A Serious Man Quotes

Larry Gopnik: We're sitting shiva here.

Cop #1: You're *what*?

Larry Gopnik: A religious observance. We're... bereaved.

Cop #2: Who died?

Larry Gopnik: My wife's...

[breaks off]

Larry Gopnik: It's a long story.

Larry Gopnik: There's some mistake. I'm not a member of the Columbian Record Club.

Dick Dutton: Sir, you are Lawrence Gopnik of 8419 Fern Hill Road?

Larry Gopnik: No, I live at the Jolly Roger.

Dybbuk?: I shaved hastily this morning and missed a bit-by you this makes me a dybbuk? It's true, I was sick with typhus when I stayed with Peselle, but I recovered, as you can plainly see, and now I-hugh!

[She stabs him in the chest with an ice pick]

Dybbuk?: What a wife you have!

Shtetl Husband: Woman, what have you done?

Dybbuk?: Why would she do such a thing? I ask you, Velvel, as a rational man: which of us is possessed?

Shtetl Wife: What do you say now about spirits? He is unharmed!

Dybbuk?: On the contrary! I don't feel at all well.

[Blood begins to seep from his chest]

Dybbuk?: One does a mitzvah and this is the thanks one gets?

Shtetl Husband: Dora! Woe, woe! How can such a thing be!

Dybbuk?: Perhaps I will have some soup. I am feeling weak. Or perhaps I should go. One knows when one isn't wanted.

Shtetl Husband: Dear wife. We are ruined. Tomorrow they will discover the body. All is lost.

Shtetl Wife: Nonsense, Velvel. Blessed is the Lord. Good riddance to evil.

Larry Gopnik: So, uh, what can I do for you?

Clive Park: Uh, Dr. Gopnik, I believe the results of physics mid-term were unjust.

Larry Gopnik: Uh-huh, how so?

Clive Park: I received an unsatisfactory grade. In fact: F, the failing grade.

Larry Gopnik: Uh, yes. You failed the mid-term. That's accurate.

Clive Park: Yes, but this is not just. I was unaware to be examined on the mathematics.

Larry Gopnik: Well, you can't do physics without mathematics, really, can you?

Clive Park: If I receive failing grade I lose my scholarship, and feel shame. I understand the physics. I understand the dead cat.

Larry Gopnik: You understand the dead cat? But... you... you can't really understand the physics without understanding the math. The math tells how it really works. That's the real thing; the stories I give you in class are just illustrative; they're like, fables, say, to help give you a picture. An imperfect model. I mean - even I don't understand the dead cat. The math is how it really works.

Clive Park: Very difficult... very difficult...

Larry Gopnik: Well, I... I'm sorry, but I... what do you propose?

Clive Park: Passing grade.

Larry Gopnik: No no, I...

Clive Park: Or perhaps I can take the mid-term again. Now I know it covers mathematics.

Larry Gopnik: Well, the other students wouldn't like that, would they, if one student gets to retake the test till he gets a grade he likes?

Clive Park: Secret test.

Larry Gopnik: No, I'm afraid...

Clive Park: Hush-hush.

Larry Gopnik: No, that's just not workable. I'm afraid we'll just have to bite the bullet on this thing, Clive, and...

Clive Park: Very troubling... very troubling...

Clive's Father: Culture clash. Culture clash.

Larry Gopnik: With all respect, Mr. Park, I don't think it's that.

Clive's Father: Yes.

Larry Gopnik: No. It would be a culture clash if it were the custom in your land to bribe people for grades.

Clive's Father: Yes.

Larry Gopnik: So... you're saying it is the custom?

Clive's Father: No, this is a defamation. Grounds for lawsuit.

Larry Gopnik: Let me get this straight: you're threatening to sue me for defaming your son?

Clive's Father: Yes.

Larry Gopnik: But it would...

Mr. Brandt: Is this man bothering you?

Larry Gopnik: Is he bothering me? No. I, uh...

[Larry stares awkwardly at Brandt until he leaves]

Larry Gopnik: See... if it were defamation there would have to be someone I was defaming him to, or I... all right, I... let's keep it simple. I could pretend the money never appeared. That's not defaming anyone.

Clive's Father: Yes. And a passing grade.

Larry Gopnik: Passing grade.

Clive's Father: Yes.

Larry Gopnik: Or... you'll sue me.

Clive's Father: For taking money.

Larry Gopnik: So he *did* leave the money.

Clive's Father: This is defamation!

