After reading it, I have a lot of thoughts, but I mainly want to talk about one of the interesting settings, that is, two people who love each other must have one thing in common to indicate that they are a "natural couple".
Compared with other strange settings, such as being an animal if a single match fails, this setting is not so absurd, and even normal in reality. But is this really normal?
In reality, we will inevitably like people who have something in common, for example, because we like the same kind of songs, the same director's work, or the same kind of sports, etc. These hobbies or characteristics. This kind of common hobby or the feeling that the trait promotes, I wonder, is this really a kind of love? If I only love the parts of him that are similar to me, what is the difference between me and Narcissus who is a daffodil? But it's all a fascination with self-reflection.
But someone has told me that if there is no common interest, then there is no common language. This sounds like a good reason. Don't talk about lovers, just talk about friends. Without a common language, it is difficult to continue the relationship.
But on second thought, it's just an excuse for not wanting to communicate with someone. You just don't want to go to him, go along with him, you don't think it's necessary, you prefer your own things. For example, my girlfriends and I have some common hobbies, but these common hobbies are not cultivated by our efforts to treat each other. It's just that they are willing to feel each other, learn to understand what the other person likes, and naturally become the same. It's not like some relationships have to spend time "finding common ground".
Psychologically, people who only love themselves are immature. A person with a sound personality should be someone who has the ability to love others. I don't mean to say that everyone must have positive energy, but learning to improve ourselves should be the practice of each of us.
So what I think really means to fall in love with others is to fall in love with some attributes that you don't have, and learn to accept and appreciate different perspectives.
In "Love at Dusk and Sunset", the heroine roughly said that she would be fascinated by the different qualities of each of his boyfriends, and these qualities were very subtle and indescribable. I think the heroine is really a typical person who "will love others", she is very good at discovering, accepting, and loving others.
Therefore, love really needs courage to be obtained, it needs the courage to accept new things, to challenge what you already have, to overthrow and rebuild. This is probably the reason why many people around me are afraid to enter a relationship.
After writing it, I feel that my thinking is really a science student, and my description of love is too unromantic.
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