Introduction:
"The Lion King" is a classic Disney animation. In 1995, we were deeply shocked by it when we were young.
Among the many summer movies, yesterday, I took my children to watch Disney's live-action movie "The Lion King".
After becoming a parent, we revisit this classic, and we gain deeper thinking: about fatherhood education, about courage, about responsibility, about true self... This movie is very worthwhile for parents to accompany their children to savor.
The mother brings the child a sense of security, and the father brings the child a sense of value
Maternity education brings children care, sensibility, tenderness, emotional development, and the development of personality in nature;
Fatherhood education brings rationality, restraint, and socialization to children, allowing children to learn to restrain themselves and adapt to society!
There are very few interpretations of maternal education in The Lion King, but there is a small clip that is interesting:
Before dawn, little Simba couldn't wait to rock King Mufasa because his father had promised to take him on a tour of the kingdom. Seeing that her son was anxious, Simba's mother urged, "Get up, your son is awake." Mufasa closed his eyes and said in a daze: "Before dawn, he was your son."
A very loving picture, very much like an ordinary and happy little family in reality. The children are still young, and they are mainly accompanied and cared for by their mothers. The father is responsible for the macro education of the child.
In most families in China, the father's role in education is missing
The common absence of paternity education does not mean that fathers do not care about children.
Many fathers pay a lot to their children, but fathers’ education to their children usually occurs when their children make mistakes, correcting their children’s mistakes with the image of a “strict father”, but usually put care in their hearts, thinking that “silent love” is more important. Good for your child's growth! It is this practice that leads to the absence of "father education"!
Whether the father's education can penetrate deep into the child's heart and then affect the child's development depends on the quality of the father's companionship and communication with the child
In The Lion King, the majestic King Mufasa is also the most loving father in front of his son.
He trained children's "predation skills" in the way of games; he never refused to be intimate with children; even, he dared to reveal his "timidity" to children.
When Simba made a serious mistake and almost endangered the lives of himself and his companions, after he sacrificed his life to rescue the child, he did not add sticks to make the child "long memory" and did not ramble on. Instead, calmly and powerfully taught the child the best lesson:
Mufasa: Simba, I am very disappointed in you. Simba: I know. Mufasa: You could die, you deliberately disobeyed my orders, and worse, you put Nana's life in danger. Simba: I just want to be as brave as you are. Mufasa: Simba, being brave doesn't mean you're going to get into trouble. Simba: But you don't seem to be afraid of anything. Mufasa: I'm scared today. Simba: Really? Mufasa: Yes, I am afraid I will lose you.
Simba is like all children: curious, ignorant, and desperate to prove his bravery. They are seldom willing to heed the warnings of their elders before hitting their heads with blood.
If parents are soberly aware of this, it will be easier for us to stay calm and not get violent when our children go their own way and make mistakes.
Father really doesn't need to appear invulnerable. Mufasa made Simba feel his father's deep love for him, and his father also used actions to make him truly understand that only by making himself strong can he protect those he loves.
Fathering is all about guidance: Learn how to educate your kids with The Lion King
1. As a father, you must let your children understand: rights and boundaries, responsibilities and missions
Mufasa: Simba, look. Everything the sun shines on is our kingdom. Simba: Wow! Mufasa: The reign of a king is like the rise and fall of the sun. One day, the sun will slowly sink with me and slowly rise with you. Simba: Is it all mine? Mufasa: Everything. Simba: Everything that the sun can reach, what about the shaded places? "Fasha: It's outside our country, you must never go to that place. Simba: I thought the king could do whatever he wanted. Mufasa: You're wrong, the king can't do whatever he wants.
All things have boundaries, and so do rights. Such education is of great significance to children.
2. Such a worldview opens a new door for children to understand the world: about the cycle of life, the laws of nature
Mufasa: There is a delicate balance between everything you see in this world. As a king, you need to understand this relationship and respect everything in the world—whether it's a slow-crawling ant or a leaping antelope. Simba: But, Dad, don't we eat antelope? Mufasa: We eat, Simba, let me explain: when we die, the corpse becomes grass; the antelopes come to eat the grass. That's how we are interconnected and co-exist in this huge cycle of life.
3. How does a father talk to his child about "death"? This is the best answer I've seen.
Simba: Dad, we're good friends, right? Mufasa: Well, yes. Simba: Then we'll be together forever, right? Mufasa: Simba, let me tell you something my father told me. Look at the stars, the great kings of the past, who are looking down on us. Simba: Really? Mufasa: Yes. So, when you feel alone, remember that our ancestors have been guiding you. I can do it too.
Mufasa never said the word "death" from beginning to end, but he told the child that although we can't be together forever, I'm always watching you, "When you feel lonely, remember that our ancestors were always there Guide you. I will too."
This sentence, in the later difficult times, gave Simba a strong inner belief, and guided him to face up to his responsibilities as a king and find his "true self" - to fight for the glory of the people of the country, the king returns!
Conclusion:
American psychologists have found that 20% of a person's achievement depends on acquired efforts, and 80% depends on his father's teaching. As the "most important person" in a child's life, the father's influence on the child's growth is 50 times that of the mother.
May father's love no longer be silent, no longer ashamed to express, no longer condescending, change "education" to "communication", and change "request" to "communication", so as to achieve equality in parent-child relationship.
The return of paternal education makes family education more balanced!
May our children be happier, braver and wiser.
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