In an age when pure love is becoming more and more like a joke, this film depicts a pure and perfect love.
What is perfect love?
There are three conditions for perfect love in my mind:
two people have become themselves, two living individuals with independent spirit and individuality, this has nothing to do with age, Elio is only 17 years old, but his self is already very vivid and charming;
completely A 100% pure love with no purpose and no strings attached, the body, the soul and the flesh attract each other. It is not a solution to loneliness and exploration, nor a one-sided love, but a complete and complete intimacy;
it ends abruptly. Together.
Why must it stop abruptly? Because 100% love means wanting to be infinitely close to each other and possessing each other endlessly is never satisfied, it can only stay in the moment, no one can bear it all the time; 100% love is flowing and alive, just like the most beautiful flower if you don’t break it and make it The eternal flower, or watch it wither day by day, stop abruptly to avoid the destruction and damage of love caused by the trivial life day after day, and achieve the so-called "perfection".
The movie stops at half a year later, Elio's face with tears and smiles after he learned about Oliver's marriage on the phone, and I don't know how many people on this side of the screen are crying with him. A youthful dream came to an abrupt end and came to an abrupt end. The audio-visual language of the film is beautiful and delicate, the actors' performances are superb, beautiful and heartbreaking, so perfect, it is enough.
But I also want to tell the story behind.
The film is adapted from the novel of the same name, which actually has a time span of more than 20 years.
Years later in love stories are the hardest to write. Yuanmeng revisiting is inevitably hypocritical, and ending with embarrassment and disillusionment or the sky is high and cloudy, maybe it is another kind of artificial and cliché. Fortunately, the novel is handled wonderfully, in line with the characters' personalities, in line with the logic of life, and it has not lived up to the touching light of love in the previous article.
Literature and movies are different carriers after all. In the novel, the author makes time give love a deeper texture. From the summer paradise of 17 years old to the real world of 37 years old, these two are loved and cursed by love. "People, love still shines through them.
In the days that followed, Elio experienced a lot of feelings, tried to cover and forget, and even convinced himself:
"...Oliver, who has been looming as the fulcrum of the balance for a long time, finally got many successors, who either made him eclipsed, or made him lose face. He was relegated to an early milestone, like an unimportant fork in the road, or a fiery asteroid on a journey beyond Pluto. Unexpectedly, I might say, when I met Oliver, I hadn't I met so-and-so, but without so-and-so in my life, I can’t imagine it at all.”
He thought he could go to see Oliver calmly. Fifteen years later, when he stopped by, when he really stood in front of Oliver, he had to admit it. , he didn't come out, never.
Elio's tangled psychological monologue at the reunion touched me more than when I was in love.
Oliver invited him to meet his wife and two sons for dinner at home.
Elio refused.
"...to see his family, it was so real, so sudden, so aggressive... I've been putting him in the eternal past for the past few years, seeing him as my past perfect lover, hanging in the shadows of the night of animal head stuffed, kept him on ice, and filled him with memories and mothballs. I occasionally took him out to dust him and put him back on the mantelpiece. He was no longer of earth or life. At this point I found that... in Nostalgia still hurts long, long after we stop thinking about things we've lost and maybe never cared about.
Or am I jealous of his family, of the life he made for himself, of the things I never shared and couldn't The things he knew. The things he longed for, loved, lost, the loss of these things had broken him, but these things were in his life, and when he had them, I was not there to witness, nor did I have them I know. I wasn't there when he got these things, and I wasn't there when he gave them up. . .
. For me, the past is alive and still reverberates with a voice that belongs entirely to the present..."
Another year has passed. This time, Oliver came to Italy to do business and stopped by Elio's old house. The place where they met when they were seventeen years old. At this time, the father, the old housekeeper, and the small town girl who had loved Oliver all passed away. Elio wanted to show him around. Oliver said that he remembered the way and everything. The way is both the way and the method. Elio said in his heart, if you really remember, you should also remember the way we agreed at the beginning—the two People agreed to call each other by their own names, which Elio had done before, but Oliver didn't respond.
The novel ends with Elio's inner monologue:
"I want to say: If you remember everything, and really are like me, before you leave tomorrow, or the moment you're about to close the taxi door, when you've said goodbye to everyone else, There's nothing else to say in this life, so, for once, turn around and face me, even in a joking tone, or as an afterthought - it could be important to me - just like you As you did in the past, look at my face, meet my eyes, and call me by your name."
Some friends prefer movies, but cannot accept that Oliver in the novel completely forgot the promise of exchanging names to call each other, This serves as proof of lack of love (I still remember Oliver's phone call in the movie to announce the marriage).
In fact, this is Oliver, whom Elio loves, the more mature one of the two, confident, arrogant, self-aware and restrained. He has not forgotten, but rationally, he has parallel lives that do not interfere with each other. When they reunited, he called seeing Elio awakened, and the time of separation was like being in a coma. The last sentence he said to Elio was that the "heart of hearts" he wrote after the postcard was the most sincere sentence in his life, and the next sentence was that I had to go home. He knew that what his true love was tied to could accept that he was sealed in his heart and not touched. He is like a cunning "wise man" who is in love but not at the mercy of love.
And Elio, the luckiest person is also the "cursed" person! He loves so thoroughly, so pure and even beyond his own imagination, there is no parallel life, Elio has only one life, the life of meeting Oliver and losing Oliver. There is no trivial life to wear, no one else can cover, no time to consume, the love for Oliver is the animal head specimen in the formalin, from the summer of 17 years old, hovering day and night in Elio's life , never added a point, never lost a point, and he never came out of this name in his life.
This is the gift, or the curse, of perfect love.
Ugh! To all who have ever had perfect love, may you have the wisdom of Oliver and be free from Elio.
And most of us, please cherish the 56, 17, 10 ordinary love in life, live happily, and occasionally cry like a dog in novels, movies, other people's stories, imagine this dazzling and dazzling Mystical power.
There are also some people who are unwilling to accept 56, 170%, and have been waiting for 100% love. I hope you will meet one day!
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