I think he is so cute. He is kind, he is sunny, he is simple, he is honest, he has dreams, he is not bad-hearted, he likes to help people, his mind is delicate, his interest is unique, he is duty-bound to treat friends with all his strength, he is considerate of others, always For the sake of others, he loves small animals, even if the small animal is a small mouse, although he is a divorced single man, he is very clean, his clothes are always neat and tidy, and there is no mess of pornographic magazines and leftovers in the room. Pizza, French fries, most importantly, he smiles with raised eyebrows, his eyes are crooked, his mouth is crooked, and he always looks into your eyes. Yes, yes, like you, I was killed in seconds by such a stupid and innocent man. From the first time he smiled, I was killed.
But, you dare to stand in front of me and tell me loudly, if in real life there is a person like Barry by your side, would you dare to like him? Perhaps you are silent. Of course, silence does not mean that you dare not answer my question, but that you spent a little time thinking about it. Would I really like such a person?
He is always so out of place when he speaks, but he doesn't know it. He is kind but 80% will mess things up. He eagerly helps you, but he is out of control and puts you in another huge predicament, stealing yours. Pocket, use your computer, and chat with others in your name, help you analyze without clarifying the facts, and drag you into his strange logic, because you can’t find your wife’s G point, your marriage fails, your wife and Colleagues who had been oppressing him got together, and when he was babbling, he was hiding under the bed, and he described the situation vividly.
If in real life, there is such a person next to you, and he happens to be your friend, would you have the heart to die? I dare to say, very sure, you dare not tell me loudly, in real life, you will also like Barry. Because I dare not say that I would like such a Barry.
When he speaks out of time, I may be broken in my heart, er, so embarrassing, how could I say such a thing?
When he is kind and messing up things, I might yell at him, are you stupid? Are you SB? Who cares about you?
When he stole my pockets and used my QQ to talk to others, I would get angry because my secret was discovered. Do you know how to respect other people's privacy? Stay away from my computer!
When he brought out the secret sex experience that is not suitable for sharing in public, I might think, why is so shameless?
You see, a man I like so much just now is so despised by me now that he must never really appear in my life. Time is like a big, perpetually moving machine, constantly spinning, but now I want to stop it and give me some time to think about it, hey, why is it so?
Oh, please forgive me, I'm going to explain the crux of this problem with a word that is so academic. This word is called "socialization". Socialization is a process of transformation from a natural person to a social person. Everyone must go through socialization to internalize their own social behavior norms and guidelines into their own behavior standards. Because this is the basis of social interaction.
For example, on the night of Christmas Eve, you say Merry Christmas, and I answer peace and joy. This is the standard of social interaction between people defined by society. You will say Merry Christmas, and I will answer that peace and joy is because we are all products of rigid education and flexible education in society.
And I will dislike Barry because I am a person who has been "socialized" well and for a long time, and Barry is a person whose socialization is not so complete and mature. The sad difference between us is that I live in a society and Barry lives in his own world. I act according to what society demands of me, and in Barry's world, he has his own rules. When I drove down Barry, in accordance with social procedures and restrictions on people, I should apologize to you regardless of fault or not, of course, provided that my speed was 37 yards and Barry was still alive. However, Barry, who is not so complete in socialization, feels that this is his fault, he is obstructing my Porsche, he wants to pay me 5 dollars, oh no, it’s 100 dollars, well, in the end he wants Pay me $100,000, even though he doesn't have that much money.
I dislike Barry because I hope that everyone around me is "socialized" like me, so that our exchanges and cooperation are stable, safe, and harmonious. If there is someone around me who has not been “socialized” education, I and the “socialized” people around me will try to change him, let him act according to our and social standards, and find that it cannot be changed , Will try to avoid this time bomb, isolate him, hate him, pay attention to him behind the scenes, and treat him as a freak. You see, how bad socialized people like us are, and how accustomed to the fact that the party is divided.
Just like Tim in the movie, getting promoted and getting a salary increase, sitting in the bright and magnificent office on the seventh floor is what society expects of me, and it is a way for society to tell me to realize my self-worth. And since Barry appeared in the movie, he has always been dangling in front of our eyes with a boring, weird look. He would chase and play with Darla who was pestering Tim and mess up the family. He wanted to take Tim to the IRS to find the address of the ranch, but the IRS wanted to check Tim’s account. Tim found that this person couldn’t afford it, so he kept going. Yelled at Barry. This Barry, who couldn't hear the words of others, and couldn't hear the euphemistic intentions of others, was stupidly willing to stay with Tim, who he considered to be a friend.
On the one hand, in the movie, I like Barry who is so simple and kind that has not been "socialized". On the other hand, in reality, I reject such Barry who has not been "socialized" systematically, for fear that he will disturb my life.
We reject Barrys in real life because we think that, unlike most people, people who are not completely "socialized" are wrong, inappropriate, shouldn't, and just unpleasant. of. We are just afraid, afraid of being different from our own.
And we love them because they have what we lack, the courage to fight against "socialization", because we want to break free from the hidden net of "socialization" and be a sincere and true person, because, We feel that in our own world, we will be happier than in society.
"Forrest Gump", "Adam", "My Name is Khan" and "Stupid Dinner" are actually about the same kind of people. I love them because we are not them. Maybe after this movie, if I meet Barry in life, I will treat him tolerantly, because he is so precious in this society.
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