Larry Gopnik: It doesn't make sense. Either he left the money or he didn't.

Clive's Father: Please. Accept the mystery.

Larry Gopnik: You can't have it both ways!

Clive's Father: Why not?

Rabbi Scott: No, of course not. I am the junior rabbi. And it's true, the point-of-view of somebody who's older and perhaps had similar problems might be more valid. And you should see the senior rabbi as well, by all means. Or even Minda if you can get in, he's quite busy. But maybe - can I share something with you? Because I too have had the feeling of losing track of Hashem, which is the problem here. I too have forgotten how to see Him in the world. And when that happens you think, well, if I can't see Him, He isn't there any more, He's gone. But that's not the case. You just need to remember how to see Him. Am I right?

[He rises and goes to the window]

Rabbi Scott: I mean, the parking lot here. Not much to see. It is a different angle on the same parking lot we saw from the Hebrew school window. But if you imagine yourself a visitor, somebody who isn't familiar with these... autos and such... somebody still with a capacity for wonder... Someone with a fresh... perspective. That's what it is, Larry.

Larry Gopnik: Um...

Rabbi Scott: Because with the right perspective you can see Hashem, you know, reaching into the world. He is in the world, not just in shul. It sounds to me like you're looking at the world, looking at your wife, through tired eyes. It sounds like she's become a sort of... thing... a problem... a thing...

Larry Gopnik: Well, she's, she's seeing Sy Ableman.

Rabbi Scott: Oh.

Larry Gopnik: She's, they're planning, that's why they want the Gett.

Rabbi Scott: Oh. I'm sorry.

Larry Gopnik: It was his idea.

Rabbi Scott: Well, they do need a Gett to remarry in the faith. But this is life. For you too. You can't cut yourself off from the mystical or you'll be-you'll remain-completely lost. You have to see these things as expressions of God's will. You don't have to like it, of course.

Larry Gopnik: The boss isn't always right, but he's always the boss.

Rabbi Scott: Ha-ha-ha! That's right, things aren't so bad. Look at the parking lot, Larry.

[Rabbi Scott gazes out, marveling]

Rabbi Scott: Just look at that parking lot.

Larry Gopnik: She seems to be asking an awful lot. But then, I don't know. Somebody has to pay for Sy's funeral.

Rabbi Nachtner: Uh-huh.

Larry Gopnik: His own estate is in probate, but why does it have to be me? Or is it wrong to complain? Judy says it is. But I'm so strapped for cash right now, carrying the mortgage, and paying for the Jolly Roger, and I wrecked the car, and Danny's Bar Mitzvah coming up, I...

Rabbi Nachtner: Something like this... there's never a good time.

Larry Gopnik: I don't know where it all leaves me, Sy's death. Obviously it's not gonna go back like it was.

Rabbi Nachtner: Mm. Would you even want that, Larry?

Larry Gopnik: No, I- well, yeah... sometimes... or... I don't know; I guess the honest answer is "I don't know". What was my life before? Not what I thought it was. What does it all mean? What is Hashem trying to tell me, making me pay for Sy Ableman's funeral?

Rabbi Nachtner: Mm.

Larry Gopnik: And did I tell you I had a car accident the same time Sy had his? The same instant, for all I know. I mean, is Hashem telling me that Sy Ableman is me? Or that we are all one, or something?

Rabbi Nachtner: How does God speak to us? A good question.

Rabbi Nachtner: You know Lee Sussman.

Larry Gopnik: Doctor Sussman? I think I - yeah.

Rabbi Nachtner: Did he ever tell you about the goy's teeth?

Larry Gopnik: No... I- What goy?

