person who inspires you, teaches you to grow, brings you fantasy, makes you understand love and joy, and gradually and unconsciously wants to look forward to and rely on, is also the person you must give up in the end.
God said, have light.
Some people are like a ray of light in your life, or the light will dim, the light will dissipate, but you who have experienced the light will not be willing to return to the darkness.
May you meet the light, may you be the light.
Finally, I will send you the words Will said to Clark: You need to widen your horizons, everyone only get one life, It's actually your duty to live it as fully as possible.
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