Finally saw it in the cinema! To be honest, I'm very disgusted with the clichés of commenting that this film is too light, too dreamy, unreal, doesn't reflect gay social family pressures, etc. Because most people's first love is just a bubble, a dream, and there is always sadness in the aftertaste. Why should a gay film be expected to reflect the "real" life of gays? In my opinion, what reflects behind this attitude is not the limitations of the film, but why we always think about what is real with the tinted glasses of equality/oppression, pride/shame, freedom/pressure.
A friend kept recommending me to watch "When We Rise". I watched it three times on and off, but I still haven't finished it. I could watch a two-hour documentary about equality, but after one season, I really couldn't watch it, because It's not about my life, I don't see a shadow of myself. This film is deliberately placed in a seemingly isolated environment, even the location is unknown, somewhere in northern Italy, not a nightclub in New York, not a gayborhood in San Francisco, not a parade scene. Just like the feelings in the world, it happens among the fruit trees, in the pond, and on the trail. Love is a mountain, a water, a mist, a shared cigarette, the fear of loss when you wake up from a nap, and the fear of loss when you are separated from reality. , is awkward, pretends not to care, and is everyone.
But Oliver finally got married, didn't it reflect social pressure? I don't think Oliver's marriage means anything. He said that his parents would kill him. This is just an objective description. Intellectual parents like Elio's family (Dad seems to have a personal history of homosexuality) are rare after all. . Oiver said a lot of vague resistance, such as after the kiss in the field, he said but I want to be good; when tempting each other at the World War I site, he said you cannot talk about things like that; things that you are saying about what I think you are saying. If someone understands it in terms of the dark cabinet metaphor and puts it in the epistemology of the so-called visibility/invisibiilty, pride/shame, etc. of American white middle-class comrades, it is really exaggerated wishful thinking. In my opinion, this is just a normal feeling of being at a loss when facing emotions, avoiding and dodging. Even if Oliver thinks this is taboo and can't speak out loudly in the square, what does it mean?
But this movie is really very male-centric, with the ancient Greek statues flashing in the opening film, talking, Elio looks exactly like Giulia Medici; at the end of the film, Dad tells Elio that Mom can't see a man There is only "friendship" between them; girlfriends seem to be just the propellant of the emotional line. It seems to be in line with sedgewick's so-called between men, is this misogyny? (Comment from my rotten girlfriend who watched the movie with me) I don't know how to understand it yet.
I keep thinking of the small villages, scenery, desires, hillsides, fruit trees, summer nights, and bamboo forests where I grew up in my childhood. These are very, very far away from me, but there will be encounters and love in such a time and space, and I feel very natural. And after so many relationships, no matter coming out, campus or society, or first love, I think of it most often. The older I get, the more queer theory I learn, the more deeply involved in the discourse of identity politics, the more I feel that I can give Paying less and less, this is why, I don't know, this may be the reason why I cry for this movie.
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