Rabbi Nachtner: So... Lee is at work one day; you know he has the orthodontic practice there at Great Bear. He's making a plaster mold - it's for corrective bridge work - in the mouth of one of his patients, Russell Kraus. The mold dries and Lee is examining it one day before fabricating an appliance. He notices something unusual. There appears to be something engraved on the inside of the patient's lower incisors. He vav shin yud ayin nun yud. "Hwshy 'ny". "Help me, save me". This in a goy's mouth, Larry. He calls the goy back on the pretense of needing additional measurements for the appliance. "How are you? Noticed any other problems with your teeth?" No. There it is. "Hwshy 'ny". "Help me". Son of a gun. Sussman goes home. Can Sussman eat? Sussman can't eat. Can Sussman sleep? Sussman can't sleep. Sussman looks at the molds of his other patients, goy and Jew alike, seeking other messages. He finds none. He looks in his own mouth. Nothing. He looks in his wife's mouth. Nothing. But Sussman is an educated man. Not the world's greatest sage, maybe, no Rabbi Marshak, but he knows a thing or two from the Zohar and the Caballah. He knows that every Hebrew letter has its numeric equivalent. 8-4-5-4-4-7-3. Seven digits... a phone number, maybe? "Hello? Do you know a goy named Kraus, Russell Kraus?" Who? "Where have I called? The Red Owl in Bloomington. Thanks so much." He goes. It's a Red Owl. Groceries; what have you. Sussman goes home. What does it mean? He has to find out if he is ever to sleep again. He goes to see... the Rabbi Nachtner. He comes in, he sits right where you're sitting right now. "What does it mean, Rabbi? Is it a sign from Hashem, 'Help me'? I, Sussman, should be doing something to help this goy? Doing what? The teeth don't say. Or maybe I'm supposed to help people generally, lead a more righteous life? Is the answer in Caballah? In Torah? Or is there even a question? Tell me, Rabbi, what can such a sign mean?"

[pause as the Rabbi drinks his tea]

Larry Gopnik: So what did you tell him?

Rabbi Nachtner: Sussman?

Larry Gopnik: Yes!

Rabbi Nachtner: Is it... relevant?

Larry Gopnik: Well, isn't that why you're telling me?

Rabbi Nachtner: Okay. Nachtner says, look. The teeth, we don't know. A sign from Hashem? Don't know. Helping others... couldn't hurt.

Larry Gopnik: No! No, but... who put it there? Was it for him, Sussman, or for whoever found it, or for just, for, for...

Rabbi Nachtner: We can't know everything.

Larry Gopnik: It sounds like you don't know anything! Why even tell me the story?

Rabbi Nachtner: [chuckling] First I should tell you, then I shouldn't.

Larry Gopnik: What happened to Sussman?

Rabbi Nachtner: What would happen? Not much. He went back to work. For a while he checked every patient's teeth for new messages. He didn't find any. In time, he found he'd stopped checking. He returned to life. These questions that are bothering you, Larry - maybe they're like a toothache. We feel them for a while, then they go away.

Larry Gopnik: I don't want it to just go away! I want an answer!

Rabbi Nachtner: Sure! We all want the answer! But Hashem doesn't owe us the answer, Larry. Hashem doesn't owe us anything. The obligation runs the other way.

Larry Gopnik: Why does he make us feel the questions if he's not gonna give us any answers?

Rabbi Nachtner: He hasn't told me.

[Larry puts his face in his hands in despair]

Larry Gopnik: And... what happened to the goy?

Rabbi Nachtner: The goy? Who cares?

Larry Gopnik: We had, I think, a good talk, the other day, but you left something...

Clive Park: I didn't leave it.

Larry Gopnik: Well, you don't even know what I was gonna say.

Clive Park: I didn't leave anything. I'm not missing anything. I know where everything is.

Larry Gopnik: Well... then, Clive, where did this come from?

[raises his eyebrows]

Larry Gopnik: This is here, isn't it?

Clive Park: Yes, sir. That is there.

Larry Gopnik: This is not nothing; this is something.

Clive Park: Yes. That is something.

[a beat]

Clive Park: What is it?

Larry Gopnik: You know what it is! I believe. And you know I can't keep it, Clive.

Clive Park: Yes sir.

Larry Gopnik: I'll have to pass it on to Professor Finkle, along with my suspicions about where it came from. Actions have consequences.

Clive Park: Yes sir. Often.

Larry Gopnik: No, always! Actions always have consequences! In this office, actions have consequences!

Clive Park: Yes sir.

Larry Gopnik: Not just physics, morally.

Clive Park: Yes.

Larry Gopnik: And we both know about your actions.

Clive Park: No sir. I know about my actions.

Larry Gopnik: I can interpret, Clive. I know what you meant me to understand.

Clive Park: Meer sir my sir.

Larry Gopnik: Meer sir my sir?

Clive Park: [Careful enunciation] Mere... surmise. Sir. Very uncertain.

Sy Ableman: Do you drink wine? Because this is an incredible bottle. This is not Mogen David. This is a - heh heh - a wine, Larry. A Bordeaux.

Larry Gopnik: You know, Sy...

Sy Ableman: Open it. Let it breathe. Ten minutes. Letting it breathe, so important.

Larry Gopnik: Thanks, Sy, but I'm not...

