"A Parting", which won the 12-year Oscar for best foreign language film, seems to have the same effect as "Three Billboards" released some time ago. The director deliberately left suspense at the end of the film—a three-minute shot, focused outside the courtroom, where time flows so slowly, unnervingly. The husband and wife sat on one side each with a lonely expression, waiting for their daughter's final decision together. And what that decision is is no longer important to the audience, because in this film, we see ourselves, we see ourselves in anxiety, entanglement, pain and even hysteria in our lives, and we see ourselves dealing with complicated interpersonal relationships. contradictions, difficulties in making choices. The moment the end credits played, I thought of myself and thought about my life. The director never deliberately magnified the suffering of a character, never deliberately exaggerated the emotions of the audience, everything happened so naturally, and every frame was like our life. Because of this, it is more able to arouse our resonance and deep thinking. . This is not just a movie, it is more like the Eye of God, which observes all beings with an objective eye, sees through your complexities and evils, but also understands your pain and struggle. Zhang Ailing once said: "Because I understand, so be compassionate." It not only makes us understand, but also makes us compassionate.
Westminster
As a representative of the middle-class elite, Westminster is obviously well-educated. In the disputes between the two families, he has always played the role of "reconciler". He is decent and calm, and has his own ideas and opinions, which can be regarded as respectable. independent women. But it was this kind of Ximin who was arguing with her husband in court and seemed so "unreasonable"; it was this kind of Ximin who, in the cold war with her husband, ran away from home in a fit of anger and left her father-in-law unattended. Deliberately put her husband into a dilemma; she is also a good mother, scolding her husband in front of her daughter, "15 million is more important to you than your daughter", and one sentence can break her daughter's heart. Westminster shows us her kindness, her bravery, her tenacity, and her selfishness and ruthlessness.
Nader
Nader was a man whose wives would rate him as "loyal" when he was angry, and a "decent and respectable" parent in the words of a tutor. In the constant conflicts and contradictions, the wind and waves of life rushed to him again and again, but we could hardly see him burning with anger and losing control of his emotions. On the contrary, we can still see his respect for women, his filial piety to his father, his love for his children, his tolerance for others, and his adherence to principles. In the many quarrels with Reitz's husband, the sharp contrast between the two's speech and demeanor highlights Nader's personal accomplishment. But it was Nader who called Reitz "Ms." without looking at him when he came home from get off work, and went straight to his daughter's governess while perfunctory greeting her, saying hello and calling him "" Mrs. Ghahraii"; it was Nader who, when confronted with the judge's questioning, told a lie against his will. When abiding by morality meant paying a huge price, he gave up his support for the truth; it was Nader who did not understand each other with his wife, blamed each other, made hurtful words, did not retain an attitude of not giving in, and made his wife lose the last hope for marriage. Nader lets us see his integrity, his calmness, his tolerance, and his sophistication and stubbornness.
Reitz
As a woman at the bottom of the society, Reitz is kind, forbearing, and sticks to her teachings, but she is also helpless. When she saw Nader's father was incontinent and unable to take care of himself, she couldn't ignore it; when she saw that he was about to be hit by a car, she was pregnant and rushed up; in order to relieve her husband's pressure and pain, she concealed She went out to work with her husband, but never thought that it would bring huge trouble to herself and others' families. But on the other hand, Reitz remained indifferent to Nader's suffering when she doubted the facts. In the end, she chose to tell the truth to Westminster, only out of religious belief, "for fear of retribution", Not out of personal conscience, out of consideration for Nader. It's not that she doesn't want to lie, it's that she can't lie. In contrast to Ritz's "can't lie" under his religious beliefs and Nader's "forced to lie" in front of the judge, Ritz is also blind and numb.
Hojat
In the direct confrontation with Nader, Hoggart seemed to have the upper hand. In court, in the face of Nader and Mrs. Ghahraii's coherent rebuttals, Hoggart pointed to Nader and said, "My problem is, I can't speak as well as he is." But he couldn't do anything but bang his head. And his bail guarantor must also be a civil servant or business owner. Living in Hojat is not easy, and perhaps it is difficult for him to get a decent job at all, so when Nader offered his salary, he had no terms of negotiation with it, but asked "If I do a good job, can I Add points? If you are not satisfied, you can not pay." This strategy of retreating. In front of elites like Nader, he was completely passive, trying to fight, but unable to do so. He longed to bring a better life to his wife and daughter, but was powerless, so he fell into great pain and self-blame. As I watched the film I couldn't help thinking: If I were one of the characters in the film, could I be better than them? Can I avoid such a lose-lose outcome? But I don't know the answer, because I clearly see that I also have their characteristics in myself, and I am the same good and evil among all living beings. When I wrote this, I thought of a sentence: "Everyone is going through hardships you can't imagine, and always have good intentions." Therefore, I can only hope that I have more imagination about the sufferings of others, can give more understanding, and can better understand the suffering of others. A lot of inclusion.
In the contradictions and conflicts of these four people, there is no absolute good person and no absolute bad person. Everyone has everyone's difficulties, everyone has everyone's pain. Everyone is good and everyone is evil. The world is not black and white, red or black, heroes or bears. At this point, it is meaningless to distinguish between right and wrong, who is right and who is wrong, and whether Temei chooses her mother or her father. Because the ups and downs in the film are us and our lives.
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