Sy Ableman: I insist! No reason for discomfort. I'll be uncomfortable if you don't take it. These are signs and tokens, Larry.

Larry Gopnik: I'm just-I'm not ungrateful, I'm, I just don't know a lot about wine and, given our respective, you know...

[Sy abruptly hugs him]

Sy Ableman: S'okay. S'okay. We're gonna be fine.

Arlen Finkle: We, uh, we decide on Wednesday, so if there's anything you want to submit in support of your tenure application, we should have it by then. That's all.

Larry Gopnik: Submit. What. What do you...

Arlen Finkle: Well. Anything. Published work. Anything else you've done outside of the institution. Any work that we might not be aware of.

Larry Gopnik: I haven't done anything.

Arlen Finkle: Uh-huh.

Larry Gopnik: I haven't published.

Arlen Finkle: Uh-huh.

Larry Gopnik: Are you still getting those letters?

Arlen Finkle: Uh-huh.

Larry Gopnik: Those anonymous...

Arlen Finkle: Yes, I know. Yes.

Larry Gopnik: Okay. Okay. Wednesday.

Arlen Finkle: Okay. Don't worry. Doing nothing is not bad. Ipso facto.

Friend at the Picnic: Sometimes these things just aren't meant to be. And it can take a while before you feel what was always there, for better or worse.

Larry Gopnik: I never felt it! It was a bolt from the blue! What does that mean! Everything that I thought was one way turns out to be another.

Friend at the Picnic: Then-it's an opportunity to learn how things really are. I'm sorry-I don't mean to sound glib. It's not always easy, deciphering what God is trying to tell you.

Larry Gopnik: I'll say.

Friend at the Picnic: But it's not something you have to figure out all by yourself. We're Jews, we have that well of tradition to draw on, to help us understand. When we're puzzled we have all the stories that have been handed down from people who had the same problems.

Larry Gopnik: Please. I need help. I've already talked to the other rabbis. Please. It's not about Danny's bar mitzvah - my boy Danny, this coming Shabbos, very joyous event, that's all fine. It's, it's more about myself, I've... I've had quite a bit of tsuris lately. Marital problems, professional, you name it. This is not a frivolous request. This is a ser- I'm a ser- I'm, uh, I've tried to be a serious man, you know? Tried to do right, be a member of the community, raise the- Danny, Sarah, they both go to school, Hebrew school, a good breakfast... Well, Danny goes to Hebrew school, Sarah doesn't have time, she mostly... washes her hair. Apparently there are several steps involved, but you don't have to tell Marshak that. Just tell him I need help. Please? I need *help*.

[the secretary rises, goes to the door behind her, opens it, shuffles into the dimness where she speaks quietly with the aged rabbi, who is idle. She shuffles back, closes the door and sits down]

Marshak's Secretary: The rabbi is busy.

Larry Gopnik: He didn't look busy!

Marshak's Secretary: He's thinking.

Judith Gopnik: We shouldn't put the kids in the middle of this, Larry.

Larry Gopnik: The kids aren't...

Judith Gopnik: I'm saying "we." I'm not pointing fingers.

Larry Gopnik: No one is playing the "blame game," Larry.

Larry Gopnik: I didn't say anyone was!

Judith Gopnik: Well let's not play He said, She said, either.

Larry Gopnik: I wasn't! I-...

Sy Ableman: Aw right, well let's just step back, and defuse the situation, I find, sometimes, if I count to ten.

[pause]

Sy Ableman: One... two... three... faw... Or silently.

[Long pause]

Judith Gopnik: Really, to keep things on an even keel, especially now, leading up to Danny's bar mitzvah...

Sy Ableman: A child's bar mitzvah, Larry!

Judith Gopnik: Sy and I think it's best if you move out of the house.

Larry Gopnik: Move out?

Sy Ableman: It makes eminent sense.

Judith Gopnik: Things can't continue as they...

Larry Gopnik: Move out! Where would I go?

Sy Ableman: Well, for instance, the Jolly Roger is quite livable. Not expensive, and the rooms are eminently habitable.

Judith Gopnik: This would allow you to visit the kids.

Sy Ableman: There's convenience in its fava. There's a pool...

Larry Gopnik: Wouldn't it make more sense for you to move in with Sy?

Judith Gopnik: [Shocked pause] Larry!

Sy Ableman: Larry, you're jesting!

Judith Gopnik: Larry, there is much to accomplish before that can happen.

Sy Ableman: Larry, Larry, Larry. I think, really, the Jolly Roger is the appropriate coss of action. It has a pool.

Judith Gopnik: Look, I didn't know any other way of breaking it to you. Except to tell you. And treat you like an adult. Is that so wrong?

Larry Gopnik: Where do I sleep?

Judith Gopnik: What?

Larry Gopnik: Arthur's on the couch!

Judith Gopnik: Look. Sy feels that we should...

Larry Gopnik: Esther is barely cold!

Judith Gopnik: Esther died three years ago. And it was a loveless marriage. Sy wants a get.

Larry Gopnik: A what?

Judith Gopnik: A ritual divorce. He says it's very important. Without a get I'm an agunah.

Larry Gopnik: A what? What are you talking about?

Judith Gopnik: You always act so surprised. I have begged you to see the Rabbi.

Judith Gopnik: You know the problems you and I have been having.

Larry Gopnik: Mm.

Judith Gopnik: Well, Sy and I have become very close. In short, I think it's time to start talking about a divorce.

Larry Gopnik: Sy Ableman?

Judith Gopnik: This is not about Sy.

Larry Gopnik: You mentioned Sy!

Judith Gopnik: Don't twist my words. We...

Larry Gopnik: A divorce-what have I done! I haven't done anything- What have I done!

Judith Gopnik: Larry, don't be a child. You haven't "done" anything. I haven't "done" anything.

Larry Gopnik: Yes! Yes! We haven't done anything! And I-I'm probably about to get tenure.

Judith Gopnik: Nevertheless, there have been problems. As you know.

Larry Gopnik: Well...

Judith Gopnik: And things have changed. And then-Sy Ableman. Sy has come into my life. And now...

Larry Gopnik: Come into your-what does that mean? You, you, you, you barely know him!

Judith Gopnik: We've known the Ablemans for fifteen years.

Larry Gopnik: Yes, but you you said we hadn't done anything!

Judith Gopnik: I haven't done anything. This is not some flashy fling. This is not about woopsy-doopsy.

Larry Gopnik: Sy Ableman!

Rabbi Marshak: When the truth is found. To be lies.

[the rabbi clears his throat]

Rabbi Marshak: And all the hope. Within you dies. Then what?

[the rabbi clears his throat again]

Rabbi Marshak: Grace Slick. Marty Balin. Paul Kanta. Jorma...

Danny Gopnik: Kaukonen.

Rabbi Marshak: ...something. These are the membas of the Airplane. Interesting. Here.

[He gives Danny back his radio]

Rabbi Marshak: Be a good boy.

Judith Gopnik: We shouldn't put the kids in the middle of this.

Larry Gopnik: The kids aren't...

Judith Gopnik: I'm saying "we". I'm not pointing fingers.

Sy Ableman: No one is playing the blame game, Larry.

Larry Gopnik: I didn't say anyone was.

Judith Gopnik: Well, let's not play "he said, she said", either.

Larry Gopnik: I wasn't! I...

Sy Ableman: Aw right, well let's just step back, and defuse the situation. I find, sometimes, if I count to ten...

[grasps Larry's wrists]

Sy Ableman: One... two... three... four... or silently...

[Sy counts silently]

Judith Gopnik: Really, to keep things on an even keel leading up to Danny's bar mitzvah...

Sy Ableman: Child's bar mitzvah, Larry.

Judith Gopnik: ...Sy and I think it's best if you move out of the house.

Larry Gopnik: ...Move out?

Sy Ableman: Well, it makes eminent sense.

Judith Gopnik: Things can't continue as they...

Larry Gopnik: Move out? Where would I go?

Sy Ableman: Well, for instance, the Jolly Roger is quite livable. It's not expensive, the rooms are eminently habitable...

Judith Gopnik: This would allow you to visit the kids.

Sy Ableman: It has convenience in its favor, they've got a pool...

Larry Gopnik: Wouldn't it make more sense for you to move in with Sy?

[pause]

Judith Gopnik: [stunned] Larry.

Sy Ableman: Larry... you, you *are* jesting? I think really, the Jolly Roger is the appropriate course of action.

[first lines]

Shtetl Husband: What a marvel... what a marvel.

[last lines]

Danny Gopnik: Hey, Fagle! Fagle, I got your...

Larry Gopnik: Well, you know, the way I look at it, it's an opportunity for me to really sit down and figure things out and look at the world afresh instead of just, you know, settling for the routine, tired old way of looking at things.

Divorce Lawyer: Really?

Larry Gopnik: I don't know. Maybe not.